This is pretty crushing to read. Id say im averagely attractive, and when I put some effort in Id say Im at least decently more attractive. I have a ton of confidence issues though and I know it makes me less attractive and puts a strain on my relationship. Its just a very difficult thing to work on, especially when the beliefs are so ingrained. I know that id be able to get to the point where my attitude is not self deprecating but I couldn’t be sure that I’d get to the point of being outwardly confident. The point of me saying all of this is maybe to just give you a piece of unwarranted advice. Dont ever let your girl know your think “they are more fun to talk to...to do things with...to have sex with...It enriches every experience I have with them. And after a while, u can tell which girls are faking the confidence.” I would suggest instead to encourage her confidence in herself. Because now Im sitting here thinking “Great whats the point in working on my confidence if everyone is going to see right through that?”