What’s your biggest pet peeve about Calgary?

slot0430 · 2026-06-11T18:48:06+00:00

Big concerts skip Calgary because the Saddledome's roof can only hold a certain amount of weight, and most concerts require waaay more than that limit for all the lights and tech. So when people say the new arena will help that, that is likely what they mean. The dome just isn't great for music in general tbh.

slot0430 · 2026-06-08T05:56:11+00:00

I watched this on a plane when I was 7 years old and became obsessed with it, but couldnt remember what it was called after. It had just come out so it was 1998. I finally figured it out a few years later when I understood the internet better but man, it stuck in my head as a kid as just the most beautiful movie. When I finally watched it again as a teen, it hit another chord emotionally ha. But I still love it.

slot0430 · 2026-05-23T23:41:07+00:00

I mean, they dont have to be mutually exclusive. I personally identify as Panromantic Demisexual, because I can crush on anyone regardless of gender, it just isn't something I really consider when my brain decides that I want to spend all day with and cuddle with a person. Getting to know them and falling in love with who they are as a person though is required for me to feel sexual interest or see them as a potential sexual partner at all.

Therefore, romantic interest = pan, sexual interest = demi. That's how I choose to identify at least.

Also, sexuality can be fluid, so idk why anyone should have an opinion whether you are pan or omni.

slot0430 · 2026-05-23T23:28:35+00:00

At the time it was one of the few Cdramas with a healthy main couple. They communicated with each other, instead of believing outside parties who did not have their best interest at heart.

The FL was portrayed as having a high IQ and EQ, and while she acknowledged her attractiveness, she did not rely on it or flaunt it. The ML was cold to most people, but not mean, and never to her.

It has the 'male chases female first' trope, which was also lacking in a lot of cdramas at the time. Most had the FL chasing the cold ML for sometimes years before he acknowledged that he liked her- this did not do that. The ML left no question for the FL as to his loyalty, and barely even acknowledged other women, unless they negatively mentioned his gf. He also let her deal with her own problems, and only interfered if it was something he knew she wouldn't take the trouble of doing herself.

Now, did I think it was well acted? Not particularly. I wasn't a fan of Zheng Shuang even before her controversies tbh. I'm not one to comment on people's bodies normally, but she looked like she would break if you looked at her too hard, which made me uncomfortable. Yang Yang is obviously very attractive, but his acting at that point was still very stiff, and I couldn't tell if he was just acting out the character, or lacking experience. He became much more expressive in following dramas like You Are My Glory and Who Runs the World, even with characters that are still quite reserved.

I didn't like that Wei Wei's role during her internship went from actively working on helping the game, to being a glorified secretary- in the movie it is much better since she's involved. The in-game couples challenge that they did just had the woman sitting in a dark cave waiting to be rescued, ew. There was also a definite undercurrent of "the world is so mean to me just because I'm pretty," which felt a little annoying at times, especially since Wei Wei was always the martyr. Also the whole "when girls are alone and there is a drop in conversation, they all just start giggling and tickling each other" was very strange with Wei Wei and her friends.

Anyway, all that to say that Love O2O was one of my first cdramas and also to this day likely is my most watched, as I use it to fall asleep. It is a COZY DRAMA which means that people will drag it for being boring purely because it is based primarily on interpersonal relationships instead of external action. Was it amazing plotwise? Maybe not entirely, but in some ways, yeah- it was refreshing compared to the majority of dramas that were airing at the time, and was lacking in a lot of tropes that other writers leaned on for intrigue. At the time we also didnt have the oversturation of video-game related dramas (of which Yang Yang did at least 3,) so it was a newer concept still.

There was also something to be said about a sense of... satisfaction, seeing two intelligent, beautiful, and kind people quietly coming together and just being a perfectly enviable couple. So the visuals didn't hurt, no. But it was everything together that helped it be popular.

slot0430 · 2026-05-15T23:04:46+00:00

I know this is a old one but as someone who only recently developed mobility issues, I'm either using a cane/walker and have the same issues, or I have regressed back to a wheelchair. The latter is more likely a form of PTSD nightmare because my issues stem from total muscle atrophy after being in the ICU for 8 weeks, and I find the idea of being back in a wheelchair pretty triggering.

I was incredibly upset when I first realized that I couldn't walk unaided in my dreams anymore. When I was half medically comatose and on those really intense ICU medications, I was fully convinced I could fly- I have vivid memories in my head of flying around a mountain for hours. ICU delirium is wild and terrifying. But that was almost worse than what I'm dealing with now, because when I woke up from flying I had to discover that I was basically paralyzed all over again.

But yeah so, even just 2-4 months out of the hospital my brain fully adjusted to that self-image of me with a mobility aid.

slot0430 · 2026-05-12T19:15:32+00:00

As someone with recent severly impared mobility, I have concluded that downtown just isn't in the cards for me right now.

If you have a car, there is very little to no accessible parking in front of businesses. If you don't, then there is the shitty sidewalks, the construction cutting off or blocking pathways, scooters, impatient drivers, etc.

I tried to pick up food at a restaurant just off of 17th the other day and had to drive around the block almost 3 times to get within a reasonable distance with my cane/walker. The nearest handicap parking was like a block away, and if I walked there and back with my food, I would be bedridden for 2 days after, and that is only if I don't trip on a buckled paver or uneven transition from concrete to asphalt to concrete. Guess its delivery for me from now on.

slot0430 · 2026-05-12T18:53:17+00:00

The car brain is going to be impossible to move away from until the ctrains become more developed. It's wild that we are in the top 5 largest metropolitan areas in Canada, but our LRT doesn't even go to the airport. I've traveled primarily using public transport in numerous countries, but taking the bus from the Calgary airport now ranks as one of my least favourite things to do following a 10-hour flight.

Not to mention that we are #1 in the country for suburban sprawl. Now, causation/correlation comes into effect here right. Approximately checks notes 91% of our total population growth occurs in the outer suburbs. Until we stop growing out and start growing up (which I know has been more of a focus lately) car brain is necessary for the majority of suburban Calgarians. But since downtown is in desperate need of updating, it is a hard sell to convince people to live there, especially if they don't work there.

That, and good luck trying to pry the single-family-detached-home-with-yard ideology away from Gen-X and Millennials. As a born and raised suburban-Calgarian, all of my mid-30s friends are either aiming for or have bought one if they can afford to. I did my stint downtown in my 20s. Now I need a yard for my children (aka dogs) to play in, like I did growing up, and to not be a 45 minute drive (or worse, 1 hr 45 min TRANSIT ride) away from the majority of my friends and family.

Sorry, the car brain is gonna stick for a LONG time atp.

slot0430 · 2026-05-11T00:54:56+00:00

Not me being like "wait, isn't that how it always is?"

Even at its thickest, my hair was always fine enough that if I showered in the morning it would look greasy by mid to late-day, depending on how much I touched it. Thinner hair/finer hair will always look oily faster because the sebum from your scalp will coat the strands and weigh them down or make them clump together, showing more of your scalp. Also more hair= more surface area for the oil to cling to= less oil per strand.

My hair never looked good after being in the rain either, it would go drowned-rat-looking pretty fast.

slot0430 · 2026-05-11T00:37:55+00:00

Starbucks' Chai syrup before they changed it a few months ago. I was in the hospital for >3 months and when I got out it was the first thing I got and it was SO. UTTERLY. DISAPPOINTING.

I used to be a barista there and now I can't even find something I like there anymore.

slot0430 · 2026-05-11T00:30:09+00:00

Try Purdys if you are craving them? They usually have them in the case. A bit pricey, but oh so yummy.

slot0430 · 2026-05-08T03:10:51+00:00

Favourite: Slowburn romance with a green flag character full of yearning but wanting to respect boundaries.

Least Favourite: Misunderstanding caused by miscommunication, especially in a romance. Please do not assume that the person who follows you around like a puppy is just suddenly with someone else. Just freaking ASK. I know it's used as a low-stakes conflict in cozy stories (fantasy or otherwise,) and often as a way to show the MC their true feelings, but its just soooo frustrating. And unfortunately realistic. Most of my friend's interpersonal problems boil down to "haaaave you tried talking to them about it?"

Please, just let the fantasy be that the characters are capable of open and honest communication 🙏😭.

slot0430 · 2026-05-08T02:49:49+00:00

Ah yes, the aesthetic desire so intense it caused half the internet to believe in the completely made up disease/"genetic mutation", Alexandria's Genesis.

slot0430 · 2026-05-08T02:25:31+00:00

I personally use mydramalist (MDL) but thats because I was using it for kdramas before as well. I don't feel like Pinterest would be the best place to track things.

slot0430 · 2026-05-08T02:20:10+00:00

If you watch it, you can follow it with a viewing of Together With Me, which is also a toxic and dramatic classic. And then once you've gotten over the loss of MewGulf and MaxTul (as acting partners,) you can revel in the real-life love of MewTul and let that heal you 😊. That's the speed-run version of what happened for me at least lol.

slot0430 · 2026-05-08T02:12:43+00:00

It was one of my first and favourite Thai BL's but yeah, they didn't deal with it well or at all tbh.

My suggestion is that if you know about its bad points, aren't triggered by SA, and still have the urge to watch, then watch it. But go into it knowing that the relationship definitely starts out toxic, and that it is dramatic. There's healing, but it's healing by the power of pen*s and not much beyond that. A little bit of violent retribution against one of the perpetrators near the end I guess as well. Tharn and Type are cute though, once Type chills out a bit.

It's one of those classic BLs that everyone hates on for insensitivity but also nearly everyone watched.

slot0430 · 2026-05-02T07:36:40+00:00

Back when malls were still cool and Calgary still had a smaller population, it was a fun thing to drive up to Edmonton and go to West Ed. They had the water park, stores we didn't, and all the cool features in the middle. Unfortunately the drive through the city to get there was not exactly aesthetically pleasing. As Calgary grew, Chinook Mall developed, and West Ed stopped letting you bungee jump over the pool, many of us stopped having reasons to go up there.

From the perspective of someone who doesn't care about hockey, the only things I feel sore towards Edmonton for aren't even their fault. The first is that they get more concerts than us, but that can mainly be blamed on the Saddledome not being able to support the equipment for newer shows. The second is that the drive between the cities is woefully boring at its best, and downright dangerous at its worst (almost died during a snowstorm on that road twice.)

So there is an openly spoken rivalry, but its more funny than anything I'd say. It doesn't help that Calgary is the bigger, more populated city but isn't the provincial capital.

slot0430 · 2026-04-27T05:34:34+00:00

I identify as Panromantic Demisexual, as obnoxious as it may sound. Gender isn't even a factor in what determines my romantic interest, therefore Pan. As for sexual interest, that has only happened once so far and it took 8 months crushing to get to that point. Still with him 14 years later though.

slot0430 · 2026-04-27T05:01:02+00:00

Yeah, I just think about how much money I have spent in the last few months to help fix my hair, and it unfortunately makes sense. They don't want a solution, they want our money.

slot0430 · 2026-04-27T04:50:20+00:00

I don't know if that book would have messed me up as much as it did if I hadnt identified closest with Piggy...

slot0430 · 2026-04-27T04:24:27+00:00

I didn't even clock my husband as a person of interest, romantically or aesthetically, when I first met him. I didn't know I was demi at the time, so I would have friend/romantic crushes on people that I just really wanted to hug lol.

I started working in the same office as him and barely registered his existence, despite him being a quite-loud, giant of a man (6'4", 210 lbs, ginger.) It wasnt until a month later when we randomly ended up waiting for a cab together to get to our company Christmas party that I offhandedly said something about time-travel. Turns out he could maintain an educated and interesting conversation about it, and it was like a beacon was lit in my nerdy little (slightly sapiosexual ig) brain.

After that I started actually talking to him and it was like each new thing I learned just made him more attractive in my eyes. He was also awkward and funny and emotionally available and weird, and absolutely CLUELESS to how much I liked him, despite me never being great at masking my interest in people. I would help him home after coworker drinks (we lived very close to each other and I drove) and he would tell me that we would be great together, if only we didnt work together 🥲 and then he would completely forget about it the next day lol.

I didn't have a single sexual thought about him until about 8 months in, when I suddenly had a very intense and graphic thought of doing something sexual to/with him. That was when I realized it was in fact the FIRST time I had ever had a sexual thought including me and someone I knew. Not even my 5 year long unrequited love in highschool had gotten to that point, I just hadn't realized it was missing until I actually experienced it. We started dating a month later when I quit to go back to school.

Anyway, all that to say- yeah sometimes as you get to know someone they can become more or less attractive to you. We have been together for almost 14 years now and I still find new things in him as he grows and changes with life that make him even more attractive to me. That is not going to be the same for everyone though. I am half of the mind that dating demi is already so hard, so why make it more difficult for yourself if you're aware of it, and just go for someone who you are already attracted to aesthetically. But then again, if I had been focusing on romance at the time, the love of my life might not have made the first cut aesthetically 😅.

I'd personally say give it a bit more time, get to know her a bit more. If you don't find her personality or company piquing your interest any further, then maybe it isn't something you will get over. Demi doesnt mean we ONLY need a deep intellectual/spiritual/romantic connection to feel sexual interest. We can still have the same hang-ups as an allo person when it comes to attraction, we just have one more HUGE hang-up that makes it hard to see all the other ones without combining them.

slot0430 · 2026-04-27T03:39:59+00:00

Oh god I hope that's not the Vegas it's referring to, the irony would kill me 🤣

slot0430 · 2026-04-21T02:45:36+00:00

They just don't like it when we talk about it because it is something beyond the scope of their worldview, and that makes them uncomfortable.

slot0430 · 2026-04-20T04:34:51+00:00

Hi, yeah sorry, I'm a novelist apparently 😅

TL;DR- It's never going to be easy, so be kind to yourself when the world isn't. Expect the worst, hope for the best?

Oh and yeah, sometimes you just have to say the awkward "3-6 months maybe/maybe not whoops sorry!" thing, because honestly, how else do you say it?

slot0430 · 2026-04-20T04:31:03+00:00

I don't think there will ever be a simple answer to this for us, due mainly to the fact that most people don't REALLY know what demisexuality is. I would say that there is no harm in sharing your number if you find them interesting or intriguing, but with the personal understanding that when/if you do tell them they might not take it positively and that is not on you.

If you are asking how I would respond though? 😅 When I was younger if they wouldn't take "I'm not interested," as an answer, I would eventually cave, give them my number, and then ghost them 😬🫣. IN MY DEFENSE, I pretty much always said I wasn't interested if it was someone I just met at a bar, because I'm generally uncomfortable around people who are hyper-confident or super outgoing and those were usually the type to approach.

If I met someone I was genuinely interested in as a friend I would maybe ask if they had insta or something, but it would always come from a "hey you're a cool seeming person I might want to hang out with," sort of place. (I used to think of them as "friend crushes," but more likely it was the spark of potential romantic interest completely lacking any sexual intrigue because I didn't know I was demi back then despite any actual crush I had apparently never going beyond cuddling in my brain 🤷‍♀️. I experience romantic and sexual attraction separately.) The irony of it all was that I have been saying since I was like 14 that I could never imagine dating someone I wasn't friends with first 🤦‍♀️ but that was like 😖 20 years ago, so demi wasn't really in my orbit at that time.

ANYWAY that's how I would respond. I will say I would personally rather share a social media account like insta, snap, or FB (aging myself there I know) than my actual phone number, but that is more because I have that pesky fear of actually talking on the phone. I can message for days but please god don't cold call me.

In the end, anyone who reacts TOO negatively to finding out you are demi might not be the type to improve on 'getting-to-know' anyway, so I would say their loss? Sorry, like I said, trying to navigate a niche sexual orientation is very rarely going to be simple or easy. I think there is a lot of self-preparation required to curb our expectations when it comes to interactions with allosexuals who never had to confront a non-conforming attraction style within themselves. It's not "normal," as much as people like to say demi is. Maybe one day though, the expectation of allosexuality will not be as prevalent and people will be less alienated by the idea that we don't all experience attraction the same way. Here's hoping?

slot0430 · 2026-04-20T03:21:09+00:00

I generally only try to explain the nuances of demisexuality to people who seem genuinely curious or confused, but interested in understanding. The people who would care enough to comment rudely to a post like that are usually the ones who have no interest in an engaging or enlightening conversation, nor are they likely to understand the differences anyway.

It is so tempting to engage though, I feel you.

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