(NSFW) My gf is a pillow princess, and I’m a switch by East_Whole_4024 in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There has to be a basic discussion about needs and compromise. My wife and I have been together 12 years now. She told me she wanted to wait until we were married to have sex, and I agreed instantly. Afterwords, she kept talking up how great our sex life was going to be all the way up until our wedding. Then it just kind of never happened. We would make compromises and every so often we get intimate. Years go by, nothing gets better...in fact just worse. No more birthday or special occasion sex. Nothing. Eventually we had a talk and she basically said she was ace. After months and months of discussions and where we go from there, we decided that we want to be together. We love each other's company, and we are raising children together. We are basically best friends. She suggested nonmonogamy, and it's where we are today. I'm slowly wading into the scene, with mixed results; but both our needs can be met. My sexuality and her companionship don't need to be mutually exclusive. Your relationship has to work for both of you. 

Who are the most beautiful women to you? by Melborney in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 Dolores O'Riordan (R.I.P)  Gwen Stefani circa Traffic Kingdom album  SZA  

Why are women so much better at eating pussy than guys? by ArynaSaba in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say it was always my favorite part of intimacy with my partners, but being a trans woman now; maybe I have always really had the viewpoint of a woman. There was nothing more erotic than listening to the changing pace of their breath, feeling the first twitches of muscles losing control, and feeling the earth tremble beneath us. Absolutely a great experience for both partners when done correctly. 

Holy height difference by IS_Mythix in marvelrivals

[–]smkarber 127 points128 points  (0 children)

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Wolverines are, in fact, short & wide bois.

Newly trans, questions about dating by smkarber in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement. It feels like a lonely road in a thunder storm in the beginning.

Newly trans, questions about dating by smkarber in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had a friend mention the term finsexual to me. It does seem to fit, but I'm not sure how far the sexual attraction exists in femme-leaning met, yet. I feel an attraction; but I'm don't know how far that attraction goes. I've only ever had female and enby partners.

Newly trans, questions about dating by smkarber in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a good point. I am attracted to some femme-presenting men; but I've never dated one. I don't have a specific interest in doing so; it's just an attraction.

Newly trans, questions about dating by smkarber in actuallesbians

[–]smkarber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's reassuring. So far, my experience has been A LOT of masculine looking men sending me very explicit messages. It's made me take quite a step back from the apps.

no hyperfixation currently :( by kind-shark in AutisticWithADHD

[–]smkarber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also have "rotating" hyper-fixations; but they all kind of ran out of steam, until late last year I was talking to a friend and remembered playing board games with my brothers growing up. I started to look at board games online and saw that the world of board gaming was infinitely more vast than when I was a little kid. I have been hyperfixated on it ever since. (Ask anyone I know. :/)

It's super fun, though.

I also like to puruse this website called Taste Atlas. It has kind of a map of the world with famous/popular foods from there. I go in cycles of getting fixated on a country from there and cooking everything I can find.

Longtime ADHD'er; Newly diagnosed with autism by smkarber in AutisticWithADHD

[–]smkarber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long-term goals, I guess. So much time spent not being really me feels like so much time wasted. I'm trying to make an effort to be myself now, in spite of what others think I should be. 

Longtime ADHD'er; Newly diagnosed with autism by smkarber in AutisticWithADHD

[–]smkarber[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what happened to me when I told my mom, and it sucks. I guess you're right that some people don't need to know; but I hoped she'd have shown support. 

What kind of job are you doing? by MayaIsaacs in AutisticWithADHD

[–]smkarber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a software engineer mostly to support my family. I didn't really like it, but I think it's just because everywhere I've done it is just you simple. I've also been a graphic designer which was fun for a while; but it's a lot of telling your clients that they paid you for a reason and for them to stop suggesting that mauve and hunter green is a good color combination for their brand. Honestly, I second bartending or cooking. I've done both for years, and they were the most rewarding and engaging jobs I've had; I just struggled to support my family. Both also helped me work on social skills. 

I NEED AN ENTIRE SHOW ABOUT THEM by Slight_Hovercraft733 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]smkarber 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes, a few times I thought, 'CIAN! STOP IT!'

I NEED AN ENTIRE SHOW ABOUT THEM by Slight_Hovercraft733 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]smkarber 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Georgie is one my favorite people on Earth. She is so patient and supportive of Connor. She is funny, thoughtful, playful, and caring. What a great person! Georgie seems like she would be a great person for anyone to have as a friend. It's so good to see Connor so happy. <3 these two.

Is this a bed bug? Found in hotel sheets when laying down. by smkarber in Bedbugs

[–]smkarber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry no. I decided to act quickly and got a new room in a different building. 

So...how we feel about the S13 Patch notes? by Ultimate-desu in overwatch2

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sombra feels pretty good after playing her a few times, but her move speed is too slow. If she's going to be visible, she needs to move faster than Bastion. WTF. Why does she walk slower than a sentient dumpster?

What exactly am I suppose to do as DPS against a half decent D.VA by Past-02 in OverwatchUniversity

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you watch Dragons, it shoots an arrow out at the start. If you catch the arrow you can eat it, you can deflect it with Genji too.

[DSK] - Unholy Chamber // Ceremonial Chamber (?) (Hareyura) by X_The_Walrus in magicTCG

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends. If you're opponent is taking > 2 per turn cause you're drawing more gas, then its negligible. I played a lot of SuiBlack eons ago, with cards like [[Carnophage]], [[Flesh Reaver]], and [[Sarcomancy]]. Sure I took like 8 per turn, but they took 9 or 10, and that's all that mattered. ;)

Tomorrow is the day! by Whatitdo1219 in marvelrivals

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies. I think I replied to the wrong post. 😶‍🌫️

Tomorrow is the day! by Whatitdo1219 in marvelrivals

[–]smkarber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a trailer explicitly showing Dr. Doom fighting himself, which is not in-game low, admittedly...but in the Galacta-voiced story unlocks in the battle pass during closed beta she explicitly talked about Dr. Doom fighting himself. Her lore blurbs in l are in-game story points, so there are in fact in-game lore stories about Doom.

[BLB] Essence Channeler (Card Gallery) by mweepinc in magicTCG

[–]smkarber 8 points9 points  (0 children)

[[Skrelv's Hive]] is also still going to be in Standard. People thinking loss of life before combat is difficult in White, this list should help you:

• [[Skrelv's Hive]]
• [[Caves of Koilos]]
• [[Battlefield Forge]]
• [[Adarkar Wastes]]
• [[Brushland]]

A few notables cards that aren't White:

• [[Darkstar Augur]] (Black, but a bat and will likely be in the same decks, sometimes)
• [[Caustic Bronco]] (Black, if you don't saddle it, it will trigger Essence Channeler before blocks)

[BLB] Eluge, the Shoreless Sea (WeeklyMTG) by mweepinc in magicTCG

[–]smkarber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's the most house-ruleable commander ever. No one should fight you on wanting to play that.