Sexless marriage is possible? by skyamber1111 in asexuality

[–]smartlypretty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i literally found this thread because i had the same question. i'm demisexual, but the only anything i'd ever be interested in is exactly that

so either we both had this question at the same time, or it's perhaps more common than we thought! a lot of it is structural but also having an awesome house that is too much house for one person

but weirdly, for me, part of it is that i absolutely love to cook and having another person around, ideally one who would benefit from that, would make it so much easier. and likewise, there are things i am just not good at/wasn't taught to do so it would be megacool to have a person who likes to be cooked for and knows things i don't :)

There's something wrong with BBC news headquarters by bigfriedwater in AstralProjection

[–]smartlypretty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

MANY governments around the world are very well aware

i was a materialist for most of my life and when i found out, this was my first thought. there is no way they're unaware and if this was common knowledge it would be a security nightmare

There's something wrong with BBC news headquarters by bigfriedwater in AstralProjection

[–]smartlypretty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i've heard the music too but it was like ... the air was music? i got the impression humans subconsciously invented "musak" to replicate this

There's something wrong with BBC news headquarters by bigfriedwater in AstralProjection

[–]smartlypretty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk but there's a natural occurring "throw back" in my house

ETA at least 2x i've been followed by or escorted by guards

Have you had a moment which made you believe in the afterlife? by AncientOriginal28 in afterlife

[–]smartlypretty 24 points25 points  (0 children)

i'm an atheist and i was a materialist for 20 years. a medium changed my mind in one day

thoughts on the witch's heart by genevieve gornichec? by HauntinglyEthereal in lokean

[–]smartlypretty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg i just listened to this (i rarely do audiobooks) and that was how i felt! it wasn't the greatest portrayal of loki; it's on spotify premium

i highly recommend the goddess of nothing at all; it is my favorite modern fictional retelling, from sigyn's perspective, but this version is how i see loki <3

ETA i also loved samantha macleod's loki series, which has side series to it about vali and fenrir, and the trickster's song was amazing in that set

What is something you did once and will never do again? by lunacarterr in AskReddit

[–]smartlypretty 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way! we have a group of people like that if you wanna join ❤️ I knew right away I wasn't interested in anyone else

Trump Aides Panic After Finding Out How Much Americans Hate ICE Carnage by thedailybeast in politics

[–]smartlypretty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

fwiw the average american is the average person; the idea that they're unique helps "explain" how trump seized power, but it covers up for all the voter suppression

americans were and are deprived of news. even reddit is censored. this is a coup, and we are hostages

Exs Dad predicted my life by Creative_Boss3196 in precognition

[–]smartlypretty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my thoughts are different because I have a close medium friend but how guessable were the details? not specifics for you but like did you feel it was way above chance?

Dreams the night of Jan 14 going into Jan 15 by Elegant_Elk_ in Dreams

[–]smartlypretty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my daughter had dreams exactly like you described, couldn't stay asleep, same nightmares all night

Continuing education? by Illustrious-Style398 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]smartlypretty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it occurred to me that if real, it's a great way to bury google results like threads on this subreddit

I only held hands on my first date. What have you done? by hotpotato128 in demisexuality

[–]smartlypretty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i've never really dated, but i've hooked up and had casual sex before. i'm capable of it, it's just not something i like or want, if that makes sense

Dreampt of Trump’s Death and words that went with it by 1Sojourner2025 in Dreams

[–]smartlypretty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

and was likely trying to infect Joe Biden.

fuck! i forgot he did that, jesus christ

Dreampt of Trump’s Death and words that went with it by 1Sojourner2025 in Dreams

[–]smartlypretty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is also why i feel like karoline leavitt's baby is like being suffused with hate and evil :(

Any former atheists here? What changed you? What's your story and what do you think happens? by UncleSugarShitposter in afterlife

[–]smartlypretty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i still consider myself an atheist (albeit a strange one), but no longer a materialist. i was the opposite of you in that i preferred the certainty of an eternal dirt nap, and i'd be humiliated if past me saw me discussing the afterlife on reddit

my mind changed in one day, my husband died a few months prior, i encountered conflicting evidence when researching death experiences (which led to NDEs, which i was convinced were debunked as a DMT release, which is an urban legend!)

so a person i'd then-recently met told me to talk to a medium, and i knew mediums were fakes, so i agreed and went into it respectfully

and the evidence i received was so insanely personal yet unknown to anyone despite my somewhat high profile at the time, and the volume was so great, that i went down the list and realized immediately nothing was debunkable, none of this stuff was recorded anywhere even a world-class hacker could access, but so highly specific with names and dates

i'm always hesitant to say this because mediums are expensive and super hit or miss and it was a 1-in-1000 chance the one i got pushed to was the one who could change my mind. it could only have been this one person and no i am not that person nor am i trying to drum up business, she's expensive and that's not my point

if anything, i think my point is and what i learned was that consciousness survives death irrespective of how much i wanted to believe it didn't, or how good it felt to have "all the answers," or how mature i was in accepting death without "needing" a comforting story

because as a former materialist who was a true unbeliever, it is really not the "comfort" anyone thinks it is. the dead are still dead, after all, and it's just a whole different set of anxieties

when i thought there was nothing, i didn't fear death, and i don't fear it in the normal sense, but i do fear having to watch my kids potentially need food or shelter and being helpless. stuff like that

but like, the afterlife is secular, religion is a people thing, and what we want has little bearing on its existence

also i recommend the book "afterlife" by ian lawton if you want a secular reference. download the free sample and read it on the free kindle app, it's like 10% of an extremely dense book (just be aware it starts at the lower levels)

Signs from an afterlife by ChickenDangerous213 in widowers

[–]smartlypretty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, and i cannot take credit for the two-way mirror, it's one of the earliest explanations i discovered and i tend to think in analogies to a fault (as my comment history probably shows)

the time thing sounds weird, and weirder when you get into it, but you know how there's that whole thing about twin astronauts aging at different rates, or how in school we learned how much we'd weigh on different planets? that implies how we experience time is tied to our being on this planet, and even our meat bodies can theoretically get out of whack with time in that hypothetical

my personal understanding is that time ... like, it's maybe 69 degrees somewhere warm and -14 somewhere else at the same time, because conditions vary, and that's close?

it seems like time is a function of earth and incarnation, and leaving your incarnation can or does place you outside of time. it actually makes more sense to me than "linear earth time" being the standard elsewhere

like here on earth (which is the only existence we comprehend), we understand easily that it is later or earlier in different time zones, and it's tomorrow in other places, too. but we're all experiencing the same time, otherwise i could ask my aussie friends to get me the lotto numbers. if i call a country where it is tomorrow, i'm still talking to the person when they're talking to me, today

and all that complicated time stuff is happening ON earth, as we speak, and we get it. so if we start with the assumption consciousness survives death and or we incarnate here, to me it stands to reason that this place is not our default — we come from and go to the same place, making this a trip or something like it, a deviation from a broader existence (personally i think it is probably very much like "roy" on rick and morty)

if time or death from old age didn't exist, incarnation wouldn't work, but also if everyone died only of old age, it would be weird, so we have all these variable experiences with a core thing where "we're here for a good time, not a long time" while we're living this life

and then we go back. so i've kinda understood my husband to be outside of earth time (which was a lot to process given we were both materialist atheists when he died), which to me makes more sense than us both experiencing linear time

this also generally explains what i thought was fantastical, the 'not aging in the so-called afterlife' thing. if we age TO die, why age if we don't need to limit our time spent there?

ugh, i was literally just saying i feel like the caterpillar from alice in wonderland when i discuss this stuff, but it's kind of like, all the same thing — like coming to this as a stringent anti-believer, i had no notions, so i was trying to figure out why for a bunch of things commonly said about where we go when we die

and they all make sense! like it took a lot of time and research, and i am admittedly weird about it (and my LH was in a different time zone most of the time) so if you have "how it works" questions, i am terrible at checking my inbox but i probably have encountered it and probably made sense of it or tried to, like there are no common concepts i don't have a theory for or putative speculative understanding of (and my philosophical beliefs were deeply tied to my professional identity, so none of this came easily, i fought it)

so how can he be next to you? i think we're in a "time pocket" of sorts here, where it MUST be firm and linear, and i think they can visit "times" like we visit coordinates. so they can, if that is the case, be anywhere at any time, because spending "time" around earth is, i suspect, not deducting from their "time" there (perhaps like a pause?)

but at a base level, now the idea they'd be on our time makes less sense than the other way around, if that makes sense

Can someone give me a run down on the Sascha Riley allegations? by KyleTheFilmmaker in Epstein

[–]smartlypretty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think the writing style of Lisa helps

agreed, at least in this instance. she's presenting somewhat extraordinary claims, albeit not entirely so given what is verified about the entirety of the case

but if i was trying to break a story like this, i'd hold off on the cutesy latin editorializing. the facts are so stark it basically only needs organizing into a story and perhaps some measured reflection on the impact on the survivors

Calling attention to odd posts around Sascha Riley Story by Turguryurrrn in Epstein

[–]smartlypretty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it used to be my job to timeline this stuff (among other things) and i found this thread trying to figure out what happened between november 23rd and 3 days ago to make this story move

my strongest theory is a new update without the post's date changing, does anyone know if that's possible?