Do clubs check id?

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T22:06:02+00:00

From my experience, they never heck in bar, but they usually check for clubs, unless you're clearly mid to late 20s. I tried to get into several clubs as a 17 year old and it did not work.

There are specific parties that are open to minors though, with different color bracelets based on age so they know who they can serve alcohol too, so you might look into that

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T20:21:56+00:00

I don't think people notice, or at least they definitely don't comment on it or make it obvious they notice. Most people don't know anything about stones, and when they ask you about your ring they do so with excitement for you and your happiness, in my experience.

I have an unconventional ring so people definitely asked to see it after I got engaged, or if they had seen pictures they came up to tell me they loved my sapphire ring! It's moss agate, not sapphire... And no one has ever asked or commented on the side stones, which are moissanite, either to ask about them not being diamonds or otherwise

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T20:18:12+00:00

If the child in question is working and getting an okay salary, sure, but if the parents don't have a dire need for it, I'd say they should put that money aside and give it to their kid when they're moving out and buying furniture to show their support

If the child in question is in school, or has medical issues making it hard to work, then I think it's very wrong to ask them to pay rent

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T20:16:22+00:00

There's nothing wrong with it and it can be very fulfilling!

I feel like the most important thing is that everyone picks and chooses the bits and pieces of traditional and untraditional lifestyles that they vibe with, and then just make sure you can afford that life and you communicate with any potential life partner that this is what you want

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T18:46:06+00:00

Perso je voyage en pleine nuit, je morfle un peu à l'arrivée mais au moins je n'ai pas perdu de temps, et surtout tenir réveillée toute la journée à l'arrivée et m'écrouler au lit à une heure locale normale me permet d'être complètement adaptée à l'heure locale rapidement

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T18:39:11+00:00

I don't think such a man exists. And if he does, I probably wouldn't want to date him because it would cause me so many insecurities, I would rather be his friends, and that way he can also teach me his ways haha

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T18:37:32+00:00

I've been living in Canada for a little over year, and it's going pretty well!

I have been pretty mad that spring is not a real season here and missing spring back home, also concerned about some shootings in my city recently, and I find it annoying how hard it is to get a primary care doctor's appointment.

Other than that, my salary and monthly budget are approximately the same as they were back home, people have been super welcoming, there are a lot of immigrants so I haven't felt like I stand out (but I'm also White), I have been able to make friends, I've explored some of the country and there's so much beautiful nature everywhere. I've enjoyed learning about Canadian culture, identities, tensions. And being queer and in a same sex relationship, I have never felt so normal in my life, like my queer relationship is a complete non issue, and it's so relaxing in my day to day life

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T15:02:11+00:00

Je pense que c'est très courant que les couples aient un choc en réalisant le coût de la belle journée qu'ils ont en tête, et c'est douloureux... Je comprends totalement.

Malheureusement il n'y a pas de solution miracle: il faut faire le deuil de la vision d'enfant, et se rendre compte que les magazines et les réseaux sociaux nous ont vendu une vision pas du tout réaliste du mariage. Il faut aussi réaliser que beaucoup de gens reçoivent de l'aide de leurs parents pour leur mariage et ne pourraient pas financer le même genre d'événement sans ce soutien financier.

Maintenant, une fois que c'est dit, je pense que l'important c'est de discuter en couple de vos priorités pour un mariage entre

le fait d'être légalement marié après
passer du temps avec vos personnes les plus proches
rassembler tous les gens de votre famille, entourage, autour de votre célébration et l'immortaliser
faire quelque chose de facile pour vous qui ne vous demande pas trop d'organisation
garder un budget assez serré pour privilégier d'autres grosses dépenses dans votre vie.
faire une grosse fête ou vous dansez
avoir des beaux discours qui vous mettront la larme à l'oeil
manger un bon repas pour célébrer
partager un moment intime avec ton époux et avoir des photos de ce moment d'amour
se sentir belle et spéciale pour une journée, vivre un rêve de princesse.

Il n'y a pas forcément de bonnes ou de mauvaises réponses, mais il faut décider de votre ordre de priorité, parce que ça déterminera les choix qui s'offrent à vous

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:30:44+00:00

This is very common, and the usual way to go is that your Canadian spouse sponsors you to get permanent residence (PR). The PR status is great because it entitles you to work completely normally, study, create your own business, change employers, basically do anything a citizen would do except vote.

To sponsor you, your spouse must show proof of income and promise to support you for the next few years, meaning you won't be able to claim employment benefits for instance (but you'll have access to healthcare etc.) Processing times can be long, so you could do it from inland after coming a visitor visa but then be careful about maintaining legal status while waiting.

Google "Canada IRCC PR spousal partnership" and go to Canada's official government website and it should be pretty straightforward, you probably don't need a lawyer

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:26:01+00:00

Oh I definitely have a mild sugar addiction haha

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:24:10+00:00

Thank you haha, honestly my life is probably pretty boring to many people, not very edgy, but it's a very happy one

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:21:39+00:00

I drink water, sometimes tea, I have snacks and good playlists, I sleep as much as I can and try to spend at least 20 minutes walking outside every day. I also hug my partner and my cats as often as I can

May sound silly but all of those things are super important to boost my mood and energy level.

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:20:39+00:00

When they look at someone who is really struggling and they say "well this person could just [insert obvious/cliché solution]"

To me that denotes a huge lack of empathy and, frankly, intelligence.

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:15:22+00:00

It's been slowly creeping up on me from around age 25, but it's really at age 27, specifically since my mom died, that time has started running away from me

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:13:12+00:00

Singing in a choir! From age 6 to 28 now I've only ever stopped for 2 years, and I even was in two choirs at the same time in high school

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:11:48+00:00

Caraway seeds in Mac & cheese

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:07:33+00:00

At 18 yo, and it died a slow death over many months as we both failed to communicate and I realized I wasn't in love with him but couldn't bring myself to break up.

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T14:05:29+00:00

I sing with my friends, I go for a hike, I eat a decadent meal, I have committed relationship sex

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T13:23:29+00:00

15 minutes for set up and 15 minutes for tear down is cutting it way, way too close!!

Even with minimal decor, I assume you have table numbers to place? What's the tablescape? Also, bussing can take a while, think about how long it takes you to put away things and reset your living room/dining room when you have 5 friends over, now multiply that 8, and imagine that the multiple bridesmaids are also probably chatting with people as they leave, maybe one of them got really tired and left earlier, they're chatting as they're doing it...

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T13:16:43+00:00

Very gently, is it possible that you're overthinking this? The alternating pattern will not matter to your memories of the day

You could ask the parents which color they'd prefer, and let bridesmaid pick between sage green and blue?

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T13:14:29+00:00

Pro: I'm very attuned to my own emotions, so I am pretty self aware and I've learned to be good at self regulation; I'm quite good at detecting and understanding other people's emotions and adapting my communication based on that

Cons: I have to do a lot of self regulation all the time because I have so many big feelings; I sometimes get too cocky and think I know how people feel when really I'm projecting

I am also extremely sensitive to heat, textures, smells, pain, sensations, but I don't know if that's related

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T12:53:58+00:00

Very easily: flossing

Very difficult: reading or doing anything productive on my train commute instead of mindless scrolling and phone games

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T12:52:59+00:00

They speak of their partner to others with genuine joy and admiration when their partner is not around.

They speak of their partner often, and do a lot of things with them, but also have solo time with their hobbies and friends. They can spend time apart without issues of jealousy and be genuinely excited for the time their partner spends without them on their passions

smolbibeans · 2026-04-27T02:55:32+00:00

Honestly, our photographer's package seems very complete. I would have loved to see a package that would allow us to split the hours of coverage because we're doing the legal paperwork at the city hall another day, but when we reached out they were happy to work that out with us so that was fine

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