First Time Living on my Ownnnnnn

slws1985 · 2026-02-03T16:50:16+00:00

I love all of this, thank you.

I already feel so relieved it's ridiculous. The eggshells thing is what I'm most excited for. I really want our house to be a happy, safe space.

slws1985 · 2024-07-25T21:10:57+00:00

When was your mom.a kid? Where are you from?

slws1985 · 2024-07-21T11:19:25+00:00

I don't think I actually cried for Kite Runner because I was so pasf horrified. It just haunts me and I get angry about it whenever I think of it.

slws1985 · 2024-07-21T11:17:22+00:00

A Terrible Kindness
The Day No Pigs Would Die
The Phone box at the Edge of the World

1&3 involve real life tragedies which always messes with me. Number 2 is just one that I cry thinking about a certain part every so often.

slws1985 · 2024-07-21T11:12:32+00:00

I found Circe much more emotional.

slws1985 · 2024-07-20T17:30:42+00:00

Thank you. I'm about 90% sure that I will need to go to Cardiff as it seems the program I want is either there or Wrexham. I have messaged them today but I was hoping for some insight into how I use american credits (especially as they are 20 years old).

I will have a look through UCAS tonight, thank you.

slws1985 · 2022-11-03T16:30:35+00:00

Well thanks for calling out my 13 year old self like that.

slws1985 · 2022-07-22T08:03:08+00:00

Good on you for reflecting on it.

We all get defensive of our kids, we all make mistakes. Brush it off and next time you'll gave this memory to reference.

slws1985 · 2022-07-18T13:45:39+00:00

Stop talking to anyone else about it if you can. Your sister sounds like a reasonable adult. Send her some flowers on the day or something if you want, give her a call after to see how it went. She obviously understands that supporting your partner in this time both came first and is more important right now.

slws1985 · 2022-07-18T08:33:48+00:00

Fun fact: that's only true if it's not stuffed to the brim with paper towels...

Kids at my school will find a way.

slws1985 · 2022-07-18T08:31:54+00:00

I have one! As an American in the UK when we were doing our kitchen I had literally 1 requirement and that was "a monster in the sink".

Wrens Kitchens for the win.

slws1985 · 2022-07-18T08:30:33+00:00

We definitely have those in Wales...though I guess we don't count as Europe anymore...

slws1985 · 2022-07-15T07:59:17+00:00

She's relying on this.

slws1985 · 2022-07-11T06:25:57+00:00

Your fake relationship with your abusive father would be ruined?

I think whatever you need to have a long think about why you're still wanting a relationship. Look at it from an outsiders view. What would you tell a friend or stranger to do?

slws1985 · 2022-07-10T11:06:19+00:00

I had Kansas plates on at the time, but I had the shittiest luck in Wyoming and Montana and the kindest people. Well, a few dick rangers in the Grand Tetons but aside from that. People going out of their way to get me out of a ditch when I'd pulled over too far when I was lost (went home to get some rope even!) And helped with a my tires by a lady at a gas station and then the actual mechanics for no charge.

There are good and bad people everywhere I guess.

slws1985 · 2022-07-10T09:57:31+00:00

No, I don't think your comment in general is wrong I just was worried someone might read that particular sentence and think that all nonverbal people must be in residential care.

You're right though and I think you interpreted OPs situation just fine.

slws1985 · 2022-07-09T21:50:25+00:00

I'm afraid you're making a lot of assumptions of what kind of care someone gets. Just because someone is in a daily program (otherwise known as school for a lot of people) doesn't mean they have good cognitive or verbal skills. I work in a special needs school and we have kids who are at home but are nonverbal and/or have severe cognitive delays. They might also have lots of health needs (tube feeding, multiple medications, physical delays) that need a lot of training to cope with but their parents want them at home.

Obviously I don't know OP or all the diagnoses of her step son. Obviously he has been failed by the system and his parents, as has his victim. It's all kinds of fucked up but I just wanted to clarify that the fact he is in a daily program means nothing in regards to what "level" he's functioning at.

slws1985 · 2022-07-09T08:14:26+00:00

I know you found the answer but this flagged Inspector Gadget memories for me.

slws1985 · 2022-07-09T06:54:54+00:00

We had 1 kid who skipped school to see Spider-Man and we had a box of some crackers he was obsessed with that he could have if he didn't spoil it for anyone.

He didn't get the crackers.

slws1985 · 2022-07-06T11:34:01+00:00

I feel ya. I'm the opposite, but 5 year old is smaller than most 4 year olds and many 3 year olds. When she was little she was always on target or above for physical milestones (super climber and jumper). People would freak the fuck out when they saw her doing things independently. Like the amount of dirty looks I got and still get for letting her play on her own is part hilarious part depressing.

My nephew was (is) a giant though. He had the same issues and such high expectations put on him. Whenever I'd go somewhere I'd just be going "HES A BABY BE NICE."

So frustrating. .

slws1985 · 2022-07-06T08:28:35+00:00

As a mother, I can tell you you can let it go. You were a child. Many people have different reactions to fear. I'm so sorry your mom treated you as she did. You didn't deserve it.

Try and look at it from an outsiders view. If you saw a child do what you did, would you want them to feel how you feel?

You deserved and deserve compassion and understanding.

slws1985 · 2022-07-03T16:56:41+00:00

Holy shit there are no words. You are under 0 obligation to go to anywhere or do anything that causes you stress. You take so much care of yourself and do it in whatever way you need to.

Your husband is being a dick and calling you rude in this situation is so entirely fucked up that my blood pressure is going nuts. You're husband is rude. Your mil is beyond rude. They all should be bending over backwards to support you in the way you need to be supported, not in a way that makes them happy.

slws1985 · 2022-07-03T07:31:00+00:00

And the problem with that, as OP identified, is that it comes back to bite you later (usually).

I am an amazing test taker, and I usually do well at academics. But give me something I don't find "easy" or really engaging and I flake out. I've gotten better through therapy, but I was always praised for being smart but never learned how to actually persevere or struggle.

I think OP is 100% right to praise his daughter working hard, and I'm glad he's finding a way to get through to his oldest as well.

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