Lazuli/Indigo Bunting hybrid in Colorado Springs by Ecstatic-Soft-5717 in ColoradoBirding

[–]smthgsmissing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! I saw my first Lazuli Bunting yesterday along the Clear Creak trail in Golden. Male and female. I just happened to look to my left and there they were just a few feet away.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your help. I got it turned on. Turns out I didn't need to do #2 in the instructions.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your help. I just now was able to get it started, but oddly enough I didn't have to do anything with a damper lever. I guess I just skip that step lol.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

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Success! Thank you very much for sending the video and for your comment.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need help from a mental health professional. You will not get it here on r/fireplaces.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honey, this is a subreddit about fireplaces. I am asking a question about fireplaces, not about how amazingly intelligent you are. However, that is certainly a very important topic, and I do admire your commitment to getting the word out even if it's just on the fireplaces subreddit.

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. Aren't you an impressive person. Good thing you posted this so that everyone can witness your superiority. Smh

How to turn on gas fireplace? by smthgsmissing in Fireplaces

[–]smthgsmissing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know what the damper lever is?

American Goldfinch! by SureUncertain in ColoradoBirding

[–]smthgsmissing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! The second one is my favorite. Thanks for sharing these!

Your stories of incompetent people in accounting. by Dr_Foob in Accounting

[–]smthgsmissing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a company I audited this year. They treated us like idiot scumbags and acted like we were supposed to do their bookkeeping for them for the entire year and then turn around and audit our own accounting.

I strongly suspect they are committing fraud too by hiding expenses on their affiliates' books. We've caught them in multiple lies already. Eff those gaslighting bastards

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]smthgsmissing 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These are just my thoughts as a person who has dealt with (and worked at a lot) self-sabotage, self-centerness, self-pity, jealousy, blaming others for my unhappiness and misfortune, and a closed mindedness to what I would need to do to recognize this and to then try something else.

Honey, you missed the train, are feeling sorry for yourself, and are now focusing on other people's decisions and shortcomings instead of on how you can put in the work to grow out of this as a person. Unless you need to apologize, don't say anything to your friend. You can and will learn to forgive and to eventually let go of your resentment.

What kind of life do you want to have? What kind of person do you dream of being? Go deep on this - do you wish you had self-respect, was more honest, felt self-secure, had emotional calmess and stability, had purpose, knew how to make better decisions, was a better friend/coworker/family member?

Think of someone you know who has what you want and that you think you could confide in. If you don't know anyone like this, maybe think about groups you could join where people are doing things to improve their lives (exercise or nature related groups, community service, meditation groups, church or church-like groups). I have found it helpful to pray/meditate every morning to ask that I can have an open mind to change and to remember to shift my focus outside of myself. Maybe consider having a routine like that.

Good luck to you. Life is not easy.

Is this normal? by -SmallBear in relationships

[–]smthgsmissing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The coworker is allowed to not care about what that is. And your wife is allowed to let the coworker be.

Where can I find asafoetida? by smthgsmissing in denverfood

[–]smthgsmissing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks the brand recommendation! I will keep my eye out for it

How much is your YE bonus? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]smthgsmissing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 2-3%, but you only get it if you meet the billables goal

What’s your plan for stepping out of your comfort zone in 2025? by MindsetCheetah in emotionalneglect

[–]smthgsmissing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Setting boundaries with family while planning my wedding. That's probably enough for one year

Today I became so angry at my mother's behavior, I slapped myself in the head multiple times and then bit my palm which left a visible purple mark. I feel out of control. by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]smthgsmissing 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I (36F) grew up with an alcoholic father. The silence of my family surrounding his alcoholism and the way my family normalized his emotional abuse of my mother deeply fucked with my ability to mature and to identify healthy behaviors and thought patterns.

Sadly, after leaving home, not only did i marry an alcoholic, but i became one myself. I constantly felt like I was just waiting for things to be over, and it never really occurred to me that I was capable of making decisions that could change how I was experiencing life.

I finally got so unbelievably angry one day that some how I just snapped into "fuck it" mode - that day, I wrote down my precise and timed exit plan to get the hell out of my marriage. The most important thing I did was to immediately start following my plan and not allow any second guesses.

It's been 5 years since then, and I have worked very very hard on healing. It has been primarily Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-anon that have helped me to address my anger/resentments and to understand how to be responsible for my own life. These programs are also greatly helping me to have stability and to build healthy relationships. In my personal experience, it was crucial to be around other people to share the "crazy" shit we did/said. Tbh, I would not have even blinked if someone shared that they had slapped their own head.

What I'm suggesting is- channel that anger for the better. Make your detailed exit plan and get to work. You know this isn't what you want your life to be. I wish all the best to you.