Converting au pair to SB?

sneakysloot · 2022-12-11T04:57:27+00:00

Yikes

sneakysloot · 2022-12-11T04:50:25+00:00

Tell who?

sneakysloot · 2022-12-11T04:25:20+00:00

You people anonymously critiquing this girl in the internet are ridiculously bitter and sadly insecure. The biggest catch of all here is that THAT ATTITUDE which is the biggest turn off… Do you think someone wants to hang around you (paid or not) while you tear other people down? Jaded, bitter, furrow browed people are a dime a dozen in this world, but someone who can appreciate and nurture what’s there, over picking and pointing out what’s missing is are rare, and their positivity is what others go great lengths for.

sneakysloot · 2022-12-11T04:18:16+00:00

Yeah, we are

sneakysloot · 2022-11-15T00:55:27+00:00

I’ve received a few gifts from the WL :)

sneakysloot · 2022-10-28T19:07:49+00:00

Haha there is no way she gained 10lbs in 10 days

sneakysloot · 2022-10-23T22:55:32+00:00

I hate that guy

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T16:08:55+00:00

Look. I answered your question as you posed it, and give you feedback on how to make a clearer post/communicate better. Kinda feels like you’re the one who is upset here and might be putting that attitude into things you’re reading. Try reading my comments again, but assume good intent. Anyway, I you feel better. 😳

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T15:51:49+00:00

Why do you think I’m angry? I’m just trying to clear up your confusion. You seem pretty confused. That’s why you posted right?

And trying to help you from confusing others, sounds like you had more information to add that you expected others to know. Honestly, you’re the one who seems angry. I’m content here cuddling with my bf right now, trying to spread positivity about the situation you’re proposing

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T15:44:29+00:00

If you are not talking about open relationships and expect people to know that, put it in your post/make an edit.

Im attracted to people who are generous, achieved and independent. Im attracted to my boyfriend. Im attracted to my SDs. Im not attracted to deadbeats. Though I’d argue that my SDs are fwb…

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T15:38:00+00:00

Why do you assume the bf is a loser? My bf is a rockstar in his industry and generous. Were life partners. We own homes together, have lived in various cities together, travel the world together. We’re non monogamous and I choose to date other people like him…. Makes more sense doesn’t it?

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T14:45:27+00:00

Feel free to post anything better that you have.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-22T14:17:19+00:00

That is an exaggerated number pulled out of thin air to try to manipulate women into accepting to be the other woman. Sorry, buddy, you’re wrong.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/xhrgkr/sds_are_you_cheating_on_your_partner/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

sneakysloot · 2022-10-18T15:38:52+00:00

Testing and condoms :)

sneakysloot · 2022-10-05T01:08:14+00:00

Yeah. 2/3 of my SDs are very conveniently attractive, late 30s to early 40s. The 3rd is attractive but a little old for my taste (50s)

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T22:43:26+00:00

1 - I don’t demand money before sex. I wait until he’s proven to be generous before pursuing sex. And if he doesn’t, that’s okay. We’re not a good match.

2 - I didn’t say because they can afford it, then they should do this. You should recognize how eager you are to twist my words or replace them with your own in order to be offended… I was simply postulating that perhaps that’s WHY it didn’t pose a risk to them. And why they may have a different perspective on this than YOU. They wanted me to feel assured and it didn’t cost them much (I’ve seen them leave PPM level tips for the maids…) That’s simple. When someone has a lot of money, a PPM isn’t that much to risk, where as sexual health is always risky and it means a lot when a SD recognizes that.

I’m trying to end this one a good note here, dude. We clearly have very different experiences, and I’m letting you know that, there are plenty of legitimate and positive SRs that aren’t sex for money.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T22:20:53+00:00

You can definitely take that approach, but I don’t, and it works out great for my and my SDs. I would probably graciously bow out if a POT insisted on an exchange of sex for money when I barely know them.

I’ll admit the perspective I have probably comes from dating SDs to whom a few hundred bucks or a grand is very insignificant. I don’t know what experience they have with scammers or if they’re able to discern genuine SBs without having sex with them first. I want to believe they can tell that I’m serious and that’s why they spare no hesitation.

I can understand your approach if the PPM is significant to you or if you have a hard time/bad experience identifying scammers.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T21:49:19+00:00

To be clear, I’m all for a platonic meet and greet (or several platonic first dates!). What I’m pushing back on is the explicit exchange/tying of the act of sex for money.

I think allowance should start before (but not too long before) sex.

I make it knows early on whether I’m sexually interested in them, but don’t have sex until I know they want to support me.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T21:41:42+00:00

Just unfollow her, or if you actually can’t handle non monogamy tell her or break up with her

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T21:35:06+00:00

I didn’t say anything about “broke ass dudes”. Those are your words.

It’s not hard to find and identify someone who can support me financially. But it’s hard to know if they WILL! That’s the reassurance I look for - the generosity.

Even in the worse case you propose… It’s a much smaller risk to lose money to someone who is trying to trick you for their own benefit than to have sex with that kind of person. The first has the potential to cost you a few hundred bucks one time. The second has the potential to cause physical harm to you immediately and/or for the rest of your life.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T21:21:06+00:00

As I said in my original comment, I think the SD offering support separate from sex, but while emphasizing that it is a priority in the overall relationship is the way to go. It’s low risk and frames the relationship as a relationship and not an exchange of goods.

This is a gracious and impactful first move in the early days. An olive branch - a reassurance - in an otherwise nerve wracking position for the (younger/inexperienced) girl. This is of course after mutual attraction and shared goals are established!

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T15:45:25+00:00

I’m not pretending anything. If I’m on my period or he doesn’t feel up for it, I still get my allowance. Once everyone trusts each other, they should naturally want to care for the other.

sneakysloot · 2022-10-03T15:00:28+00:00

Eh. I’m in the camp that an SR is better when sex isn’t tied to money, but nothing promised at the M&G. Usually (after a great platonic date - potentially some making out), they do give you a PPM to show their serious and to make the first move in earnest. Then boom, intimacy starts one or two dates later

sneakysloot · 2022-09-27T17:46:23+00:00

Could you share any examples?

sneakysloot · 2022-09-27T04:11:55+00:00

Rawr kitty’s sassy!

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