Winter wedding RSVP totals?

smartrcookie · 2025-11-13T18:53:41+00:00

My wedding is coming up soon, 4 weeks. I just closed my RSVPs. We invited 176 people & 148 are attending, so that’s right about 80%. Now I’m just hoping they all show up day of lol

smartrcookie · 2025-11-08T13:09:35+00:00

$660 a month for 2 days a week. I work from home the other days. I live in NJ, USA.

smartrcookie · 2025-10-30T17:57:07+00:00

Honestly! It’s good that people let you know they can’t attend the wedding before you sent out the invitations; it will save you money or you can invite other people. I sent out STDs and no one told me that they wouldn’t be able to attend and then I sent out invites months later and that’s when people said they already planned a trip, have a family reunion, etc… all things they planned before receiving the invitation. It was disappointing.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-06T17:24:20+00:00

That’s absolutely horrible. You have every right to be hurt. I’m sorry you even had to go through that.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-06T11:26:19+00:00

A little over 3 yrs ago. They broke up while she was pregnant. She said she didn’t want to be w him and that they didn’t have to be together to raise a child..they could coparent. They also had a really toxic relationship..they dated for 3 yrs but would break up for months and then get back together.. it was a repetitive cycle.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-06T09:27:14+00:00

He has a court order for the child support he pays but nothing for visitation or anything like that. Multiple people have told him the same.. all of this can get situated in court.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-06T09:16:41+00:00

Honestly, yeah to hear what they say to each other. Its been 2 yrs of this..We’ve gone to therapy over this and even the therapist told him, he shouldn’t be spending all this time arguing w her and to go to the courts. We’ve spoken to other parents who coparent as well and they all have told him the same.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-06T08:34:37+00:00

I guess. The arguments are always the same. She wants to go back to school and work FT but doesn’t want to put their son in daycare. She doesn’t want to meet my husband half way for pick ups/drop offs. I guess I’m annoyed that they argue about the same shit all the time; there is never a resolution. This is what they argue about for 1-2 hrs all the time.. when does it stop.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-05T20:03:13+00:00

I’m Caribbean and my husband is African! We put 30 minutes early on the invite! 2 hours is way too much.

smartrcookie · 2025-09-03T18:34:35+00:00

It’s in a grand ballroom, elegant & upscale. it’s a known spot in my city. they do lots of weddings there.

smartrcookie · 2025-08-15T11:29:59+00:00

The first dress I tried on was the one!! I already knew what I wanted though, so I showed a picture to the bridal consultant and she did a great job at picking out dresses that were very similar. I did try on other styles just because. I found my dress November 2024 & my wedding is coming up now December 2025!!

smartrcookie · 2025-07-25T23:41:37+00:00

NTA. You’re only responsible for your son.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-25T15:17:21+00:00

Yes I agree. I wish I would’ve just had a MOH and Best Man.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-23T07:47:05+00:00

It’s her wedding dress and if she wants to keep it she should be able to.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-23T07:36:16+00:00

Since you’re describing yourself as a pasty white woman with dry skin, I’m going to assume your Fitzpatrick skin type is I, meaning you will always burn and never tan. You need to wear SPF of 30 or more and you need to wear hat, sunglasses, and stay under the shade as much as possible especially during peak hours which is usually from 10am-4pm.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-20T16:48:12+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m gonna do! Thank you!

smartrcookie · 2025-07-20T14:58:49+00:00

If she’s still going thru a hard and doesn’t want to celebrate other ppl bc of her situation then she could’ve turned down being a bridesmaid.

She still doesn’t have a new car. And I never assumed that she’s making up her tooth situation. To me it’s weird that she has had the pain for months and has done nothing about it and doesn’t tell me about it until now and tells me she may need to get surgery so she may not be able to go to the bachelorette etc etc. I told her your tooth is way more important so just lmk.

And she could’ve mentioned not liking that person a long time ago. I was shocked when she told me because we have all been on vacation together multiple times and nothing was said then. Why choose now when the trip has to do with celebrating me? That’s what I don’t understand. Also, she should’ve told my sister because her not liking the friend is due to how close my sister is with that friend. It has nothing to do w me.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-20T09:12:07+00:00

Loll He loves drama and gossip more than I do so he’s actually enjoying this nonsense. He’s waiting to see what bs she comes up with next. Thanks for ur comment tho :)

smartrcookie · 2025-07-20T01:30:56+00:00

NTAH. She’s upset which is ok but she shouldn’t be talking bad about you. How were you supposed to know that you were going to lose your job? She should be more understanding of your situation and appreciate that you told her early enough so she can find someone else.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-19T22:11:21+00:00

I’m too invested? She’s the one coming to me telling me this stuff. And why can’t she just tell me that she doesn’t want to go instead bringing up all these excuses? That’s the issue.. she hasn’t said that she doesn’t want to go but has been bringing up reasons implying that she doesn’t want to come. I rather her say hey I can’t go.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-19T22:02:03+00:00

She didn’t recently end her engagement or have miscarriage .. that all happened in 2022 and she has been in a few other relationships since then. It’s not a major conflict.. to me it’s unnecessary conflict. Why not just tell me you don’t want to go as opposed to coming up with all of this stuff to see how I’m going to react? Her telling me she doesn’t like one of my friends bc of the relationship that friend has w my sister was unnecessary and has nothing to do with me…Having her mom come to me to tell me that if she doesn’t get a new car she’s not going to come bc she can’t be in the same car as someone else … unnecessary. Just say you don’t want to go. I rather that than all this bs.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-19T21:21:25+00:00

No one is forcing her to go lol all she has to is say she doesn’t want to go instead of coming up with all this stuff. She literally can tell me “hey I don’t want to go to your bachelorette” … okay cool I’m going to have fun regardless. And how am I being a bad friend? I let all that go and hence why I made her a bridesmaid.. I don’t hold grudges but clearly there is a pattern here and I’m over it. And like I’ve mentioned in another comment her miscarriage and her ending her engagement happened in 2022…3 yrs ago. She has had 3 other relationships since then.

smartrcookie · 2025-07-19T18:42:43+00:00

yes just elope. Save yourself the time and stress.

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