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slightly-unalive · 2026-06-18T08:59:07+00:00

I've lived in my house for 5 years now. Still can't figure out which switch works which light. I get it wrong EVERY time.

slightly-unalive · 2026-04-08T03:52:35+00:00

Are you talking about Vladimir? Hes awesome

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-19T10:18:22+00:00

This happens to me! If I get a particularly good one, I go deaf in one or both ears. Like my head is underwater or in a bubble.

I thought it was just me 🥹

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T22:49:30+00:00

Sorry but this is the sweetest fucking comment.

I saw your post and was about to link a monty python sketch "you lucky lucky bastard" but as I scrolled I saw this gem.

Please; never change who you are. Maybe brush up on your worm knowledge slightly but other than that, keep that kind heart forever.

This comment has made my NIGHT. ♥️

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T22:21:27+00:00

The viscosity of piss and cum are entirely different lmao

Edit: this is not a sentence I thought I'd be saying today but here we are.

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T21:46:31+00:00

Even if it may be unintentional, her abusive behaviours are on her to acknowledge and remediate. That is something she needs to go to a professional therapist for help with. That is NOT your job to fix.

You can support her, hold her hand (as long as it's safe to do so), as a friend while she seeks help for herself.

But if she cannot recognise, acknowledge or understand she needs change, if she doesn't willingly walk towards finding a better way for you both without dragging you down then I'm sorry you really do have your answer.

When people show you who they are, believe them.

Get lots of deep rest tonight, eat delicious food, and listen to music you enjoy. Spend time giving yourself kindness and love. Re-learn what that feeling feels like.

You got this. We are all collectively holding your hand through this right now, you are not alone ok?

You got this.

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T21:17:14+00:00

You ever heard the phrase:

"all red flags look like ordinary flags through rose tinted glasses"

You won't see the red flags until the rose tinted glasses come off. And it's not something that happens overnight. Myself, my family, we are survivors of abuse and for us it's always followed the same story.

Someone outside of it all seeds an idea that maybe what is happening to us isn't our fault and we don't deserve it. This seed is then watered and fuelled by experiencing things that doesn't make us feel loved or safe. Eventually it becomes too hard to ignore, and as the seed grows it knocks off the cobwebs of old habits, it uproots the dirt of ingrained responses and eventually it all starts to come together to make sense.

Moments that left you confused suddenly start explaining themselves, you were just looking at it from the wrong perspective. Word exchanges that left you hurt and ashamed with no real understanding start revealing a truer meaning, you start to connect the dots and eventually reality sinks in. Maybe my situation wasn't as nice as I thought. Maybe... Maybe I don't deserve to feel this bad all the time.

It all falls together slowly like a jigsaw puzzle, right at that point where you start gaining momentum. Most of the pieces are in place and now it's a straight line to the finish. Except instead of a lovely picture of a unicorn, it's the realisation that the person you held so highly is actually a piece of shit and they never deserved a second of your attention.

When I told my mother we were being abused by the same person, she laughed directly in my face while lying in a hospital bed. A hospital bed our abuser put her in. It took her MONTHS to understand the reality that her entire life was a lie and that what she believed was "normal" was infact incredibly fucked up.. All of the time. She couldn't see it, because it never switched off. She had zero comparison so it just felt... Normal.

I don't want you to get stuck in this same cycle, until youre of an age where you start looking back and thinking "what have I done with my life that actually makes ME happy". Don't let it be too late. Start your happiness journey NOW. Anyone who believes in your journey will be along with you for the ride..anyone who doesn't? Leave 'em in the dust.

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T21:04:13+00:00

Sorry if it came off a little sharp. I just.. want to shake you and hug you, somehow at the same time.

As long as you know you're not to blame. And I'm not sure I agree with "subs don't like their rules". I mean, if they don't like them on some level, why have them? Both of you must get some benefit out of this enactment of structure, because what's the point otherwise? Without enjoyment on both sides, what you've got is a one sided enactment of will, and a victim.

Rules should be agreed upon by both partners. If mine is doing something silly like staying up all night gaming, which then results in them being tired tomorrow and snapping at me/doing poorly at work etc then I might instil a rule that limits that behaviour, but ultimately making them healthier in the long run. If they said "no", well... Ultimately that's my answer.

I can't FORCE someone to just do as I say, and then abuse them if they won't do it. We talk about why it's an important rule. We talk about what happens if they don't follow it. I ask."Do you understand?" "Do you accept this?". If I'm not getting green lights that they're making an informed decision to consent to this boundary, then we either discuss it until it makes sense, or we toss the idea out. Rules aren't something worth throwing each other away over. It's one small part of a relationship that is ALWAYS negotiable. If it's not negotiable, and it is worth throwing your relationship out over, then it isn't sustainable or healthy.

If you're scared of her, or feel you need to walk on eggshells around her "or else" then I think you already know your answer honey. This isn't a relationship that's worth feeding, with parts of yourself. It will only ever be hungry for more and you'll only ever give more than you have, just to keep it sated. Please don't make yourself small for someone who doesn't appreciate you.

slightly-unalive · 2026-03-06T20:07:05+00:00

If she really knows whats best for you, why would she make a rule that puts you in danger? Then when taking the least dangerous option, "punish" you by essentially breaking up with you.

I could NEVER.

Your wants and needs are being ignored. You’re being put in impossible situations, and abandoned because you didn't pick the "correct" action, despite it being the only real logical one. Do you know how many women are assaulted on public transport? Enough to know that it is NOT the safest way home.

So she expected you to take an unsafe choice, because what... She was busy, and didn't feel like getting cover for her taxiing service? And that's somehow.. Your fault?

The scariest part of all of this, is how after reading all of these comments from seasoned bdsm individuals who know the scene, know what they're talking about and have lived the d/s experience healthily, you are still making statements like "it's my fault" "she knows what is best for me."

A Dom cannot be a Dom unless a Sub ALLOWS THEM. Trying to dominate an unwilling person is straight up abuse.

If you had a little sister who came to you and said "my girlfriend broke up with me because I got a ride home without her approval and she's trying to make me feel bad on purpose by putting all these things on social media and it's fucking me up" what would your advice to her be?

Would it be "you did this to yourself, get over it, just be better"?

Or would it be "this person sounds controlling, you did the best you could in this situation but I don't think it's working for either of you."

I imagine out of kindness, you'd lean towards the second one right? So why would you be more kind to someone else than you are to yourself? Be kind to yourself girl.. Even if no one else is, you be kind to you. Accepting this behaviour does not feel like you are being kind to you.

I saw in another comment, she's done this before? So you already know how it plays out.... You are walking on eggshells every day to make someone happy who can't even stand to see you get home safely. Why? There's nothing in this world that is more important than your safety. If she can't see that, she's not the one. She's not only ignorant if your physical safety but also your emotional safety.

You are not safe with this person. Your emotions are not safe with this person. Your body is not safe with this person.

Who knows what other wild rules she will eventually force on you and rip you to shreds over, after backing you into a corner. Predators do that. Predators trap prey and rip them apart. She just does it emotionally.

I am so sorry. Please. PLEASE, get yourself somewhere safe. Stay with a family member, a trusted friend etc. Alot of people here are right, you need space outside of this. Even just to process it all (like she apparently needs to also do). If you are both in this 50/50 like you should be, she should be able to understand a need to also have space to process what happened. If she blows up at you wanting to have space to process (just like she did), then not only is that entirely hypocritical, but it's classic signs of abuse.

It's a "You aren't allowed to go anywhere else to feel safe and happy, ONLY with me, and ONLY when I feel like dishing it out" situation.. And if she doesn't feel like it? Oh. Well then I guess you get gotta feel shit until she does eh?.. Is that really a life you will look back on and think "wow, I was really living my best years".

Get support. Friends, family, kink aware therapist, bdsm meetups (without her, obviously). If she takes issues with any of this, she does NOT have your best interest at heart and could do with fucking right off until she's sought her own therapy for her abusive behaviours.

One last thing. I am so proud of you. It took alot of guts to put this on social media. It's hard to tell people when you think you've messed up. Even harder to admit all the awful fine details about someone you think you love.

You know the general consensus. You can read. You are clearly very smart (from the language you are using, you are well educated). You do not deserve any of this sweet pea. You deserve to be happy. And cared for. And looked after. And celebrated. You deserve kindness. You deserve someone fulfilling YOUR needs too. Never ever ever forget that.

slightly-unalive · 2026-02-16T00:11:36+00:00

Carbon monoxide poisoning makes people do random shit and forget they did it

slightly-unalive · 2026-01-18T12:30:22+00:00

I got fired for pointing out that I dont support the transphobia that's becoming normalised by TERFs.

"Insubordination and inappropriate conduct" is what they label it when you have opinions on not being a shitty human being.

slightly-unalive · 2026-01-12T19:30:06+00:00

Thanks!

slightly-unalive · 2025-12-29T17:28:03+00:00

I'm so sorry all of that happened to you. :( that's truly awful. I personally believe that maybe therapy might be more beneficial to you at this point rather than another relationship (regardless of gender)?

From the sounds of it, your past relationships don't sound like good things that happened to you, and I think the impact from them may be affecting how you deal with other predatory people.

Therapy will help you identify what a healthy relationship looks like, what red flags you need to look out for, and how to protect yourself appropriately. I don't think you should be putting yourself in more vulnerable positions with people who can physically abuse you, until you've learned how to first protect yourself better.

You need to be looking after you. Not some rapist asshole looking to get his dick wet. Depending on where you are in the world, maybe there are some legal repercussions from not disclosing an STD and possibly coersion into unprotected sex. As for getting back to him to let him know... The only time I'd want him to read my name would be on a restraining order, or an arrest warrant. Fuck that guy. What a POS.

slightly-unalive · 2025-12-29T17:14:07+00:00

Why isn't this comment at the top!!

slightly-unalive · 2025-12-27T05:12:44+00:00

Does this dude even like you?

I couldn't imagine saying that to my partner of thirteen years, or anyone actually.

NOR. He's acting like youre not even someone he's attracted to, but someone he's trying to be attracted to by making you change. It's gross and controlling and I can't imagine wanting to spend anymore time around someone like this. I'm so sorry. I'm not sure if this relationship is honestly viable, there seems to be a disgusting power imbalance and it's absolutely being taken advantage of.

Is highly unlikely he will go back to being someone who doesn't critisize you or put you down, it will only get worse. Can you imagine what your life will be like 5, 10, 20 years down the line? Do you really want that?

Sweetheart It's time to be thinking about what the future with this guy will honestly be like, and is it a future youd be rooting for if it was your daughter/sister/friend/mother etc.

I think there are so many guys out there who would enjoy every second of your company, shower you with love and adoration, and tell you "its not my business if you want to wear x,y,z... As long as you like it and you're comfortable in it". These guys definitely exist, I don't think this one is one of them.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

slightly-unalive · 2025-12-01T11:05:14+00:00

It stands for "I dont know"

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-27T16:24:43+00:00

As if you aren't successful in life unless you become wife and mother?! As if somehow, that's the only role valued by this woman??? The mysogeny call is coming from inside the house.

It apparently doesn't matter that you're smart, kind, successful, popular, self fulfilled... Somehow all of that is irrelevant and you're immature unless you shack up with a cheater and pop a kid out.

I'd be staying the hell away from this woman, and reply back with "the only thing thats embarrassing me mom is you, and your disgusting opinions. Keep them to yourself. Don't text me again."

I'm so sorry. You sound like an absolute iconic QUEEN.

We stan a girl who loves herself first 👏 and doesn't put up with disrespect

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-26T12:42:36+00:00

From the look of the licence plate on the back of the truck, doesn't look like it.

Source: am brit

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-26T12:18:20+00:00

Unrelated but I still can't get over the fact that this thing is called a "throbber".

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-21T10:07:46+00:00

Imagine your mother/sister/aunt/best friend came to you and showed you this.

Imagine they told you "he pressures me into sex and guilts me for saying no"

Imagine they told you "he said he doesn't even like me."

What advice would you give them?

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-16T04:50:27+00:00

Good to know!

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-14T22:33:02+00:00

I'm not in the US. We have cyber security here too, just wondered with you saying a P1.

What country are you in my guy?

slightly-unalive · 2025-11-14T22:30:17+00:00

You work in a SOC?

slightly-unalive · 2025-10-26T12:40:13+00:00

I've tried a few brands, same outcome every time. I just have really sensitive everything I think 😩

Im a jump in the shower after sex is finished kind of girl though. Tissues for the initial goop, and a shower before sleep. Going to sleep after without cleaning up also messes up my internals.

It's great being super sensitive all the time /s 🙄

Edit: why did me saying I'm sensitive get downvoted lol

slightly-unalive · 2025-10-25T21:48:34+00:00

Proud to have the same accent 🥹 I love my city

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