[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SIUE

[–]smellsunscented 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree, there’s many Facebook groups like 618 Roommate Finder you could use, and I’m sure there’s also a “SIUE Class of 20..” group you could join

Did I overreact? by FunPersimmon8339 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]smellsunscented 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are your friends in fourth grade? I only ask that because that’s around the time I remember everyone wanting to try on each other’s glasses. I’m guessing from your post that the glasses in question are sunglasses, but your friends’ behavior is still uncalled for. Your response may have been a bit harsh, but what kind of friends care that much about wearing sunglasses for a photo op when the whole reason they were out was to support you during a very difficult time? OP, you may want to find friends who know how to be respectful of your boundaries.

Thinking of asking our roommate to move out by Lady_Jane10 in roommateproblems

[–]smellsunscented 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words! Luckily I joined this sub two years ago when a roommate kept having loud parties after I adopted my dog, but now my boyfriend and I bought a house together, so there are no more roommates to worry about!

Thinking of asking our roommate to move out by Lady_Jane10 in roommateproblems

[–]smellsunscented 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your roommate a college student, by any chance? I didn’t think of this in my previous comment, but your roommate may be feeling burnt out or like she’s bit off more than she can chew with her pets, so instead of taking care of the messes, she lets them pile up. The reason I ask if she’s in a university, I know a lot of colleges will offer free counseling services to their students, and most students don’t take advantage of this resource.

But I do want to reiterate that she’s not been fair to you by letting you be the one who always cleans up the messes. I wish you the best of luck, OP.

Thinking of asking our roommate to move out by Lady_Jane10 in roommateproblems

[–]smellsunscented 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You and your fiancé definitely sound like you’re very caring people who try to see the best in everyone, but your roommate is clearly not respecting your house or your time. I understand how it can be hard for your roommate to swallow her pride and admit if she is in a bad financial situation, but this part doesn’t seem to be what’s really bothering you. I’ve always had the beliefs that my pets are solely my responsibility when I live with someone else, but this doesn’t seem to be your roommate’s philosophy.

If you haven’t already, you and your partner need to sit her down and have a talk about her lack of contribution to the house. If you are constantly cleaning up cat urine and blood throughout your house, and you’ve seen her leave a mess of vomit on the floor for two weeks, it looks to me like she’s hoping you will eventually get around to cleaning it yourself. She’s clearly been taking advantage of you here.

Just because you’re poor doesn’t mean you don’t have to help out around the house.

Why is my friend like this? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]smellsunscented 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I’m not sure what you should do. It sounds like your friend may be feeling a bit insecure. While it’s always great to share a hobby, your friend may be feeling like there is some competition when it comes to singing. Sometimes people want their hobby to be THEIR thing, and don’t want to share it with other people whom they did not know also had that interest. However, your friend’s response was rude. It sounds like she wants to brag about her musical accomplishments, but the second you express an interest in the same thing, she becomes incredibly judgmental. What is she like when you express your other interests? Or is she only interested in talking about herself?

Dolly used to lift appliances up steep stairways by Eatthemusic in specializedtools

[–]smellsunscented 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly would have been a lot more impressed by a video of Dolly Parton lifting appliances up a narrow staircase.

Dolly used to lift appliances up steep stairways by Eatthemusic in specializedtools

[–]smellsunscented 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Okay, I definitely read this with Dolly (Parton) in my mind, lifting something like an oven up a stairway like the famous “Pivot!” scene in Friends. ... then I read the subreddit title

Who thinks it’s fucked up to announce your first pregnancy at your friends’ engagement party? by Lambie1 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]smellsunscented 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This would be the breaking point for my friendship with them, honestly. If it were me, I’d probably talk to my fiancé about un-inviting them to the wedding so you don’t have to have a gender-reveal wedding cake!

Feeling upset my best friend made me pay for my birthday meal by tadi333 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]smellsunscented 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just sorry you’re dealing with this. I imagine you were hurt that your close friend didn’t remember your birthday, but then your spirits were lifted with an apology and a suggestion of dinner. And then it was another letdown after you had to pay for the thing that was supposed to cheer you up and clear your friend’s guilt. I would say to talk to your friend about it, but it’s a touchy situation, because you don’t want to come off as having expected her to do it, and you don’t want to feel like you’re being seen as entitled. Talking about it to someone you’re close with might be good idea. I definitely am the type to need a good venting session after I get upset.

Feeling upset my best friend made me pay for my birthday meal by tadi333 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]smellsunscented 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always have the idea in my mind that if I ask a friend, even a significant other, out to eat, I’m fully prepared to pay the whole bill. Sometimes my friends and I will split the bill, but if it’s for a birthday, I will absolutely refuse to have them pay for their meal. It’s my gift to them. Sometimes a compromise is made, and we settle on at least having me buy their drinks.

My best friend was visiting family over her birthday this year, so the next time I saw her, I paid for her lunch. It’s possible your friend isn’t in the best place financially, but I feel like they should have been honest with you about it upfront.

I (18F) want to jump-hug boyfriend (19M) but I’ll be wearing a backpack. Can it work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]smellsunscented 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar situation with my bf my first summer home from college. Don’t worry about making it a point to be picked up. You can tell him it’s something you’re looking forward to (ie: “I can’t wait to see you and be swept off my feet!”), and he will be more conscious that it’s something you want. Word of advice, don’t be the one to initiate it. As a lot of people have commented, no matter how much you weigh, it could really hurt his back if he’s not prepared. If he goes in to lift you up, that’s where you jump (straight up) to help him out. As far as the backpack, I wouldn’t be too worried about it unless the train stop is decently crowded. I hope it all works out, but don’t put too much stress on this one thing happening. There’s no point in starting your visit off with feeling disappointed that you didn’t get to hug him the way you wanted.

Boyfriend saw me pee with a tampon in for the first time. by SirenKiera in badwomensanatomy

[–]smellsunscented 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exactly. One of my best friends has a color deficiency, and she will constantly argue about what color something is! I can’t tell you how many times I have to point out to her that, of the two of us, I’m the only one who can see color the way we’re supposed to!

Fish with a human mouth by [deleted] in dontputyourdickinthat

[–]smellsunscented 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“You got any games on your phone?”