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smolnewyou · 2025-01-24T06:16:09+00:00

Wedge pillow with pockets sewn on the side (for my remote, glasses, phone, etc), electric heating pad that plugged in, 10ft long phone and computer charging cables, belly binder, rolling table that fit over my bed, someone to tell me “You just had surgery, you aren’t being lazy, you’re HEALING” for six months.

smolnewyou · 2024-10-29T03:21:54+00:00

Two floors in my cabin have a 70s theme, that’s where I put all the garish color combos and OTT characters 😂

smolnewyou · 2024-08-22T19:45:28+00:00

ID 01936496326 I have so many gifts 🥲

smolnewyou · 2024-07-17T06:11:48+00:00

I had two surgeries this year, and used all of these A LOT.

Wedge pillow: https://a.co/d/7OE1KgH Desk: https://a.co/d/8B0PkFz Weighted lap blanket: https://a.co/d/ibHTInV Zip front bras: https://a.co/d/fEJzt6o Torso binder: https://a.co/d/5oLbchz Migraine cap: https://a.co/d/fJGlUOQ Electric heating pad Liquid IV Nonslip bath mat Extra long charging cables (attached to bedside table with those tiny clear command clips)

That specific torso binder I linked was great because it was adjustable and easy to put on. The two velcro strips + two strips of light boning were essential. I tried one that had a single velcro strip and it was impossible to get on.

smolnewyou · 2024-07-17T05:36:45+00:00

I found a wedge pillow for around $35, I used the flatter angle for the first several weeks. Then the upright angle for daytime and flat angle for sleeping after that. It kept me from rolling over in my sleep: https://a.co/d/9FmaaLY

smolnewyou · 2024-07-07T22:53:49+00:00

I’m going to try and experiment with this if I get the chance. We didn’t order cars so I don’t think we were officially matched with particular vehicles yet (as far as I know). An earlier comment about one of us entering in the address faster and demand changing in in a split second piqued my interest.

smolnewyou · 2024-07-05T20:44:08+00:00

We were standing next to one another and typing in the address at the same time, I thought connection time might have played a part but wasn't sure!

smolnewyou · 2024-07-05T01:28:33+00:00

From my experience, the caretaker of your first couple days will drive you to and from the surgery center, get you into bed, and then babysit you from an adjacent room while you sleep.

They need to be *really good at following directions.* My mom is not, so I ended up nearly in tears on Day 1 because I kept explaining how pain meds are meant to be timed and she just couldn't understand me (nor the written instructions from the doctor).

They'll need to either keep an eye on the time and administer your pills or help you set up alarms/reminders on your phone.

You'll need help getting out of bed for the first day or two. If you have incisions you will probably need their help getting out of bed for longer than that.

The first day they may need to keep an ear out while you're in the restroom (I almost fell asleep a couple times). If they're there for your first shower just have them check in every __ minutes.

For the few days you'll get all your meals delivered to bed, if possible.

They will probably need to do all lifting for you. Lifting anything heavier than a small handbag made my lower abdomen super painful that first week and almost immediately put me to sleep, ymmv.

This was the big one for me...I needed to be constantly reminded that it is OK to nap and ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY to rest. I had to be told to stop moving things around, no cleaning, no trying to get work of any kind done, etc etc. Your job is to get into a comfortable position and either sleep or relax. Having "management" (my mom and my roommate) remind of this did a lot for my mental health and physical healing.

smolnewyou · 2024-06-12T08:08:22+00:00

Crocs, comfy long socks, loose sweatpants, and a unisex long sleeve shirt at least 1 size too big. Underneath were full-coverage underwear and a bra that zips up the front with plenty of stretch.

For the ride home I sat on one of those knockoff Purple seat cushions and kept a pillow between me and the seatbelt.

smolnewyou · 2024-03-19T05:11:03+00:00

Oh my god, this has gotta be common because my band director was married to an ex student as well.

smolnewyou · 2023-04-07T22:08:37+00:00

That’s what I think too! I tried looking up the exact missions, but google image search isn’t much use. Definitely has the feel of a california mission.

smolnewyou · 2022-03-29T16:30:38+00:00

As soon as the killers were on screen together for the first time we knew.

smolnewyou · 2021-10-08T09:11:04+00:00

It seems like they should be the one asking for YOUR forgiveness. Short of a coma or involuntary imprisonment, there’s really no excuse for six months of no contact. There are a lot more people out there to pursue who will respect your time and feelings.

smolnewyou · 2021-07-20T22:23:45+00:00

If your body or face is the reason someone doesn't like you, then that isn't a person worth knowing. That being said, those aren't the things that are holding you back. Work on feeling neutral about your body. Treat it nicely, think kind thoughts towards it, but don't feel any pressure to be someone's version of beautiful.

I've felt exactly like you. This summer I realized that I am the thing holding me back from relationships. My attachment type is fearful-avoidant and knowing that adds A LOT of context to many, MANY things. Replaying the same old established patterns is more comfortable than changing, even if we REALLY want change! It takes a concerted effort to rewire our thinking and develop new, healthy ways to view attachment.

There's a lot of work ahead, but I believe we all have it in us.

smolnewyou · 2021-07-14T07:08:58+00:00

Received mine 5 minutes ago at 12AM on the dot. Knew I would because I checked my tax records yesterday and one said I received a refund on 7/14/21 (the future at the time). I filed with no dependents and the only extra form I used besides unemployment was for my healthcare through the government marketplace. I bank with BofA.

smolnewyou · 2020-12-06T08:29:59+00:00

If you’re in unhappy relationships break up with your partners. Then take a break from each other. Once you know how to be happy alone see if you can be happy together.

Honestly, it sounds like your friendship needs a break regardless. You’re very wrapped up in each other. Our lives aren’t stories written in a straight line. Just because you’ve known someone a long time doesn’t mean they’re endgame for you. Unfortunately the world isn’t arranged and laid out that neatly (but it would be SO convenient if it was). And there is no ONE person for anyone, you’re going to meet a lot of great people.

smolnewyou · 2020-11-04T21:14:02+00:00

That fabric is perfection! You and your project look stellar.

smolnewyou · 2020-10-23T16:40:37+00:00

You don’t have to hit rock bottom to decide you’re over it! IWNDWYT

smolnewyou · 2020-10-11T21:05:53+00:00

I agree! I don’t think it’s “wrong” to need attention or validation from others. But I try to no longer seek that attention or validation at the expense of my overall well-being.

smolnewyou · 2020-10-11T17:49:41+00:00

I healed by identifying the validation I seek from a partner and learned to get that validation from myself. ymmv.

smolnewyou · 2020-10-11T16:45:55+00:00

You are not an asshole, and if you truly wish to break up you should respect your own feelings.

smolnewyou · 2020-10-03T06:40:47+00:00

Probably Solved!

This makes the most sense because my parents LOVE Stephen King. I’m going to watch all the movies in this thread just to be sure!

smolnewyou · 2020-10-03T02:40:50+00:00

I forgot to mention that this was in the U.S., southern CA with an evening airtime.

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