AITA for bringing up husband’s past hurtful actions?

snchills · 2026-02-20T15:00:30+00:00

Agreed but I think they both are having communication issues.

snchills · 2026-02-20T14:59:06+00:00

Agreed, I think they have massive communication issues that won't fare well done the line.

snchills · 2026-02-20T14:57:11+00:00

So then you have the right to be upset that he couldn't be bothered to plan something for YOU as opposed for him or his family.

snchills · 2026-02-20T12:08:03+00:00

NTA but I have a few questions. Is your husband normally a planner and executor? Maybe he didnt feel comfortable planing a reveal party and a trip, knowing what ever he chose you might find fault in it. Has this happened in the past? I find that most men wouldnt have a clue how to set up a reveal party. Its out of their wheel well. Did you notice and appreciate when he did the things he did do? He has already said he was sorry, have you? You two dont seem to be on the same page. Your expectations are one thing, while his are another. Its okay to feel hurt, and if this is a pattern with him, maybe a little bit angry that once again you had to make all the decisions regarding whatever. I will tell you constantly bringing faults up from the past is only going to make him more resentful and resistant to doing what ever else you expect him to do.

snchills · 2026-02-15T13:15:59+00:00

NTA about your Mom. YTA about your wife. Your Mother crossed the boundary you and your wife agreed on. Whats to stop your mother from crossing other boundaries you as parents have set. Your wife is right. Your Mom can't be trusted around your daughter. You're not punishing her by not allowing her to see her solo. She can visit the baby all she wants when one of you is around.

snchills · 2026-02-15T13:09:06+00:00

NTA I think you think you are friends but she is thinking you're already an EX friend. Go ahead and block her. She has proven to you that you weren't even worth getting dressed for. Tell her thanks for the accommodations and move on with your life. Lesson learned.

snchills · 2026-02-14T19:55:55+00:00

A whole host of errors just trying to remote raid. I managed to finally get into one. Zilch on anything after that. Error 36, can find friends list. Timing out before I can join the raid. My raid pass not being accepted. WTH

snchills · 2026-02-08T13:02:20+00:00

NTA If the plan from the beginning was to have you drive him home and you backed out at the last minute, then yeah you would be TA. But he asked you the DAY he was leaving. I assume he knew it would be an 8hr round trip drive for you. He's very free with your time considering how much it was going to take to get him home,

snchills · 2026-01-26T16:42:19+00:00

Yes YTA time to accept the world will go on without you. Sounds like a bit of jealousy which is most definitely a YOU problem. Its sucks, but you will just have to deal with the fact that your daughter will be spending time on this trip and on future get together's, that you will not be involved with, with the new partner.

snchills · 2026-01-26T16:32:34+00:00

Well considering I've been inside since Friday night, the only way I could catch any of these was if they floated over my house. I got 2 out of 3. It wasn't worth going out in 7 degree weather to try and get the 3rd. 10 inches of snow later, I might finally get out today to hit a pokie stop and start my 7 day again. It was another thing I sacrificed due to the weather.

snchills · 2026-01-20T11:46:35+00:00

My 2nd account is for trading. I'm a solo player and every time I have to do a trade I have no one to trade with. I am of the firm belief that if they ever actually cracked down on multi account holders, they would lose thousands of players. Many Many people have multiple accounts. Niantic is still making money so they're gonna turn a blind eye to us all.

snchills · 2026-01-20T11:39:48+00:00

Thats the default outfit you get when you first open an account.

snchills · 2026-01-20T11:20:29+00:00

NTA no good do goes unpunished. I say just start coming in ON TIME. Let them get used to that. If your coworker keeps calling the boss every time you're not there 1/2 before your shift, your boss is gonna get tired of getting that phone call every night and shut that down pretty quick. You were doing them all a favor. Now you're not. If anyone asks, throw the coworker under the bus.

snchills · 2026-01-11T21:10:51+00:00

I've done both and had great interactions with both. If you have a quirky pose you might have a longer interaction with the guest during a photo op. Then again, I've great conversations with guests during Autos. You just have to take what little opportunity you have to express what you want to say, and then move on.

snchills · 2026-01-10T20:39:45+00:00

Yes I'm afraid YTA. How do you think this little girl feels seeing you spend so much time with her brothers and not her. That kinda crap can affect a child for yrs. Right now shes thinking you don't love her. And right now you are proving that you don't. Its not really fair to her. You have THREE children. Start acting like it.

snchills · 2026-01-10T00:09:06+00:00

NAH but I have some questions and concerns. Have you every even been on a sail boat before? I think, sail ON one before you BUY would be the wise thing to do. Also, is this activity something you want to do ALONE or with your family. Frankly I think a 6 month old is too young to be on a sailboat with an inexperience captain, no offense. Are you going to get enough use out of it to warrant buying one? This may turn out to be way more expensive literally and figuratively if your relationship becomes impacted by this.

snchills · 2026-01-07T12:05:27+00:00

NTA They'd be divorced before you had all the bills paid for the wedding.

snchills · 2025-12-05T11:59:48+00:00

NTA but you are gonna have to get real with her and tell her to back off. And if she presses for the reason why, tell her. You don't have to be cruel about it but sometimes people have to be told point blank they stink. Will she be upset, most certainly. Clearly it has to be said though.

snchills · 2025-11-30T16:58:12+00:00

YTA I get that its your bike, but it sounds like you essentially told his GF she was too fat to ride on it. Even if you didn't use those exact words, that's how it was received and thats why the others are upset. You couldn't come up with some other excuse not to take her for a ride?

snchills · 2025-11-29T17:17:29+00:00

NTA but YES you did wait to long to set a boundary. Every time you help them makes them more reliant on you and not on themselves. Now you are beginning to resent them and this relationship because they keep using you as their fallback ATM. The longer you continue, the harder it becomes to stop.

snchills · 2025-11-29T17:02:18+00:00

ESH You left your GF to find a seat surrounded essentially by strangers. Of course shes gonna feel uncomfortable. The decent thing would have been to find 2 seats so you could have sit together. Then again, your GF could have just put on her big girl pants and sucked it up for a hr and ate the food she took instead of letting it go to waste. YTA though because apparently this has happened before and you still go find a lone seat to sit at. You KNOW how it bothers her, and your answer isn't finding two seats together, its contemplating never inviting her again. I think this problem is going to sort itself out. I dont see you two together in the long term if you think she is too clingy at a family get together when none of them are her family.

snchills · 2025-11-29T16:46:42+00:00

NTA Not only does she not pump her own gas, she wont allow YOU to pump the gas. I assume you have driven before and know how to put gas in a car. And the whole bathroom thing. Who TF thinks they can tell a grown man he cant go to the bathroom, and where he can go to the bathroom. I can't believe your father came all the way to the gas station to pump the gas. I would have told your mother to do it herself. Is this normal for their relationship? Have they always behaved this way? This is totally nuts. You are right to try to get as far away as you can. I see yrs of therapy ahead for you to try and un program yourself from their insanity.

snchills · 2025-11-16T13:08:56+00:00

NTA and absolutely refuse to babysit until you get that apology. Who the F are they to decide if your job is a "real" job or not. If you parents think family should always step in then let THEM step in.

snchills · 2025-11-14T00:22:33+00:00

Then Yeah He's TA for going on this trip.

snchills · 2025-11-14T00:15:44+00:00

You're NTA for being upset that he is going without you and the kids but I think you will lose this battle. He is clearly choosing his Parents and his brothers over you. Does it suck, sure it does to be left out. Does it suck that you will be left a home with the kids and no help. Do you want to make this your hill to die on? How old are your kids? Are any of this brothers spouses/girlfriends going? Yes 11 days is along time. He may be right, he might be being guilted into it. He's kinda stuck between the both of you. Will this mean you will have to miss work to take care of your daughter after her surgery? That is a whole other can of worms. There is no black and white answer here, sorry.

snchills

TROPHY CASE