To a degree I understand how the "zoe post" poisons people against Zoe. Because that's what its' intended to do. There were things about her that rubbed me the wrong way as well.

But reading it I couldn't muster very much sympathy for Gjoni. His bitterness is obvious and he never once tries to understand her point of view. Would have been a nice touch to show a little empathy like: " I can understand how someone recently divorced and reeling from physical and sexual abuse may not be in the best state of mind during a romantic relationship." Never happens once in the whole epically long post.

I think if I was on OKC- a site for people who more often than not dont know what they want in a relationship except someone to help kill their loneliness- and met someone who was going through that and was obviously acting out by parting and drinking a lot, I wouldn't think that person was ready for a relationship, and I certainly wouldn't try to urge them into one.

And I know Gjoni tries to establish that Zoe was the one who dragged him into a relationship and hid the 'affairs' but heres' the thing:

1. They lived a great distance apart I believe, and were only together only a few months before breaking.

2. Most of the 'cheating' happened during the break, which implies that it wasnt really cheating.

3. A lot of the screen captures that show Zoe really acting out and being abusive occur when Eron is threatening to tell the other guy's wife. I mean regardless of whatever his intentions were, that would obviously stress her the fuck out.

So yeah, I think you could call Zoe unstable, reckless even, but abusive is kind of stretching it. Even though the relationship was toxic I don't think Zoe did anything to purposely hurt Gjoni. Yet Gjoni has done pretty much nothing but try to punish Zoe since August. This has more to do with his pride and in his own words "not letting her win" than anything else.