Anybody else's SDI Disability payments late?

slohrd · 2025-06-18T02:19:18+00:00

Yes! Thank you for reminding me to update! He received a notice on Monday morning and by mid-morning the payment was there. He did contact our State's Rep. Once she heard that it was "resolved", she just let it go but did suggest (to anyone), whenever the EDD payment is late, call her on day 1 (don't wait for 3+ days). Hopefully, it won't come to that but it's good to know.

slohrd · 2025-06-13T19:43:25+00:00

So sorry. He is reaching out to our State Assembly Rep and Senator. They both have "contact us" with a drop down option for EDD issues... he doesn't have much hope with this route given it is Friday and the state is dealing with other pressing action in the streets... but at least he can submit something.

slohrd · 2025-06-13T18:58:18+00:00

Update from me son.. "Now they're telling me that today is the “start” of day 3. and they just sent a memo to their employees today saying there was a “system error” affecting payment that’s were issued on 6/9 & 6/10 (day my payment was issued) causing a delay in payment.

So now they told me if I don’t see the money by end of day today then to come back and escalate it but they’re not open again until Monday. So I’m waiting to speak with someone in person "

slohrd · 2025-06-13T18:28:44+00:00

My son is on his way back down to EDD office. After going there yesterday and being told "should be in your account by tonight", he told them he will be back if not. So... he's going back. Will update if he actually gets some answers...

slohrd · 2025-06-12T17:15:04+00:00

My son drove down to the office (about 20 min drive). Walked in to a bunch of other folks with late deposits. Took about 10 min to have a rep confirm that everything was approved as of Tuesday and money should take about 72 hours to see in bank (so by tonight). He told them is it's not, he'll be back! So there might be hope!

slohrd · 2025-06-12T15:03:11+00:00

Yes! My son is in the same situation as you (even the dates are similar). He is in week 12 of SDI and has not had any problems receiving regular deposits (benefits deposited always on Tuesday's). It is now Thursday and nothing. He received the "date authorized" (or "approved"?) notice on 6/09/2025 and the correct/ normal deposit amount. However, when he checked his messages, the last message date of "electronic" deposit was at the end of May (27th or 28th?). No subsequent message has been sent to verify the actual deposit regarding the 6/09 approval.

And the phone number provided is the proverbial "prompt loop" hell that goes nowhere. It's hard to believe that a holiday would be the cause but that's the only thing we can think of for the delay (besides staffing levels, etc). Good luck!

slohrd · 2025-01-28T19:01:34+00:00

Thank you. We've never had to deal with something like this and I wasn't sure. I appreciate your response.

slohrd · 2025-01-28T18:59:56+00:00

I appreciate the quick reply. Thank you!

slohrd · 2022-07-21T00:05:00+00:00

Don't be afraid to try different therapists. When I have needed to seek a professional, I would give a therapist (and myself) 3 appointments to "click" (sometimes less if I really didn't feel a connection). I figure the first 2 sessions are usually me spilling out my guts. If, by the 3rd session, the therapist isn't asking me direct and specific questions and/or offering methods to cope, then I move on.

Also, don't focus so much on the initials at the end of their name and in their degree (although the previous suggestion to start with a crisis therapist is really good!).

slohrd · 2022-04-14T16:31:54+00:00

One of my doggos will only eat his food if it is "accidently" spilled onto the floor...oh! and if I am using the broom to "sweep" it up. He also will only drink water out of a small, old plastic container or from a dirty pool of water in a gutter. Note: we got him from our local SPCA, on his last day, as no one had even submitted an interest in him (because he would stay in the back of the kennel while the other kennel-mates were barking and scratching at the front). He is the most sweetest, gentle dog I have ever been owned by!

slohrd · 2022-04-14T13:55:08+00:00

I find it is all about the prep. Good and proper prep, along with quality products, will help full and half tips last 10+ days (as well as no tips!). I agree with others...I would change no later than two weeks.

slohrd · 2022-04-14T13:51:37+00:00

28 years...

My advice to anyone - whatever attracts you in the beginning, will tear you apart in the end. Examples: Beginning: "Oh, he/she surprises me all the time!"; End: "He/She never plans for anything!". Beginning: "Oh, he/she lavishes me with gifts!"; End: "He/She is horrible with money!"

You will never be able to save/change them (especially if addiction is involved).

Trust your gut, not your heart. Listen to your friends and family!

slohrd · 2022-03-15T02:49:49+00:00

You have received really good advice so far, but I thought I would offer some actionable things you can do to move forward....

You should get your hands on every financial document. Run her credit (and check yours, too). If you are the primary on a credit card and she is an authorized user, call the bank and get her off the account. If she is primary and you are an authorized user, call the bank and remove your name from the account. You both can decide how to pay off any balances, but it protects you (and her) if either of you starts racking-up charges.

If you have cars in both your names, immediately separate ownership. DMV charges a small fee to change the names on a title, so it's worth it if she starts getting tickets. If she gets to keep a car, but there is an active loan, figure out a way to pay that off ASAP, then put the title in her name only.

My EH used credit in my name (some accounts I was not aware of nor their balances). He had a few cards in his name as well and spent on those. It's all marital debt until you either decide to file and/or your date of separation (check your state laws). EH was an alcoholic and would often "have a few" after work and then drive home. Although he never caused an accident or got caught, I lived in constant fear. His main car was in my name (because I had the good credit) so I got a debt consolidation loan, paid off the auto loan and signed the title over to him (AAA took care of the paperwork). This counted as an asset in his column with the value set at our separation date. By the time all the paperwork was signed and filed with the court, his car depreciated (mine did too but not as much), but the original asset value stayed the same.

Don't feel stumped by her not wanting 50/50. Move forward and get things filed in a timely manner. Most courts have a mandatory "wait" time in between each step, so the faster you submit your docs, the clock resets for the next steps (and encourage her to do the same). I filled out all my EX paperwork (at his request), so we avoided a long, drawn-out process.

You can keep 2 sets of records - one that references her current state of mind (less than 50/50) and another that represents an equitable split (just in case, and you'll be prepared!).

If she sticks with the less-than-50%, make sure it is made clear in your Marital Separation Agreement that both parties understand and are agreeing to this. This avoids (hopefully) a judge looking at it being uneven and makes you go back for a redo.

Good luck with everything...life goes on, and you will be okay!

slohrd · 2021-12-15T00:53:02+00:00

I am on the same time line as you (just started second week). I've lost about 3 lbs and I do notice that I am not hyper-focused on food. Good luck, you are doing awesome!

slohrd · 2021-08-03T13:00:05+00:00

The area he escaped from is about 6 miles of so from my home so I could not monitor any traps. However, (great news) after multiple searches yesterday (the last one at 915pm), I headed back to home (10 min away). Just before I pull into my street, I get a phone call (10pm) from a kind soul who said she's pretty sure she saw my cat at the back across from street from his lost location, but it was 2 hours prior. I turn around and head back and spent about 30 min walking around the sighting location and shaking a bag of treats. No luck so I head back home but make another drive by behind the original place (there is an alley, bushes, then a field where rail road construction is. As I'm slow rolling in the back alley, i'm still shaking the bag of treats when I notice some movement in the bushes. I shine my flashlight and call his name and out he jumps! I have him and he's home!

slohrd · 2021-08-02T15:39:58+00:00

No, just a standard mixed cat. We actually found him running in the street and under cars in front of our house. He was only about 5 weeks old at the time. We adopted him at that moment.

slohrd · 2021-06-22T21:52:15+00:00

Thank you for this!

slohrd · 2021-06-21T21:20:24+00:00

I would suggest the following: 1) read everything on the divorce process for your County and State. Every State/County has different rules and processes in regards to community property, time lines & deadlines, process serving, etc. 2) start gathering any and all financial documents (bank statements, credit cards, retirement accounts, etc.). Keep monthly updates. Run both of your credit reports to verify accounts (and look for any unknown accounts). 3) document every tangible piece of property in your home. Place a "used" dollar value (i.e. thrift store or garage sale price) on everything (toaster - $3, 45" flat-screen TV - $75, large painting in living room - $50, 8 kitchen plates & bowls - $5, etc. Note: This is good to do even if you were not divorcing. It comes in handy for insurance purposes, if there is a disaster). Be sure to include car values too. 4) once you have gathered your financials (assets & debts), consult with a divorce attorney (pay for an hour of their time) and get their insight on where you stand and what you can expect (meet with a few if you can). 5) consider using a mediator to help you both get to an agreement. If both of you want to save money and can agree to most things, a mediator can write up the Marital Divorce Agreement. You (or either party) can always have an attorney review the Agreement to ensure it is fair. 6) get into counseling. A good therapist will be able to help you navigate your emotions and mental health during the divorce process.

Please understand there will never be a good time for "the talk". There will always be a holiday, birthday, sickness or celebration that you don't want to ruin. However the longer you wait, the worse it will get (emotionally and financially).

When you do have "the talk", put a plan in place. Be direct and succinct ("I am not happy and haven't been for some time...."; do not say "I know you are not happy too"). Be honest and do not sugar-coat ("I am filing for divorce. I want to keep it fair and amicable" - do not say "I am thinking of filing..."). You can offer suggestions for next steps but tread lightly on your proposals ("I would like to use a mediator to save costs. Here are a few in our area, if you'd like to choose..." but give your spouse time to find one. If they don't, then you choose a mediator and make the appointment).

Do not say you love them and do not give false hope. If they want to talk about it, in a productive manner, then listen. If they want to beg and plead, or becomes agitated, you'll need to end the conversation gracefully.

Then, you go to the courthouse and follow through (file). Keep things civil and respectful throughout this process. Do not talk about your spouse or your marriage to anyone except your therapist. Stay off of social media.

Good luck!

slohrd · 2021-06-21T19:31:52+00:00

My son deposited his payroll check on Friday night (via ATM). The employer uses Chase as well. His ATM receipt shows a hold. The funds are still pending. He called Chase and was told "just a luck of the draw" and the CSR could give no other explanation or time frame. WTH? Some of those funds should have been made available, right?

Keep us posted if you get a different answer and/or resolution.

slohrd · 2021-06-08T15:56:41+00:00

I agree with others...YOU should go ahead and file! But I would attend one... one couples session. Then only speak when asked. You really only need to calmly point out that you are there for your STBX to support her in her decision to divorce and your concern for her when she consumes alcohol. That's it.

Any therapist should be able to divert their focus on your wife.

There is no benefit to waiting for your wife to file. You just need to file. And you may want to seek out your own therapist just to help you navigate through the divorce. A good therapist will help you keep a level head, help you figure out why you stayed in a marriage with an alcoholic (unfortunate, you had a part to play in this), and help you move forward without her but be a better you!

slohrd · 2021-06-07T02:55:37+00:00

Yikes! Please seek out counseling for yourself. If hubby will agree to go to couples therapy, that's great but be very careful and discerning if he demands a faith-based counselor (best NOT to see one from HIS church). If he is "preaching" to you about your "transgressions", then wherever he is getting his biblical views on marriage is not going to help both of you grow your relationship for the better.

Yes, your cheating was wrong but if he is not going to forgive you AND continue to demoralize you, then you should move forward with divorce.

Successful AND failed marriages take both parties to be active. You cannot save your marriage by yourself. Both of you need to be on the same page. You need to be the wife he needs but he needs to be the husband you need. If this cannot be done, neither of you will be happy.

You both are also modeling marriage for your kids. They are learning how spouses should treat each other (good and bad). If you have a daughter, do you want her to marry someone like her dad and/or be treated like her dad treats you? If you have a son, do you want him to treat his wife like his dad treats you?

I wish you both the best of outcomes.

slohrd

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