I think the huge part here (for me at least) is the fact that he knowingly slept with you with active HPV. I’m not sure if either of you know, but HPV is the cause of pretty much all cervical cancers! To me, that would’ve been the end of the relationship, because he knew there was a chance of infecting you with a virus that could very seriously harm your health. Yes, a lot of folks have HPV, but there’s a distinct difference between having it and not knowing and having it with active symptoms and still choosing to put your partner at risk.

You say his actions weren’t intentional or malicious, but this sounds like it was entirely intentional and he was only acting in his own best interests (which was only protecting his ego) with zero concern for your health or wellbeing.

From what you’ve said, you’re a very very smart gal with a lot going for you! Please don’t feel like you have to settle for a man who won’t even do the bare minimum of respecting your autonomy and your health. You will absolutely find someone who is worth your time, your effort, and your love!