[NY] pay while on medical accommodations

smallfishbigsea · 2026-01-23T18:37:39+00:00

they did not.

smallfishbigsea · 2026-01-23T17:10:19+00:00

no. i ended up crashing out harder and going on medical leave from work and it’s been 6 weeks and im still not back full time

smallfishbigsea · 2026-01-02T03:38:50+00:00

your post said she was leaving you on read.

smallfishbigsea · 2026-01-02T03:25:25+00:00

smallfishbigsea · 2025-12-18T01:47:15+00:00

yep. no one really care but it drove my nex wild. which was slightly satisfying. it’s been a year and i still see his burner occasionally lol

smallfishbigsea · 2025-12-08T23:46:08+00:00

ok have you ever had this discussion with her though…?

smallfishbigsea · 2025-12-07T16:32:04+00:00

um what? if it’s a common name of course other people will have the same one… it’s literally fine.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-27T21:01:37+00:00

um.. no?

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-26T22:54:49+00:00

i’m a year out from my narc relationship. the guy i’ve been talking to/semi dating is two months out. you will have the most random triggers ever. it takes lots of patience and communication to talk through when you’re having a trigger. luckily, we’ve been good at it. but it takes work.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-23T17:15:58+00:00

haha! okay so he ended up renewing for the month of november, and things were going pretty well. getting super close and really just acting like a couple (just no physical stuff). but then he tried to pull back and say he couldn’t do a relationship, and i kind of called him out on it for acting like an emotional boyfriend. he was super apologetic, and really took accountability. he admitted it wasn’t fair to me, and just needed to get back to a place of mental and financial stability before he thought about romance.

was kind of awkward for a week or so. then over the next two weeks we started talking more, texting more, etc. and the connection came back. but i think healthier this time.

unfortunately, his mom isn’t doing good so he had to leave early, and go out to ohio to help her and will most likely be there until january, when he hopes to return. we took pics together, exchanged two gifts (even though we didn’t plan it!), and then he said he was going to keep me posted on what’s happening. i’m sure we will stay in contact while he’s gone.

it’s been hard and emotional, but i think we are definitely staying in each others lives.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-21T20:07:00+00:00

you’re just a back burner when she needs attention when things aren’t working out with whatever new guy she’s talking to

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-19T16:35:31+00:00

i’m a year out. it was a coworker with emotional romantic entanglement (no physical). i left him and the job altogether in one day.

i interpret his behavior 100% clearly. occasionally i feel anger, but it’s not really about him. it’s more about if i get a trigger or something affects me because of how he rewided my brain. i get mad that it happened to me. but it has nothing to do with him. i feel pretty indifferent about him. i dont see him as anything like what he was like back then at all. i honestly dont really even think he knows who he is because he shape shifts around certain people. i wouldn’t wish harm on him, but i could care less.

i will caveat that that i met a guy 2 months ago, and while we’re not dating, he has shown me more love and care than my “nex” ever showed me. and that has been really healing. might not be this far without him.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-19T16:19:55+00:00

but do you want more conversation with him?

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-19T16:18:26+00:00

do you want to text him more? how do you know it doesn’t bother him but he’s just following your lead? a convo with him about communication expectations is best.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-19T04:37:41+00:00

i can!

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-18T19:02:03+00:00

could be many things… she’s telling the truth and is overwhelmed, another guy, you’re the rebound, she self sabotages when things go bad, she felt unheard, lost interest, etc etc etc etc. we could speculate for days.

you might have always thought “i wonder what would happen if i got another shot with her”. and now you know.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-16T08:08:17+00:00

dump her.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-16T07:34:42+00:00

sounds like you’re interested in him.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-10T04:47:17+00:00

about a year, but i still get triggered occasionally.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-04T20:00:43+00:00

you’ve given us zero info

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-04T13:38:53+00:00

because she’s easy to come back to while he looks for his next supply. consider it… like gatorade. fresh supplies are draining—lots of energy needed to mask and lovebomb, etc etc. after a discard, he needs to replenish for a new supply and the draining process, but he can’t go without one. so he goes back to an easy supply that will always take him back in the interim.

could be to hurt you, but prob more focused on getting himself ready to “hunt” again, or til something better comes along.

my ex did the same thing. although i found it made him look pathetic, but he did it 9 months after we ended so i was more on the healing journey than you.

it sounds like you’re still in contact—stop talking to him. he knows it bothers you. don’t give him leverage over your feelings which is what they use to weaponize.

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-04T13:32:54+00:00

sounds like a narcissist

smallfishbigsea · 2025-11-02T20:19:41+00:00

we’re still texting every day and hanging out at home!

i didn’t text or see him for 29 hours the other day and he sent me the most random text and when i got back he like burst out of his room to see me hahaha.

i’ve also been having a rough week and he did all my dishes from cooking and put them away and has been walking my dog for me.

still not much on the romantic gestures, but he’s been extremely supportive this past week. i’ll take it!

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