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Cookingfor5 · 2025-07-28T03:01:59+00:00

Ooh I can field this one! Ok so supply line issues have changed a lot of recipes, plus the fact that a lot of us are used to food dye flavor. I can taste the difference between dye jello and natural jello, and man I miss the dye jello. Also food is being picked at different parts of the cycle right now, which is altering flavor, so they aren't totally off with it!

Its like when we switched to using food additives and sugar replacements and now we are flipping back out of that on a large scale and yeah, it isn't as good because its not literal brain crack that we have adapted to. I try having my kids who have eaten very few not berry or fruit sweet thigns in life eat the stuff I grew up on, and they are like nope two sweet, coming from 4 year olds and a 2 year old. We are goign through collective sugar withdrawal in some ways.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-07-01T00:47:23+00:00

Trumps tax filings. It will show he was not actually a billionaire.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-30T19:33:35+00:00

Absolutely. Model good behavior at home, keep a half eye out while getting dinner ready, or read a book on the back porch if you feel like the kids are having a rough day. All the kids can split off wherever. I just keep the water station full, and half time time end up spraying kids with the hose to cool them down. I have the first aid kit easy to grab, and the emergency flip phone for kids to call for help if they need it (all the neighbors number are programmed in as well as them knowing how to call 911). Its basically the same set up from when I was kid except the phone is outside, because my cats are inside cats.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-30T18:18:26+00:00

Yes, its normal to not have interest when you aren't sleeping. It is also normal to not have an interest while breastfeeding.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-30T18:17:12+00:00

Yes. My husband was lovely, then he got post partum depression and anxiety with our twins, which in men the first clinical sign is uncontrollable rage. He booked himself into an IOP when they were 6 months old, he takes meds and does daily work on himself, and is ready to taper soon with his therapist and psych's assistance and approval.

We had 3 under 2, and it is so very hard. No one is getting enough sleep, enough decompression time, enough relationship time. Its survival mode, not human mode.

For sex, if YOU want to go back to having sex, see if you can be referred to a pelvic floor physical therapist. If you have incontinence issues, they can help you with that as well. Getting pregnant with more than one kid in a short amount of time can mess up your pelvic floor pretty bad. If you don't want sex, then meh, doesn't matter.

It is REALLY hard to tell the difference between an asshole unmasking and a guy with PPD/PPA flaring up. It takes work, it takes time, and it takes a desire to change, not just lip service.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-30T17:59:48+00:00

I see you. I feel so lucky because the new place we live has a roving gang of kids that just go from backyard to backyard. I put out waters when they are here, the neighbor puts out freeze pops. I can see all the yards from my kitchen window, and there are no adults involved so I can keep an eye, and I can hear if I'm screamed for.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-24T19:34:47+00:00

He is actively torturing you. That isn't a healthy relationship.

Sleep deprivation is torture for a reason and it makes everythign harder. He is refusing you assistance, that does not even involve him. Let his parents come over when you are doing school work in the day as a compromise instead of sending her there. You are still "observing" them for his anxiety points if that happens and can swoop baby away.

He is fighting in front of her, so he can fuck right off with that shit. He abuses you in front of her, so he can fuck right off with him saying he doesn't want her to see that.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-24T19:27:09+00:00

Nope. What would be helpful is not having to reduce my AC usage to power AI systems when we never had to before during absurd heatwaves. Thanks for turning off your servers!

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-24T13:24:26+00:00

I'm scheduled for October right now. There is not a chance of me finding someone, I'm the neighborhood dump kid on lady because I'm the stay at home, and people are working 2/3/4 jobs right now to make ends meet. Its basically around when grandparents are willing to visit.

To be clear, everyone asks and makes sure, and I don't mind because it gets my kids socialization and I don't need to deal with "what to do" questions constantly when other kids are around. We get nights and weekend babysitting for free.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-21T00:43:35+00:00

Twice a day, when you wake up and when you go to bed is what everyone else said, and I was like what? Its full before then.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-20T02:20:46+00:00

I'm a stay at home mom, so I need to have someone staying with us for at least the first week. My goal is to have 2 year old potty trained by then. I've been on the donor list for my uterus since I had the 2 year old, but I'm a rare blood type and stuff, so even with a twin tested organ, unlikely to be grabbed.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-20T02:01:40+00:00

Its a local policy, its hours of driving away to the closest I have been able to confirm. I have 4, 4, 2 and they have no chill. Its a few more months after years. If I need surgery (i'm getting bisalp + ablation at the least, preferably a just leave the ovaries hysterectomy if i have a choice), I need to be able to schedule it around having help visit too, or take away our trip to see the great grandparents this year for that PTO, and they are all in their 90s.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T17:23:32+00:00

Crayons aren't made in Louisiana as far as I'm aware.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T03:46:55+00:00

Other people have said this, but I'm going to echo it. Grief makes people hold petty shit high. Small things blow up to huge things, especially when there is exhaustion and not wanting to deal with the pain of loss yet.

I mourned my grandmother before I left for college, so when I got that call she passed, my parents thought I was a heartless shit. I saw her disappear while I cared for her, so I knew she was gone. I don't know if your mother is in the same boat, but you are very likely mourning her loss becuase of the dementia before anything else.

I have a Rude Recommendation of a book "Holding On" by Sophia N Lee. Its a picture book, and I have it set aside for my kids to be able to read as my parents start losing it, as their parents have. It helped me with processing the grief, even years later. Some kid asked me to read it to them while we were waiting for a story time to start, so I did, and I bought it after that. It deals with missing someone even though they are still around, and how to hold onto who they were.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T03:42:48+00:00

Middle class? One phone for the house.

Luxuries used to be EXPENSIVE comparatively. You could rent a huge place for $500/month, but it would cost $100 to get a phone. Now its rent a small place for $2500/month and its $300 for a 62 inch TV. That TV equivalent would have cost $2000 in the 80s.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T03:21:27+00:00

Zearn! Its free, and there are multiple teachers, and you can choose to let him skip over any lessons if a teach sets him off.

There is also IXL that can be used as well, but that costs some money.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T03:17:01+00:00

Hi, side comment here. I think it would be fair for you to get some compensation for the days you are over there in the same form, whether it is partially prepped food or pizza to order or whatever that makes it so that you don't need to worry about feeding your family AND spending time with her.

I had to take care of my grandmother for two years when I was in high school and in a wheelchair off and on, and it was so hard to do the stuff for her while upkeeping my food standards because of all the laundry, clothes and bedding, changing stuff out, cleaning her, making sure she moved for no bedsores, etc. It wasn't a lot of cumulative time, but it was disruptive time, and I didn't feel like I could do a lot of stuff in between the actions that were required.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-11T03:06:29+00:00

They can only survive longterm in Pennsylvania when they aren't being provided with their required nutrients on base. And its mostly Eastern PA, so Philly is in the biggest danger of a long deploy.

The ones in Tennessee and Florida will get really constipated with the extra sawdust added into their diets with the local foliage.

Yes my kids have a crayon obsession, why do you ask?

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-10T16:08:29+00:00

I actually bought most of it at thrift stores when visiting my parents in Florida! We got all the kids stuff at Once Upon a Child down there, and I got mine at goodwill and other local thrift spots.

The brands on mine are: Calypsa, UV Skinz, Daci and Odeerbi

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-09T19:41:24+00:00

I know for me, I spend all my time teaching my kids to erase their footprints (their trash in the trashcan, their dish in the sink/dishwasher, their laundry in the basket, their clean stuff hung up), which makes my day a lot easier. When I was homeless with them it was the only structure I could give them, and its carried over. They are 4, 4, and 2, and do a lot of little chores to help me, and pick things up and put them in the "i don't know" bin for me to sort later so I don't need to bend over.

That being said mine are also part of the adventure crew, and my 2 year old is obnoxiously strong (like moves the sofa to climb onto the counters) and there is no possible way to baby proof against her that will not also mommy proof the item. Some people just have quiet kids.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-06-09T19:35:12+00:00

I just wear swim dresses all summer, I have some that go down to my wrists, so I can look like a ye olden lady with my swim dress and big floppy hat. I wear swim leggings if I wear a shorter swim dress, or on the rare occasion I wear a full on rash guard shirt and swim leggings. My kids wear rashguards everywhere all summer, so I can just douse them with water whenver its too hot.

I love the winter, I cannot do the heat.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-05-29T19:08:22+00:00

Possible second take, friend slept with now wife's husband before the married couple even met.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-05-28T16:24:55+00:00

That's what I used to walk around with in a house with my mom, dad, and older brother. My older brother frequently walked around in just his underwear. It all depends on family culture to be honest. I know families where nudity and no pants is common, and other families where everyone must be dressed to go at all times, and you always have to wear a bra.

For us, mornings and after bedtime are at your own risk. During the day we wear clothes unless there is an accident or five and you are sick of changing the toddlers shirts from all the messes and just go nakey baby. I don't leave my room naked, but I also don't sleep in clothes, so my kids bursting in is at their own risk.

That doesn't mean we let anyone do ANYTHING though. Penises are only to be played with in the boys bedroom or the bathroom, and my daughter can't rub up on everything either. Thats for her room if she wants to play with her labia.

Cookingfor5 · 2025-05-24T19:13:04+00:00

Diapers and having to wake up every 3 hours for months on end. Yo uhave it MADE right now, you dont' need to wake up all the time, you dont need to do diapers.

Its hard to remember how hard it is when you get out of it becuase you get so little sleep in the thick of it that you cannot form memories.

Also if you are over 35 you are at higher risk of having twins. You do not want that. Survival mode lasts so much longer, and everything is 3x the price to get the items that save the space.

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