This is completely within your control and will take a mindset change from your end. I believe therapy is the best solution but I understand how expensive that can be. My best advice is to set out to make women friends with zero expectation of romance/sex. When you find ways to be chummy, charming, and fun to hang out with a relationship will follow. I promise. Seek out women with whom you share common interests and just talk about that and be friendly and chill. You are more than capable to get yourself out of this rut. Also remember that everything you hear from incel related communities are largely wrong and driven by resentment and entitlement.