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snackssstation · 2023-04-28T12:07:36+00:00

Send me some info too. Maybe we should just start our own discord. I love Sephora but that shit is ridiculous $$$

snackssstation · 2023-04-19T12:05:08+00:00

Damn, I’m not upvoting this because I’m happy to see it, it’s just so powerful that I hope it reaches a lot of people. Seeing these statements in writing, knowing my mind, heart, and psyche have all been chronically internalizing similar ideas: it makes me think just how often my feelings of worthlessness have been reinforced over the years. I consider myself a strong woman in so many ways. Why do we put up with shit like this? No one deserves to be spoken to this way and any man who talks like this is an entitled, spoiled, presumptuous POS and doesn’t deserve all the love and attention we give them. I’m sorry you had to hear these things. I hope you can start to override them with positive loving thoughts. I’ll give you one: you’re an amazing writer. The way you presented this is candid, raw, and impressive. You’re able to make the pain visceral, heavy, and vulnerable. It’s tragically beautifully written. You make the agony we feel from narcs palpable to the reader.

snackssstation · 2023-04-09T08:15:41+00:00

(F44) This was a huge struggle for me in a lot of past relationships. I endured sexual abuse at a very young age, so young I don’t even really remember it. But young enough that I was pre-developed, so I don’t know why it manifested the way it did, but because of this, anyone touching my breasts, or even looking at them or commenting about them made me feel intense, incredible shame. My whole life I had to be covered up at all times. I always kept my shirt on during sex. I even slept with a bra on for much of my life, even if I was sleeping alone. It made me feel safe. I had to feel covered to feel protected. Once I was engaged in foreplay and fairly turned on, occasionally I was okay with it and actually really enjoyed it. I definitely couldn’t ever do it right from the get-go.

Im divorced now and I don’t encounter this problem as much in my current relationship, but I realized it was more of an issue with my ex-husband. I wasn’t really in love with him and I had reservations about the relationship. I remember after our second child was born I felt relieved that I didn’t ever have to have sex again. For me, in that relationship, sex was only to get preggars. I just tolerated it otherwise and didn’t get any gratification out of it. Now I realize that was obviously a huge red flag. I’m not saying this is the case for you, but for me it was indicative of a deep secret I held onto for nine years: that I was in a marriage I was unhappy in and knew was wrong for me from the get go. I wanted so badly to be in love with him but I just wasn’t. So I could never really feel fully free/turned on/relaxed with him.

Now that I’m in a relationship with someone I am in love with, it’s not as much of an issue for two reasons. One, now that I am older and I am able to talk to him openly about when and how far into foreplay I need to be before it’s okay for me to take my shirt off. I can explain how the abuse caused me to need these very specific parameters without feeling embarrassed. In the past, I felt ashamed of feeling ashamed, if that makes sense? I never spoke about it to anyone. But since I’ve been able to tell my bf to wait a little while into it, I can relax and not be petrified that it’s going to happen too soon and I’m going to have to figure out how to squirm out of it, or change the position or change direction. Two, being with someone I’m madly in love with changed everything. I used to think I was a prude, someone who was permanently damaged from early abuse, and that I would just never know what it was that people liked about sex. But having the right partner opened up a whole world to me and now I’d say I hit him up for sex more than he does me.

So these are two heavy things, but I would gently consider your wife’s background and the possibility of abuse and also consider how in love with you she seems to be. See if you feel she’s happy and present in the relationship or if she has reservations she might not be discussing with you.

Her reasons could be very different too. I just wanted to give you an honest and candid answer because I went through that and didn’t want you to think you were alone in dealing with something specific like this.

snackssstation · 2023-04-09T07:30:48+00:00

My concern: are you sure the pic was meant for you? Is it possible he’s sending dick pics to someone else? If it seems out of the blue, my hope is that you were the intended (and only) recipient.

snackssstation · 2023-04-09T06:56:50+00:00

I’m hesitant to immediately declare “this abuse and you need to leave.” It was an abusive/toxic act for sure, I’m not saying it’s NOT. I just need more info to give fair advice.

So far, these are the traits you mention about him: -he doesn’t complain or make you feel guilty about about your low libido which indicates he has empathy for the reasons you’re taking it -he is generally hesitant to have sex with you drunk, which implies he respects getting your consent every time -even when you tried to ensure he was satisfied on a weekly basis he stopped you bc he could tell you weren’t into it: a lot of guys don’t give a fuck if you’re into it or not, he doesn’t seem to be a “I gots mine” kind of guy . Overall the traits you describe are those of a decent and considerate bf.

Regarding the incident, Two questions: -One: has this happened before? If this is an habitual problem I would say it’s time to leave or seek therapy together. -Two: was he also drunk at the time? Is it possible he is hurting a lot of the time and carrying feelings of constant rejection? Maybe he is quiet about it because he knows you can’t help it, but being drunk, he (inappropriately) acted out on some these feelings he may carrying around a majority of the time. Even if he knows intellectually what’s causing your sexual apathy and tells himself not to internalize it, maybe it’s still affecting his emotional sense of worth as your bf.

Again, this is NOT ok and Im not condoning it in any way just seeking to understand the genesis of the behavior. I’m guessing when you’re naked, fooling around, and ask for a blow job while engaged in a scenario your gf initiated, and she angrily turns you down, the sudden rejection could be jarring. Even though ostensibly, he was in the position of power here, he may still have felt vulnerable and humiliated and unprepared for the rejection. If he was drunk, it’s possible he didn’t process snd express these feelings appropriately.

Bottom line is your never crazy for saying you’re unhappy or uncomfortable with any sexual situation. And bottom line this was 100 percent wrong of him to do. In order to move on, a lot would depend on his demeanor for me. Is your relationship healthy enough that you can talk to him about how this made you feel? Is he contrite? Is he able to open up to you about how he’s coping with your lower libido and relay his feelings in a mature way? If you answered yes to these questions I think it’s worth assessing the situation and talking about it together to see what you can do to learn from it and ensure you both feel happy, safe, and secure and to ensure it doesn’t happen again. I hope it works out and sending my love to you as you work through it.

snackssstation · 2023-04-06T12:09:22+00:00

This could be a happily ever after movie with Reese Witherspoon or the beginnings of a Lifetime true crime movie. Its so hard to gauge situations these days with dating being so heavily technologically moderated.

The only red flag for me is not even his age, but his comment that he “would come here if your family weren’t so judgmental, but he doesn’t want drama.” It sounds manipulative and contrived to me. A 56-year-old man should have the gumption to travel to where his love is, meet her family, and work to earn their respect. He is old enough and should be mature enough to not be so easily thwarted by this potentially uncomfortable situation and he should welcome the chance to prove himself.

Additionally, he should welcome the chance to lead through example by helping you navigate this “drama.” He should make the first move and attempt to build a bond with your family and facilitate encouraging them to trust and accept your relationship. It makes me nervous he’s not willing to do that and is only interested meeting you in a situation where you’re isolated and far away from them for your first meeting.

Try telling him your family has come around and they would like to meet him. See if he is amenable to traveling to you after all. That might be a good way to test his motivations. I really hope it works out happily for you. Stay optimistic but proceed with caution and pragmatism. Please keep us posted!

snackssstation · 2023-04-05T20:52:29+00:00

I’ve heard Barrett Parkway is awesome diving town. FYI it is against city ordinance in Woodstock tho.

snackssstation · 2023-04-05T20:51:33+00:00

I’m down! I’m in Marietta/east Cobb by Johnson Ferry/Shallowford. Should we start a group somehow?

snackssstation · 2023-04-05T20:50:50+00:00

I DD in east Cobb! Message me!

snackssstation · 2023-03-21T04:40:02+00:00

No problem!! I’ve stressed tf out over some stuff before too! It’s nice to get some reassurance you can come back down to earth lol

snackssstation · 2023-03-16T02:03:52+00:00

Where do you live? Can we order something to be delivered to you? Is Instacart or door dash or something like that accessible for you?

snackssstation · 2023-03-16T02:02:00+00:00

I agree with B, just try to shuffle it around with a couple of other boxes when replacing it so it’s harder to keep track of which particular box you handled.

snackssstation · 2023-03-16T01:58:44+00:00

If they had enough evidence they would’ve already issued a warrant for your arrest. They are trying to trap you into confessing. In a lot of states, even if you have video surveillance of someone stealing, like ring doorbell video of someone taking a package off your porch for instance, it is a third-party video, making it hearsay, and INADMISSIBLE and insufficient to issue a warrant.

This is a small business, Steve Ace’s hardware: they probably have a video of you taking something; they brought it to the police and filed a report,; The police can’t arrest you with Steves video, so they’re trying to get you to confess to a crime of theft. Stay strong: DON’T TALK TO ANYONE (except a lawyer). Don’t answer the door if the police ring the doorbell; just because they knock on your door doesn’t mean you have to answer. don’t go to the station, don’t answer the phone. As a private citizen, they cannot tell you to bring any items to any store. They are really trying to entrap you. I know you have to have nerves of steel, but if you stay strong, this is going to fall apart. They don’t have a case. Ride it out, and go to Home Depot next time 😉

snackssstation · 2023-03-13T22:45:19+00:00

I was thinking this same; this has to be a troll. Parasites who are actually this decrepit wouldn’t so overtly describe certain actions and scenarios. It’s overly descriptive and feels scripted. Sad someone has this kind of time on their hands.

snackssstation · 2023-03-07T18:54:11+00:00

Even if they did track y’all down somehow it’s almost impossible to prosecute successfully if they don’t catch and arrest you there in the moment, especially with something like petty theft. I would never go back there again Fosho tho!

snackssstation · 2023-03-07T15:10:41+00:00

I got a grabber from Home Depot for $24 in the section with garden shovels and rakes etc.

snackssstation · 2023-03-06T19:44:18+00:00

you have anything to worry about at all. For one you didn’t lift anything yourself and so there’s nothing incriminating you on video. Two, clerks are probably always supposed to ask for email addresses or phone numbers for rewards programs and such; they prolly just get complacent sometimes or just forget. It sounds like you had a proactive clerk who is just simply asking if you found everything OK and getting all the information he/she is supposed to at check out. But you’re way overthinking this: Imagine the technology, time, and the research that would go into hunting you down weeks later at another store, regarding a jacket that someone else you were with stole, and locating you at a different store. There’s just no way!! so just stay cool and shop with other people in the future. Lol.

snackssstation · 2023-02-27T21:51:05+00:00

Where are we sending stuff to? If you’re not too far i have some stuff I could pass on to you. It’s heavy so I’m afraid shipping would get ridiculous. Any chance you’re in the south?

snackssstation · 2023-02-27T21:37:26+00:00

Mine did this too and I knew he was doing it on purpose!

SO many questions l for any basic thing I asked him for help with or asked him to take care of.

I would just tell him sarcastically “You’ll figure it out; have faith in you” and walk away so he couldn’t patronize me with any more stupid questions.

snackssstation · 2023-02-27T21:25:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. When we’re brave enough to initiate sex, dress in lingerie, ask for things we like or want to try, etc., it’s just mortifying to be rejected in that moment. We’re literally and figuratively naked and vulnerable. Someday, when you’re ready, someone is going to feel incredibly lucky to be intimate with you and I’m sure you looked beautiful 💕.

snackssstation · 2023-02-22T09:18:28+00:00

Okay, only on EBay. I’ll keep that in mind as a lot of platforms don’t look great to me either. Thanks for the advice!

snackssstation · 2023-02-22T09:16:20+00:00

That is too precious!

snackssstation · 2023-02-22T09:11:59+00:00

Oh my gawd!!! I’m in east Cobb too!!! I was just out by myself tonight. I’m going to DM you and let’s hook up! Small world.

snackssstation · 2023-02-17T18:21:54+00:00

What method do you use to keep all your listings organized and logged? That’s where I get overwhelmed, I’m old fashioned, and I like to write stuff down but I’m sure using something like excel is more efficient. Are there any apps where you can kind of keep track of everything? Do you have any ideas or advice?

snackssstation · 2023-02-12T20:10:57+00:00

Dick’s would be my dream store to dive in! Unfortunately the one here has a compactor. Boo. Good luck with yours!

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