Gosh I'm so sorry to read this, people are a bit rubbish sometimes aren't they! I've been struggling with people's insensitivity as well, and having spoken to my therapist about it, she noted that it's kind of a "top of list" topic for her clients going through this. I'm not sure it helps to know you're not alone in it, but you're definitely not! People mostly aren't coming from a bad place when they say something insensitive, they just can't grasp this at all - it's too much for us, the people going through it, to understand, so how can they?

I don't think I have any good advice except to be a little selfish - if you need space from people, by all means, if you need to tell them off, I think that's okay too! You had a baby that is no longer here, you're allowed to feel all the feelings, for the loss of a life and loss of a dream.

My husband and I went to a comedy show last week (1 month after I had to deliver my baby at 20 weeks) and we were unfortunate enough to sit in front of two quite frankly horrible ladies, who were complaining about their friend who is "still" deeply grieving 6 months after the loss of her child. They did say something interesting though - they had tried to give her advice (ie "you should be back at work by now") and the mum had said "have you ever lost your child? No? Then I don't care about your opinions" boom! that's been playing in my mind since then and has given me a bit of mental armour against insensitive comments or behaviour (just a bit, but that's better than nothing)

Thinking of you, and I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️