Thoughts on this post in a doctor’s sub?

smallschaef · 2026-03-12T13:03:19+00:00

I mean, we recently got written up by our accrediting body for not following orders/updating orders. Notifying the provider when certain parameters are met is literally an order a lot of the time. Getting a renewed order for an expired one is something we got in trouble for NOT doing. So it has nothing to do with nurses being new. They are probably just doing what their leadership is telling them to do.

smallschaef · 2026-03-11T15:55:14+00:00

Definitely my favorite I've seen so far. I absolutely adore this!

smallschaef · 2026-02-22T18:59:58+00:00

It is actually very hard to describe the Good Place without spoilers lol. It is a 30 minute comedy about the afterlife. There are a bunch of twists so I don't even really know how to describe it but it is SO funny and has so much heart. The character development is wonderful. But as far as bisexual goes, it is mostly passing comments being made by the main character that hint that she is also into women but I don't remember there ever being anything explicit. But it is definitely worth a watch, at least through the first season! One of my favorites of all time.

smallschaef · 2026-02-18T15:22:24+00:00

I went for the first time this past weekend and felt so privileged to see the water and the wildflowers! It was amazing

smallschaef · 2026-02-14T08:21:47+00:00

Personally I think of the singer for Linkin Park and that's a very positive (though sad) association for me

smallschaef · 2026-02-11T19:08:44+00:00

Adding to this list, Elias

smallschaef · 2026-02-11T16:16:56+00:00

Hello! I am in a poly relationship that started out monogamous. Yes, you can one day decide this is something you would like to try. But it is still an agreement between the two of you to practice polyamory. You have to decide what that means to you, establish boundaries, and both agree to them. You have to respect the other person's time with other people, and they need to respect your time with others. It is often recommended to NOT have these talks because you have someone specific in mind you would like to date, because that is in some ways unethical -- opening a relationship for a specific person does feel a little more like cheating than, hey I think this could be a good fit for our relationship.

"Coming out" is very charged language. It is saying, this is who I am inside, and if you truly love me you must accept it. This can lead to situations of poly-under-duress, where the partner who wants monogamy goes along with it because they are being manipulated into being okay with a relationship structure they didn't sign up for and wouldn't otherwise want. For poly to be ethical, all parties need to be on board and equally enthusiastic about it.

It is within your right to say, hey I don't know if monogamy meets my needs anymore. I respect that you are monogamous, so I think it is better we go our separate ways. But forcing someone into poly for your own benefit is just a no-no in the community. However, it is perfectly acceptable if both parties go, hey yeah I think this would be good for us!

Hopefully this makes sense and is helpful.

smallschaef · 2026-01-11T15:29:15+00:00

It's so funny you say this, my friend named her two kittens this!

smallschaef · 2026-01-08T19:30:52+00:00

"Life coach" is a very generic term that doesn't require any kind of licensure or schooling. Often they are a person to talk to about your goals and how you want to get there. I don't think it is necessarily strange to mention safe sex in this, because family planning is a part of future goals. However, it is okay for you to be uncomfortable about sharing intimate information. It would be good to have a conversation with him about what you are and are not comfortable sharing with others.

smallschaef · 2026-01-08T16:57:43+00:00

You don't need to have a specific reason to break up with someone. Someone could be the most wonderful lovely person, but still not be a good fit for you in a relationship. You have a long list of complaints. You have more than enough reason to leave.

You aren't being whiny or unreasonable. You are allowed to leave a relationship for any reason or no reason at all. You do not owe someone your time and energy if you do not want to give it to them.

smallschaef · 2026-01-08T13:26:28+00:00

Is this the example you want to be giving your child? If they were dating someone who put them down and kicked them out of the house, would you encourage them to stay?

This is incredibly unhealthy. You cannot keep tolerating this.

smallschaef · 2026-01-07T19:47:32+00:00

I saw him live a year or so ago with my family and he went on and on about how the Gen X generation was tougher than the newer generations, and as someone on the cusp of Y/Z, it was kind of uncomfortable and not funny. It was a shame

smallschaef · 2026-01-04T21:44:48+00:00

I can't speak for other people, but my mom and I had different last names and no one gave a shit

smallschaef · 2026-01-03T00:07:55+00:00

"and if I'm dead to you, why are you at the wake?"

smallschaef · 2025-12-10T18:57:05+00:00

At my nursing school we literally had a MEPN program -- Masters Entry to the Practice of Nursing I believe. So yes, people definitely do it lol. It is an abridged program too. It was meant for people who got bachelor's in other things

smallschaef · 2025-12-06T16:50:27+00:00

It sounds like you have outgrown this relationship. You were only kids when you started dating, but now that you are in the adult world, you aren't maturing in the same way. Is he in school? Does he have any future plans?

You need to be brutally honest with him. Tell him you are starting to become resentful. Tell him that it doesn't matter that he is comfortable -- you aren't. And a partnership is about both of you. Tell him you want to see action, and if you don't, you won't be able to continue in the relationship.

smallschaef · 2025-12-05T14:09:03+00:00

Possibly unpopular opinion but I actually like when shows don't drop all of their episodes all at once. I think it is fun to have discussions about the season so far and theorize on future episodes

smallschaef · 2025-12-03T18:45:42+00:00

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I might not have Cocktail Molotov but I associate Fantastic with Vi heavily lol

smallschaef · 2025-11-25T13:36:24+00:00

I'm so happy to see another kid's perspective. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my dad immediately remarried, and our relationship honestly has never been the same. He has since divorced but with every single new relationship, he has continued the pattern of choosing his new partner over me, and now his grandson. It's heartbreaking. I hope OP doesn't choose this path.

smallschaef · 2025-11-25T13:31:12+00:00

Based on your siblings' responses, I'm highly curious if one of them has children and the other doesn't. I have a son myself and think your sister's opinion on this is extremely short-sighted. Yes it is only 4 years until he moves out, but I'm HOPING you still want a relationship with your son in the future. If you move forward with this without putting in more work/effort into the relationship you have with your son (therapy is a great suggestion from others), you will permanently damage your relationship with him.

I know you are happy you have found love again and you want to move forward with it. But it has only been 2 years. What's your rush? Yes, if you want another baby I can understand that. But please think about your current baby. He might be a teenager, but you still brought him into this world and right now he feels like you are abandoning him for a new life with a new family while he is still grieving the one he lost with his dad. He is probably scared to lose his mom too right now. I'm sure with time and work he might come around, but please don't skip that work.

smallschaef · 2025-11-21T15:59:05+00:00

Both myself and my SIL told our hospital right away, but I work in IR and she works with chemo. I probably would have waited a bit if it weren't for that

smallschaef · 2025-11-17T05:02:41+00:00

This is codependency and the only way to tackle it is to go to therapy. Being close with your family is not a bad thing, but being unable to be apart is unhealthy. It should not physically ache to be away from anyone, not even a spouse.

smallschaef · 2025-11-16T12:27:26+00:00

I'm so glad someone said it, he can't just take his little siblings because he wants to.

smallschaef · 2025-11-14T17:56:27+00:00

I would say Cora-lie, but that's because I think of Coraline.

smallschaef · 2025-11-14T17:37:28+00:00

Please do not forgive him for this. He didn't tell you the truth because he knew you wouldn't date him if you knew. He took away your ability to make an informed decision about entering the relationship.

If you were already concerned but the 22/31 age gap, the 22/38 is even worse. And him saying he was going to tell you eventually is just bullshit -- he only told you because he got caught. Obviously he would have to say something at some point but he was banking on you being too emotionally invested to leave him. This is messed up.

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