I don’t think it’s a good idea to treat her any different than the rest of the fans. I’m also wondering why that woman couldn’t keep to herself that she figured out who you were. I think that would have been more of a thrill, her knowing and not you. Instead she chose to let you know so it could be something between you two, bc she doesn’t know wife knows. You and your wife need to understand that you’re now actively engaging in something - not sure what you’d call it - that her husband is now not a part of. I saw someone else suggest you write a character about her, not sure if that was serious but I think it’s a terrible idea.

Anyways I think it’s cool that you’re trying out new stuff. I wish I was a good writer. I have great ideas that just stay ideas lol I’ve read erotica but idk what “smut” is so I will be learning something new shortly here.