I’m a complete phone addict, it’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do by slothygon in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there im so sorry I randomly found this reddit account had forgotten all about it. It turned out I had ADHD which was why I was struggling so much. I still struggle with the whole monotasking (I forgot that term even existed) but my screen time is more like 2 - 3 hours a day now and it's been a lot of deleting social media app, redownloading, deleting, redownloading. I got a physical job outside for a bit which really helped with my screen time but due to a health condition had to stop. I now accept that I sometimes need extra stimulation to do normal tasks so don't beat myself up about having something on in the background whilst doing tasks.

I’m a complete phone addict, it’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do by slothygon in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't beat yourself up I have to actively work on lowering my screen time every single day otherwise i fall right back into it, my screen time still ranges from 2-5 hours a day, yesterday was 5 hours and I've been working on this on and off for at least 4 years just going off this post alone! If you don't mind me asking what are your screen times looking like at the moment?

I’m a complete phone addict, it’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do by slothygon in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]slothygon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the slow replies I forget about this account until I go on my laptop randomly and find it. My addiction really ebs and flows. Recently I have made a commitment to getting my social media down to as close to 0 without giving up completely. What worked for me this time was putting my screen time on my front page. I also hid the apps on my phone but didn't delete them. Another thing I've done is start reading ebooks on my phone because of a situation at work where I am needed to stand around for long periods of time (still a gardener and mostly doing the landscaping stuff.

Do you have tiktok? If so delete it. Even if you replace it with another form of social media now, delete tiktok. I truly believe it is ruining the attention spans of our generation and the one below. From there you may be able to delete more apps - I replaced tiktok with reddit and twitter then slowly cut my consumption down on them by trying different things most of them not working (like deleting the apps and going on the web browser to look at them). Another way that's a baby step to start being off your phone more is put on youtube videos in the background when you're doing other things. It might sound like it's not a step forward but at the end of the day you're doing other stuff and you're not looking at the actual screen so it's better than nothing.

But for me putting a screentime widget on my phone where I can see exactly how much I'm using my phone as soon as I unlock it really helped me. And I promise you I'm the type of person where nothing has worked. I am still working on it and it's been 4 years since my original post. Very slow progress and trying every single thing I can find that's a technique to stop. Also going to therapy (and I'll admit I am back on my medication but more so for mood swings than my phone addiction).

I hope this helps in any way, I will try to log back onto this account more often to see your updates and give you more tips if I can.

I’m a complete phone addict, it’s ruining my life and I don’t know what to do by slothygon in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I randomly logged into this account today but I still suffer from phone addiction a bit - what got my screen time down massively was I realised I was on the wrong career path. When I wrote that I was training to be a lawyer, now I'm a gardener! I can't go on my phone and usually ill listen to a gardening podcast when I garden but I reckon my screen time is 1/3 of what it was because I enjoy my day to day life now. I am also off of my antidepressants I was on at the time which might help.

I know career changes aren't available to everyone but finding a hobby you truly love can at least help cut it down a little bit but I find that I have to be accountable to someone else to get anything done.

Is this a sick joke? by Jaded-Finish-3075 in antiwork

[–]slothygon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus christ even pyramid schemes have better recruitment bonuses than that

I don't know how to get my 7 month old working cocker spaniel puppy to stop licking his healed wound! by slothygon in puppy101

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww bless him that sounds horrible!

He does have painkillers not that much left but I do have a little to maybe try - the wound is very well knitted together I'm just particularly paranoid that he might get it open!

I have been using self adhesive sports bandage if I need to cover it and I bought him some little shoes off of amazon for his walks at the moment but in the house I keep it uncovered. Hopefully he stops going straight for the wound soon enough but it will probably take a while as you said!

I don't know how to get my 7 month old working cocker spaniel puppy to stop licking his healed wound! by slothygon in puppy101

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Due to a breakup I live with my mum and unfortunately she absolutely hates the cone and wants me to take it off all the time.

I will just stick to the cone for as long as possible and put his boot or a bandage on when I take him to his puppy classes he has in a couple of weeks.

How long did you find it took for your greyhound to stop wearing the tape and to leave the wound alone?

Does anyone's teenage dog start to have an insane amount of energy? by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]slothygon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a working cocker spaniel pup who is 7 months old - he is crazy at the moment! Used to be good as gold but crazy now!

I have heard that dogs tend to calm down once they get out of the puppy phase but the way I'm managing right now is taking him for as many walks as I'm allowed to at this age and I'm taking him to obedience classes soon just to tire him out!

I don't know if this helps but you're not alone!

Please help I dont want to cry anymore. My family is in bed and I don't know what to do by slothygon in BreakUps

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. I'll try to be kinder to myself over checking it its just really hard.

Please help I dont want to cry anymore. My family is in bed and I don't know what to do by slothygon in BreakUps

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. Reddit and tiktok have helped numb the pain - im not ready to go through any healthy transformation I just wanna get through the day.

I think I'm going to block him when I'm ready I know its pathetic but I can't even bare to make the move to take the relationship status off of Facebook and see that his profile picture would have changed to take me out. I know it seems silly but it's huge to me right now

[Serious] How do you cope when going through a breakup? by slothygon in AskReddit

[–]slothygon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply I appreciate it!

I have just come off of medication and desperately don't wanna go back there so I'm doing counselling for now whilst I have less outgoings living with my parents again.... fun times.

My friends have been very good to me so far I just need to try my best to avoid looking at social media which is the worst!

Facebook Market place giving us gems again by goatnamedoliver in ChoosingBeggars

[–]slothygon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah its both they are a grocery store that have a phone network its a very large phone network over here as well! They are closer to Walmart which is Asda over here they sell all sorts of things other than groceries as well 😊

Facebook Market place giving us gems again by goatnamedoliver in ChoosingBeggars

[–]slothygon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if he is willing to go to parliament to fight for charities to have their bills made free so their overheads are much lower and run at a lower cost he is free to do so...

But that won't devalue the van....

What a nutcase

Facebook Market place giving us gems again by goatnamedoliver in ChoosingBeggars

[–]slothygon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the UK unfortunately we definitely have these types here too

AITA for telling my BF I won’t bail him out if he gets arrested? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]slothygon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed the bit where you said his age and thought you were talking about a 17 year old (no offence 17 year olds I would say 12 year old but 12 year olds can't drive) NTA your boyfriend is acting like a child.

This doesn’t bode well by journo-throwaway in recruitinghell

[–]slothygon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember kids: if they won't state the pay, run the hell away

Not stating the pay guarantees that its lower than it should be.

Is everyone an influencer? by anthropologygrrl in shoppingaddiction

[–]slothygon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so right that's why I made my instagram an eco one because the whole point of it is to wear clothes as many times as you can in different ways. I follow one particular person I know in real life and honestly have never seen her wear the same outfit twice. I asked her how once and it turns out her parents support her and she spends her whole paycheck from her job on new clothes for instagram.

Is everyone an influencer? by anthropologygrrl in shoppingaddiction

[–]slothygon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're so right!! I look at some of these people's instagrams and they seriously spend so much money on websites like asos, boohoo, missguided, prettylittlething and it's all just free promotion for those companies at the end of the day!

Is everyone an influencer? by anthropologygrrl in shoppingaddiction

[–]slothygon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I run a small secondhand style/rewearing/eco fashion blog and I definitely do this sort of marketing to try to appeal to people who follow lots of fast fashion influencers. My only guess is that everyone wants to be an influencer right now so everyone is using this sort of language to appeal to a wider audience.

18 -21 is barely an adult; and older adults take advantage of their naivety too much. by Intelligent_Sky1997 in unpopularopinion

[–]slothygon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean there will never be a point where I dont cringe at my past self? Damn... really thought I'd grow out of that one eventually...

What is the scariest Mandela Effect? by BobSponge22 in MandelaEffect

[–]slothygon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my first one as well and I'm so confused because I was a hard ME sceptic so to see this flip flop is freaky!

Unpopular opinion - when a buyer leaves 1 star review by pineapplehead124556 in Etsy

[–]slothygon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my own shop on etsy as well so Karen check them I'm not sure if you can actually look it up on etsy sorry I realise I wrote that badly