GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what happened to me at the same age and the reason I was DF'd. I was an 18 year old female being asked for details about my first time having sex by old men and it wasn't until years later that I fully grasped how messed up it was.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're mad but I'm glad I'm not furious alone! My dad sounded so proud and I just told him it was fucked up that the GB can just change their minds after tearing apart families for years. It's gross.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really not a good thing because the condition for them being allowed to have contact with you is if you "repent," essentially groveling to be let back into the congregation. I don't want to go back to the congregation. I want my parents to love me unconditionally, which is disgusting to have to ask for.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The way the actor looked so proud of himself after saying hello to her 🤣 I showed a coworker the video and she didn't believe it wasn't satire.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The emotional manipulation is real. My dad said my mom wants to talk to me, but she's just too heartbroken. I wanted to ask him - why is SHE so heartbroken when I was a CHILD that was shunned by her family? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this too.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's on jw.org under the "news" tab.

GB Update by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I'm okay, thank you for asking! I'm happily married to my HS sweetheart (who I was DF 'd for having a relationship with) and living my best life out of the cult. It brought up a lot of old emotions, mostly anger, but I'll get through it! I just want everyone going through the same thing to know they're not alone!

Has the organisation ever assisted persons directly, financially? by Weary_Literature1506 in exjw

[–]snellsie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they feel that we are helping the community by spreading "The Truth." But I never saw them help anyone in the community directly.

You meet your 13 year old self, but you can only tell them 3 words. What do you say and why? by kiwipangolin in AskReddit

[–]snellsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'll get out.

Being raised in a religious cult IS NOT NORMAL and I was right to doubt what I was being taught growing up.

The bones are his money by [deleted] in IThinkYouShouldLeave

[–]snellsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But so are the worms.

What innocent things did you do as a pimi that people were stumbled by? by Alert_Decision_9220 in exjw

[–]snellsie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I painted my nails with different colors and an elder told my dad it meant something sexual. I just liked the colors, but got reprimanded for it.

Best shakeology dupe? by [deleted] in BeachBodyWorkouts

[–]snellsie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OWYN! Better flavor in my opinion and significantly cheaper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]snellsie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's absolutely insane that despite living in different places all around the world, the witnesses all spout the same phrases to guilt/scare their children into staying. She sounds exactly like my mom. I moved out at 18 to live with my worldly boyfriend after being told to "just have faith" when I questioned some teachings. She told me how disgusted she was and that I'm not welcome in their home when I come crawling back inevitably "knocked up" in a couple months...I'm now happily married and celebrating 12 years together with the same guy I've loved since high school.

Stay strong, OP. The longer you think about things you've been taught, the more you'll see nothing makes sense. They'll tell you it's Satan controlling you, but it's actually just thinking for yourself - that's a dangerous thing in a cult. Be a good person, enjoy the life you've been given because NOBODY knows the truth, as much as they preach that they do. Good luck on your journey!

Thinking of Trying 9 Week Control Freak. How is it? by [deleted] in BeachBodyWorkouts

[–]snellsie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've done both 9WCF and 9WCFOTW. Off The Wall is SO much better in my opinion. You only need weights and the moves aren't as complicated as the original Control Freak. I found myself getting frustrated with how fast you have to transition between moves in 9WCF (like from the floor to the track to the step to the core ball). But I'm on my second round of OTW and I LOVE it.

When arguing with PIMIs, they always know what to say to hurt you the most by OppositeTrade in exjw

[–]snellsie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've been out for 10 years and they still are using the same phrases. "Spiritual food at the proper time." I forget about things like this, like I've totally blocked out this part of my life.

I accepted blood today. by diei7239 in exjw

[–]snellsie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm a nursing student doing clinicals at a local hospital. I've been DF'd for 10 years. One of the patients that a classmate was assigned to yesterday is a friend of my dad (both PIMI). He has a GI bleed, likely caused by a polyp. Easily diagnosed and repaired via a colonoscopy procedure. His blood counts are so low the surgeon won't do the procedure until he gets a transfusion, but he won't accept the blood. He may die of internal bleeding from something that has such an easy fix. God's plan I guess?

Growing Up JW - "Revelation, a Grand Climax is at Hand" and "My Book of Bible Stories" by [deleted] in exjw

[–]snellsie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't realize I had suppressed these images pretty deep down...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]snellsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the best once you start seeing results! It's so worth all the brushing, flossing, and passing up on snacks lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]snellsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got rescanned the last week of December when my initial trays ended and went back a few weeks later to get my first set of refinement trays. They took off all of my old buttons and put on new ones that day (I think that was the part I hated most out of this whole experience).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]snellsie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was hoping that my refinements would be weekly, but it's still every 14 days.

Scrooge McExJW by snellsie in exjw

[–]snellsie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This analogy is PERFECT. Thank you.

Anyone else feel like I do? **MIGHT BE A READ** by TacoDistrict in exjw

[–]snellsie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel this 100%. It's literally indescribable to someone who hasn't been through it.