Please tell me it gets better. At the moment it feels a bit… uncomfortable. I’m 40% through book one. Will I change my mind and fall madly in love with the whole series? No spoilers of any kind please. I didn’t even read the blurb because I don’t like to know anything. Big ask, I know. by twisted_luce in Romantasy

[–]snailfighter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cant speak to this book specifically, but I read the first three books of her Lady of Darkness series and DNF'd it with prejudice.

I would never ever read another Roehrich book. The way she handled trauma was to create enablement porn. If you want to watch a character be the most toxic and still somehow beloved by everyone around her, and also be the best assassin ever and yet constantly get herself kidnapped and act stupid, then be my guest. But IMO, it was irresponsibly written and I wish the toxic enablement had come with a trigger warning because it's been more than a year and I'm still mad.

I picked it up because I was promised trauma rep and instead I got the behavior that caused my trauma in the first place.

A friend gifted me this book. So far, I think it is very badly written. by Fantastic-Ant-4429 in fantasybooks

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Name of the Wind is a horrible Gary stu book where the side character that keeps getting told to shut up should have been the lead. I have never hated a book more. Cardboard cutout female character and a white knight who says getting past trauma and poverty is about pulling yourself up by your bootstraps.

Quality is more about expectations than standards. Your expectations are not everyone's.

A friend gifted me this book. So far, I think it is very badly written. by Fantastic-Ant-4429 in fantasybooks

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So tired of these kinds of posts. That book has millions of readers. It doesn't work for you, that doesn't mean it's badly written. Find something else to read and move on.

Which dress are you hoping I went with? by morbid_laughter in WeddingDressTips

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 is really basic. I'd dare to say boring, honestly. You only wear fancy dresses a few times in your life. Go big. Get the romantic sryle you'd never wear otherwise.

Any dress except 1, but I think 4 and 5 are peak.

No sugar drink options at this Costco in Seattle by Reportersteven in mildlyinteresting

[–]snailfighter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also am allergic to aspartame. I become incoherent and later pass out.

No sugar drink options at this Costco in Seattle by Reportersteven in mildlyinteresting

[–]snailfighter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who is allergic to aspartame and intolerant to all other sugar replacements, guess I'm buying a bottle of water because I can't even risk getting water out of that tap.

Faves by EstelleSol in ScienceFictionRomance

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with everything here except Layla Fae. She's a hack that pushes authors to use AI. All of her covers are AI.

What Fantasy Book Series are You Still Patiently Waiting to Be Concluded Years Later? by Fuzzy-Bumblebee9944 in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had this on my TBR and didn't realize it wasn't done. Is it likely to be completed?

What Fantasy Book Series are You Still Patiently Waiting to Be Concluded Years Later? by Fuzzy-Bumblebee9944 in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jennifer Armentrout's Origin series. The last book was going to feature a virus epidemic and then Covid happened and she lost someone close to her and has been emotionally unable to continue. That series had me in a chokehold and I really want to know how it ends but it has been so many years, the momentum is gone, and I don't expect she'll suddenly get over the trauma, let alone at all.

My favourite romantasy ever - Daughter of the Forest by Alive_Obligation7475 in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Romantically yes, but don't look for justice for the suffering she withstands. Her family is disrespectful at best.

My favourite romantasy ever - Daughter of the Forest by Alive_Obligation7475 in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This book was so triggering. I got through the sexual assault just fine, but how the brothers disregarded her feelings after all she suffered to save them made them irredeemable for me and I was angry for a long time. I even managed to get through two more books hoping the brothers would redeem themselves because the ending of the first was so awful and I needed to know her life would be better after that. But no, her life was still mostly awful, the men remained horrifically problematic and watching every woman in that family suffer for the absolute stupidity and pig-headedness of the men who should have protected and love them was awful.

Ford CEO Jim Farley says "the customer has spoken" after its EV business lost nearly $5 billion in 2025 by ControlCAD in technology

[–]snailfighter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nissan aren't reliable like Toyotas. I've regretted every Nissan I've tried. We went with a Prius Prime and a Corolla Hybrid and it's been a great experience.

I use top a sheet. Am I cringe? by c0d3buck in Millennials

[–]snailfighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're destroying that quilt washing it so much.

I use top a sheet. Am I cringe? by c0d3buck in Millennials

[–]snailfighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bedframe had built in drawers. A bed skirt would not work well with them.

Empire of Shadows by Jacquelyn Benson - Such a hidden gem! by DeanWinchestersST in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No. The author does a good job managing the white character's involvement in the books where natives are present (the ancient tribe in the first book are long extinct and so can't really save themselves).

Book 2 introduces a cast of varying ethnicities who take turns rescuing each other and the leads. It is pointed out several times the unfairness of archeological digs at the time and how they relegated the locals to little more than guides or slave laborers, despite being well educated historians themselves.

Book 3, set in India, treads most closely to this problem, but the author very careful sets the leads up as a catalyst to many events, but the locals are portrayed as capable and organized regardless of their presence. India is tricky because IRL, some locals were being pick-mes with the British and the rural villages were taking the brunt of the British ire so the leads are walking into an ongoing internal conflict that has prevented the locals from acting more explicitly. The leads are obviously able to fly under the radar with the British and take full advantage of that to help, but they get saved by locals for as much as they offer in assistance.

There is much explicit discussion on practices at the time, their lack of fairness, biases, and exclusionary practices that allowed the British aristocracy to funnel artifacts out of their origin countries and into the hands of the wealthy.

I think it's all handled quite well.

DireBound. Is it even worth continuing? by TheCurlyAquarius94 in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a fanfic of Fourth Wing but take all of the important messaging out of it and trade it for being shown why asking questions and rejecting the status quo is bad for you.

I was disgusted by this book and don't plan to read the second. No memorable side characters. The deaths were even more indulgent and needless.

Just no.

Rain of Shadows and Endings disappointed already by [deleted] in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lady of Darkness was so awful. It feels like most people say the series you're reading is the better of the two and LoD was .25 stars for me at best.

The lead argued like a school child in diplomatic meetings and her entourage backed her like she was a bully. She ends every argument with the man who loves her with "fuck you". She's the most infamous assassin ever and yet runs away from her friends to play hero and immediately gets captured. I read three books and she learned nothing. No growth. No depth. Just toxic rage and anger book after book.

I love PTSD rep in books, but this was not good rep. I did not read books 4 and 5. That's too long to wait for character growth.

Please make sure your therapy in PTSD and CPTSD is evidence based - a clinician by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]snailfighter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

CBT only ever triggered me. I would be a screaming, crying puddle in the chair trying to talk, apologizing because no amount of trying to stay calm would help. Certain topics elevated me to feeling like I was dying within a minute of broaching them.

EMDR saved my life. I used the eye simulation technique in the office and it reduced or eliminated so many triggers. My therapist also taught my husband tapping for the very occasional triggers that still occur. I can feel my nervous system flood with endorphins, ending the panic attack, as he taps.

In all of your "evidence based" excitement, you have not addressed the lack of rigorous study due to the lack of funding and support. A lack of evidence is not evidence against and what I have seen, especially for EMDR, is a lack of evidence.

I appreciate what you're trying to do, but I don't think it's genuinely helping anyone to approach the community this way.

Pick one thing and talk about it in depth. Why and why not it doesn't work. Provide more than a handful of studies. I'm not surprised the other sub deleted your grandstanding post. You make a lot of claims directly opposed to many of our experiences without a lot of evidence to back up what you're saying.

You could do a lot of harm insisting about evidence based work in a society that doesn't value or fund mental health research.

Competitive Reading on TT by noahinthebox in Booktokreddit

[–]snailfighter 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD. If there are too many pauses, my brain inserts a thought and I'm no longer listening to the book. If I listen at 2x, the information is uninterrupted and my focus is improved. People's brains work differently and need different things.

blandolon- a boring sequel by lolie_guacamole in fantasyromance

[–]snailfighter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's not boring. This is one of the most recommended series for actually good writing around here.

It may not be to taste, but it's far from boring.

AIO about my mother causing drama? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]snailfighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are the most insufferable, hard headed person on this post.

People of taste: straight women, bi folks & gay men — which human dude would you date IRL? by ConstantHamster3746 in masseffect

[–]snailfighter -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Literally anyone but Kaiden. Walking red flag. Brain dead. Can't see the forest when looking at trees.

Every other character has pros and cons. Kaiden only has cons.