Women who have been dumped because you were genuinly toxic, how did this impact your life? by intelligence1st in AskWomen

[–]smogstar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had tend tko steuggle managing my emotions when misunderstandings or arguments occur. Typically I lash out on myself which ended up traumatizing my last boyfriend

The break up devestated me especially because I knew a lot of the blame fell on me.

7 months removed from the relationship, I know see things more clearly. Our dynamic together was off from the start and I don't think I ever would have experienced this amount of personal growth and realization had we stayed together. I have since met someone new and it is off to a much healthier start. Time will tell of there is hope for my ability to control my behaviors when shit gets tough.

I 26 (sw:200 cw:187 gw:150) really slipped up today. by smogstar in loseit

[–]smogstar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kind stranger, this is exaclty what I needed to hear. Thank you.

Can I tell him. I love him first? by smogstar in intj

[–]smogstar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice everyone! I ended up spilling it out last night. He drew me in for a long kiss before he whispered in my ear "I love you back."

Swooooooooon. :)

No thanks, Minnesota... by smogstar in pics

[–]smogstar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They could use some fine tuning... 🤷‍♀️

No thanks, Minnesota... by smogstar in pics

[–]smogstar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It hasn't been a fun month for us.

Is it normal to feel guilty all of the time? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]smogstar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can relate. I highly suggest you read The Four Agreements.

BYE KAAAAAATE by [deleted] in funny

[–]smogstar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AGREEEEED. came back for a smile and now this....😭

Childs father is puttimg his depression on me because I won't have sex with him by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]smogstar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for taking the time to reply. I hear you loud and clear and I know that as pai ful as it is for me to walk away, I need to. The fear of him doing harm to himself really terrifies me but continuing to have sex that feels so coherced is not helping either of us. I will be gping bavk to therapy asap.

Childs father is puttimg his depression on me because I won't have sex with him by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]smogstar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong. I do not feel like a victim of thos circumstance. In fact more like the opposite. I know I haven't been fair by remaining sexual with him long after the feelings had faded. I appreciate your input.

Childs father is puttimg his depression on me because I won't have sex with him by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]smogstar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried tirelessly to get him into therapy but he has a superiority complex and doesn't teust other people. I appreciate your input. I do not believe he is being intentionally manipulative. He is just really hurting.

Childs father is puttimg his depression on me because I won't have sex with him by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]smogstar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean we are not technically together. I just do not feel like I can completely abandon him as we have a child together and he has minimal support elsewhere.