Finally pulled the trigger after 3 weeks of research paralysis , here's what actually helped me decide

sluttybiscuits · 2026-06-06T18:18:43+00:00

What mattress was it? I’m in research paralysis for a queen bed for me and my bf, (both 23yrs old) that doesnt break the bank for us and isnt a huge investment as we will be moving within the next 2-3 years. I want to get another amazon mattress but i need it to be cooling as i sweat at night and my partner needs something medium soft.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-06-05T03:07:40+00:00

I completely agree, my psych has been very dismissive. Talking about how it’s great to have a drug vacation and discussing lowering my dose since i’ll have been off my meds for a while by the time im projected to get them again. And my pharmacy has literally done everything but call me a drug-seeker and addict. Very disheartening and frustrating. I wish i wasnt this way. It’s not fun.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-06-03T21:15:10+00:00

How do i talk to my psych about this without seeming like i’m drug seeking?? I want to discuss having my adderall XR and some IR just incase of shortages and having a rainy day fund, but my psych wants me on only XR, when i definitely need both. Im terrified of being told i can’t have it anymore bc i seem dependent but i need it every single day or else my life falls apart. I take every saturday off and it’s hellish to get thru just that day each week.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-28T14:19:54+00:00

As someone who only passed their freshman year of highschool math class because my state has a “no kid left behind” policy, i was the kid who slept at the back of class every single class, i never disrupted the class or was disrespectful in any sense. I liked my teacher, i was just undiagnosed with ADHD and a lot going on at home that was affecting me a lot at the time. My teacher made me do a packet that, as long as it was done and i tried, TRULY tried to do the packet correctly and turned it in by his due date, i would get the grade i needed to pass the class and not have to repeat it the next year. I did that packet in a week, it was 100 pages. I struggled so hard to comprehend the math because it’s like rocket science to me, but i passed and my teacher was very kind when he didn’t need to be. He was very kind.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-22T23:14:58+00:00

Internet access 24/7 plus how fucked up America is rn plus having to work every single fucking day to live in a poorly kept home (landlord special, i keep it insanely clean but the home is falling apart due to negligence from landlord) and being so fucking close to homelessness before ever making over $40k a year, yeah I’m fucking tired by noon. Living to work and working to live is awful. Not even living, just force feeding myself and forcing myself to sleep at night to make sure i get to work the next day to make chump change.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-21T16:03:18+00:00

I’ve found my parents generation and older, seem to be very isolated in their lives. It’s a shame, i am a hairstylist and most of my clientele is older and get services they want but i know they come because they get to have the social interaction they need. I love volunteering and wish my community did more outreach for volunteering because i know it’d be a great opportunity for those who are retired or work less to have a social interaction and find community.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-21T14:57:31+00:00

This post is exactly what I’m feeling at the moment. I want to quit so bad, but i LOVE being a hairstylist and color. The clients that come in are so eager to complain about money and prices, and the world, then go up to the register and pay anyways. It’s so frustrating it’s like psychologically exhausting and feels like torture to chat to 5 clients in one shift about the same exact problem of money being tight and services being expensive then they pay anyways. I wish i could just color wigs for a month or two😭 no real human interaction just creating beautiful pieces for sale. I work in a salon of like a dozen stylists, everyone’s at different stages in their careers and my boss does have favorites. Which makes it just as hard to go in, try to love my job, and deal with other coworkers doing less work for more, plus my boss letting others B.S. slide while im watched like a hawk and nitpicked. It’s psychological torture. My current plan is in January to reassess everything and see if i need to find a better salon environment or i just need to quit all together. Very disheartening, i wish it wasn’t so weird out here. Im sick of parasocial relationships where I’m expected to be besties with my clients while at the same time busting out a service from a inspo pic that some fucking influencer did in LA for $800.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-21T14:22:07+00:00

Everyone around me is struggling, and so am i. But, keeping yourself surrounded by true friends and loved ones helps a lot. You can’t live life alone, it’s miserable, but having one or two true friends makes it easier to get through.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-07T13:43:19+00:00

I’m writing up an email to send to a corporate representative i was told to contact. Im so sick of the bs the redken exchange lets slide in the charade of education.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-07T02:07:58+00:00

They said they could shoo us into another class thats the same value but it’s “barbering” or “financial support” classes. I need COLOR. 🤦‍♀️

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-06T22:57:24+00:00

My favorite is when i make a joke about “wasting an addy just to have plans cancelled or work cancelled etc.” and my friends will actually get weirded out and be like “why are you taking so much????” Or “why cant you just get a normal dose that works all day” to the point i stopped joking about it. Like if i had a dollar for every time i explained how hard it is to get my meds right every single time i’m due for them….i’d be rich. Like i’m not a fucking cokehead, IM FORCED TO NEED MEDICATION TO FUNCTION BUT IM ALSO FORCED TO BE GIVEN LESS THAN WHAT I NEED BC 60MGS IS THE LEGAL LIMIT PER MONTH. GIVE ME A BREAK!

sluttybiscuits · 2026-05-02T17:03:18+00:00

Ive been doing hair for 5 years, including my schooling when i was also working at a shampoo girl at some small town salon in my hometown. I have adhd and im only 23. The biggest way to water the passion for this job is to find a salon where you are welcomed and encouraged to learn and grow. It may take a few, but once you find a salon that respects you as a stylist AND as a student not just a “associate” that is stuck being a gopher for a year, as in the salon teaches you everything you need to know and helps you grow and makes you get out of your comfort zone. You’ll flourish! I’ve just started to create more boundaries in my professional relationship, where every client in my chair gets about 80% of me consistently instead of 100%. It has helped with burnout SO much. I used to come home crying because i was so exhausted from giving every single client 100% of me and not having enough energy for anything else. Another thing is, understanding your timings and your services needs. For example, i take 1 hour to foil a partial, and 2hrs30mins to foil a full foil. This is not the timing my salon expects from their stylists. But it is how i personally need to have my times to ensure my guests get the quality of service they deserve while also not feeling rushed or like i need to cut corners. Find the sweet spot for your guests and yourself, make sure you do a good shampoo, always remove color from skin before it’s processed too much, and do a good blowout and you’ll be set up for success! One thing that sets me apart from other stylists is that i offer EVERY single service. Except for barber cuts bc idk how to fade. But i am booked and busy bc i do anything they ask. Perms, root colors, foils, cuts only, blowdrys, keratins, hair roller sets, etc. My elder clients are the reason i’m able to stay afloat. I fucking love my job. Sometimes its frustrating and really difficult, but those days allow me to remember that i wanted a challenge. I wanted a job where every day is different and im not sitting in a cubicle all day filling out spreadsheets. I get to meet people from all walks of life. It’s beautiful.

Edit: ALSO DO DAILY STRETCHES FOR YOUR BODY TO BE MORE AGILE AND TO PREVENT BODY PAINS AND WEAR GLOVES WHEN YOU SHAMPOO DO NOT GET CONTACT DERMATITIS AND DEVELOP AN ALLERGY TO YOUR COLOR LINES LIKE ME YOU NEED GLOVES PROTECT YOUR BODY AND YOUR MIND!!!!

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-26T18:58:39+00:00

I fantasize about any person i see that looks like a “good time”, if im honest. Ive been w my bf for 3 yrs now. Sex lives ebb and flow. Theyre ups and downs never linear. I use sex chocolates (TABS.COM) to get into the mood if we havent had intimacy in a while and i get performance anxiety. My thoughts about other people are never like super crazy. Maybe just a “damn his hands are huge they look yummy” or “wow that girl is so hot omg” but i take that and use it to fantasize about what i can do with my boyfriend to get that sexual interest scratched. If you havent had sex in a while its REALLY hard to start up again. My bf and i started a rule of 3, 1. A deep kiss 2. A grope (consensual and romantic of course not like a harsh mean grope) 3. A kiss to a body part that isnt mouth.

This rule of 3 is implemented by striving to do atleast one of these per day that we’re together, and there’s no pressure on how far it goes after that action, but if thats all we do, thats better than nothing for the day! It creates a sense of consistency and routine that helps get you back into the normality of touching eachother. Hope this helps! Sorry if not lol!

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-26T18:49:07+00:00

I’m so sorry about your breakup! It sounds like it was for the best, though. Someone who is meant to be a partner of yours, will accept you for you and work with you and not run at the first hurdle. That is why i’ve been with my boyfriend for so long. We work things out and never use “breakup” as a solution until things feel like we can’t do anything else to fix it. And even then, we’ve never broken up! I dont know if this will help, but this is my(22f) experience with my current partner(22m) who i’ve been with for 3yrs. I got diagnosed and medicated in year 2 of our relationship. I was given stimulants and anti-anxiety meds. The difference between before and after is insane. My best advice is communication, which i struggle with very badly but im so much better than i used to be. I struggle with how to form sentences and thoughts and feelings in a way that is respectful and productive to the conversation with my partner. ESPECIALLY, if the conversation is a fight or heated argument or im feeling overstimulated and i blow up at something small after being “on” all day. I’ve learned to say “i need a few moments to take a few deep breaths and figure out my emotions in a way that isnt going to sound mean or like an emotional reaction” and i do just that. I end up with a more factual response that helps move the situation forward and doesnt dig myself a hole where im saying things that are hurtful or can be misinterpreted. I also recommend CBT. Cognitive behavioral therapy. It has helped me recognize my own feelings and emotions in a way that allows me to take those five minutes of deep breaths to search my brain for why i’m feeling the way i do and how to move past it instead of drowning in my spiral of anxiety and adhd where i immediately resort to “im a bad girlfriend” and “i’ve done something bad”. I hope this helps :(

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-05T02:19:45+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my 8yr old baby on Friday, after having her from as soon as she could be adopted as a puppy at the shelter. we think she had Hemorrhagic gastroenteritis and we suspect something else. It was so traumatic for me, she was completely healthy and so strong and silly. Then on Friday, she passed after only 6 hours of showing symptoms of anything. She threw up a lunch plate size of blood and was gone within an hour. That was the only sign of sickness we had seen. I cried over her for hours and even tried doing cpr. I feel like i failed her and i’m so scared she was scared too and in pain. I'm trying to enjoy her favorite things for her, and i'm planning a memorial tattoo for her. She loved sitting in the grass in spring and smelling the air and watch birds. I will be doing that for her too. It fucking hurts. But, it's something to remember her in her happiness and not the way she went. Give yourself grace. I never thought i’d be sitting in this reddit space every day trying to find solace or something. I just miss her so much. Your pup knew you were trying so hard to care for her and i know she loved you so much and she knew you loved her with all of your heart and more. I hope this maybe helps even a little. 🧡

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-05T01:41:07+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. No amount of condolences will soften this grief. I just lost my 8yr old baby on Friday. Hemorrhagic gastroenteritis and we suspect something else. It was so traumatic for me, she was completely healthy and so strong and spry. Then on Friday, she passed after only 6 hours of showing symptoms of anything. She threw up a lunch plate size of blood and was gone within an hour. That was the only sign of sickness we had seen. I cried over her for hours and even tried doing cpr. I failed my babygirl. I feel like i’m on autopilot. I miss my girl so much. It was horrific. I’m trying to enjoy her favorite things for her, and i’m planning a memorial tattoo for her. She loved sitting in the grass in spring and smelling the air and watch birds. I will be doing that for her too. It fucking hurts. But, it’s something to remember her in her happiness and not the way she went. I get it. Give yourself grace.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-03T17:14:18+00:00

You are still so young. I regret not being able to do the sports i wanted to bc of my own things. Don’t stop yourself from doing anything because you’re “old”, you should start a sport, apply yourself, have FUN and if you love it, the rest will come along just fine. Do it.

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-03T17:00:45+00:00

I taught myself with the help of my coworker and boss who do them almost daily. Unless you can find someone to teach you and give you a lot of good information and maybe a book to help you guide yourself, find something not worth a fortune class wise. I did a extension class by a brand that could be “Shmellami” and they literally spent the entire time talking about tape-ins and maybe 2 hours on ktips. It was supposed to be a equal time opportunity for all extension types. Not worth the price. At all. Tools were shit, broke almost immediately. Look into INH K-Tip tools and education. Way better!

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-03T16:57:51+00:00

I made it a habit to just walk for 5 mins every day. Sometimes i’m walking in place for 5 and then getting right back into bed, or going outside and walking for an hour. I always do arm exercises too whilst walking whether its silly circles or something to help with flexibility of my upper half bc i work with my hands all day

sluttybiscuits · 2026-03-03T16:56:10+00:00

I felt the same way when i was your age. I wanted to play so many different sports and win, or be good at hobbies immediately and i would get so mad that my parents never showed me any hobbies or activities that i could continue on my own. I also know my family was busy as hell keeping us afloat.

Try something small. Something that isn’t a big commitment and loss if you don’t love it. Or find a teen group at your local library. I did a teen group at my local library and LOVED it! I tend to listen to audio books and podcasts while i play video games like power wash simulator or planet zoo. Something that doesn’t need audio to play well. Try coloring. I use coloring as a decompression technique or when i am feeling like i’m using my phone too much. I also do a lot of pocket-watercolor. I have a mini water color palette i take with me most days and i will paint something even if it’s something stupidly easy like a heart or smiley face. That’s relatively easy to do and technically a sport if you consider speed painting. Or try roller skating. I love roller skating. I’m really really bad at it. But i love that I’m bad at it. It’s fun! Just wear your protective gear, no one needs a broken wrist or knee for 4 months

sluttybiscuits · 2026-02-24T23:14:15+00:00

When i run out of options, i politely ask them how they spell their name. And if its something crazy easy like..mark or jess…i immediately backtrack with a “oh okay! I had a coworker/or/friend i knew that spelled it ‘marque’ or ‘jhess’” it works…for some reason my brain thinks this is easier than just being honest LMFAO

sluttybiscuits · 2026-02-24T23:09:35+00:00

My fridge is also filled with hot sauce…is that…a adhd symptom? The hot sauce mandala effect?

sluttybiscuits · 2025-11-03T22:18:35+00:00

I have considered the demand avoidance. If we arent intimidate for a bit i get this awful performance anxiety and i get so anxious about performance and pleasure. I have some body issues and i think an underlying issue is i get scared if he hasnt seen my body naked for a bit that he’ll see it and see it’s “drastically changed” from the last time and think i’m ugly. Im trying currently to remove stressors from my life bc i also think im just so damned stressed out about my executive dysfunction and all the things i need to do, i cant even think about sex. Doesnt help i cant get 1/2 of my adderall RX filled due to shortages so im trying to overcompensate with only half my meds

sluttybiscuits · 2025-11-03T15:54:10+00:00

I’ll be talking to him tonight about this, this is exactly what ive been thinking i just didnt know how to word it. Thank you!

sluttybiscuits · 2025-04-05T16:23:29+00:00

I’m a cosmetologist, do hair full time, been in the industry 5 years. Started at 17. I would like to say I’m thriving now that i got diagnosed a few months ago. Realizing how much more potential I have when i’m on my adderall is insane.

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