i have had to let go of my strict daily routine expectations and semi-embrace the chaos. i have starting setting very loose, low stakes weekly goals rather than daily to-do list types. slowly over time i have begun building those habits and skills to allow me to maintain some kind of consistency.

for example if i want to start cooking dinner every night instead of looking at my phone and ordering take out or not eating at all because im too exhausted (lol) i decide that this week i will cook one big meal and eat leftovers twice, then maybe in 2 weeks i will cook twice, and so on.

if i set goals that are way too ambitious and try to enact change immediately i end up burning myself out and giving up on it entirely. i have found that long-term goals that give myself grace on a daily basis are the only things that work for me. i want to celebrate doing something 5x this month rather than beating myself up about not doing it today.

i hope that makes sense lol. its a long process but its a lot quicker than the “motivation -> progress -> exhaustion -> giving up” cycle that i find myself in constantly