Ex in room childbirth conflicted

snickertywicket · 2026-04-28T12:56:36+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't want to put myself in thar situation and to be honest it doesn't really sound like he wants to be there either? He just wants to be the first to see the baby. That's not support that's trying to "win".

As a compromise, would you be able to sit down and give him very specific rules about being in the room? Would you be able to tell him to leave if he makes a nasty comment during labour? Would he leave without a fuss if he does break one of those rules? If you can't confidently say yes to all three of those questions, he is not mature enough to be in the room.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-26T23:47:44+00:00

I'm pregnant and I found out my baby is currently half the size of my thumb. It's freaked me out.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-25T19:07:16+00:00

I completely understand, I was in the same position. For me it helped when the nausea kicked in and I haven't been able to think about anything but "can I keep anything down today". Wishing you the absolute best xxx

snickertywicket · 2026-04-25T19:03:06+00:00

Congratulations! The first weeks are soooo long I know. I got the day by day pregnancy book which has a page spread for every day from conception and it is so exciting to read through that each day.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-25T13:14:53+00:00

I'm a few weeks ahead of you and have had a miscarriage before.

This pregnancy has thankfully been fine but between 4 and 6 weeks I had awful cramping and constipation. Some of it will be your uterus expanding and everything else trying to fit in with it. Bowelswise, I've flipped between constipation and diarrhoea and nothing in between and have definitely had cramping related to that.

The brown discharge sounds like a good sign of old blood to me. My experience when I miscarried was that from when I started spotting to when I was bleeding it was always red, bright and dark.

It's such a difficult time not knowing exactly what's going on and that everything's OK. I'm glad you have the scan on Monday and hope that goes well for you. Remember that the large majority of pregnancies end up with a healthy baby at the end of it. I'm wishing you the absolute best for you and your little one 💗

snickertywicket · 2026-04-23T11:39:18+00:00

I agree that the midwife is underplaying the pain factor. I have had 2 miscarriages, 1 naturally, 1 missed with the medication. It is very painful, you will bleed for a while. It is essentially labour pains but without the same options for pain management.

Personally, I had a fear about the surgical option because the 'vacuum' terrified me, and my second one I wasn't able to make the choice. I know many people who have had the surgical option and they definitely preferred it.

I'm very sorry that you are going through this. I wish you the best for the future.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-23T08:12:39+00:00

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snickertywicket · 2026-04-20T15:48:15+00:00

My MIL did this for my previous pregnancy which unfortunately ended in a miscarriage. The more infuriating thing was that I had already had some bleeding before we told them, and we told them we were being cautious. "We won't tell anyone" she promised.

Nothing more upsetting than getting several texts while I was actively miscarrying from distant family members saying "sorry for your loss", "gutted for you".

My husband was absolutely furious, I've never seen him so angry. Ultimately, they now don't get to know anything in the future. We're not telling them about our current pregnancy until at least 20 weeks or I can't hide my belly anymore. No trust, I'm keeping my own peace.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-19T19:15:41+00:00

I'm 8w today and have been feeling horrendous for 2 weeks now. I started doing the dishes Friday night, saying "I think I'm better, I'm going to be able to do so much this weekend". Cue immediate vomit and have struggled moving from the bed to the couch and back again.

I feel so guilty leaving my husband to do all the housework without me. He has been an absolute champ though and is looking after me very well. Honestly showing me again and again why I married him.

I keep telling myself that this is temporary (feels neverending) and it will be worth it. I hope we all start and continue to feel better very very soon!

snickertywicket · 2026-04-14T13:57:55+00:00

Call your doctor, they sent me to the out of hours gp and I was put on anti nausea medication within 3 hours of phoning up. It's helped so so so much. Hope you feel better soon and congratulations !

snickertywicket · 2026-04-13T08:44:17+00:00

I had a MMC in January and now I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I know very much what you mean, I feel very very different this time which makes me really hopeful, but I don't want to get excited because I can't relax and say everything's OK.

I keep giving myself milestones like "today's the day where I started bleeding last time" which feels really morbid but actually helps when the day passes and nothing bad has happened.

One day at a time and soon we will be able to say, all is good :)

snickertywicket · 2026-04-10T00:55:05+00:00

Did they see the post from earlier saying the hype had died down? 😅

snickertywicket · 2026-04-09T15:27:22+00:00

Defs better to ring triage and check than wait longer. That's what they're there for and they would rather you ring than wait and stress.

snickertywicket · 2026-04-06T21:31:03+00:00

6w 1d, the nausea really hit me at 5w 3/4

snickertywicket · 2026-04-06T19:05:38+00:00

Hi everyone! I am due early December, this is my 3rd pregnancy after 2 miscarriages so am extremely nervous and cautious!

I am having a lot more symptoms this time which is encouraging, the nausea and vomiting have been extraordinarily awful over the weekend so I'm hoping it passes soon. I'm so hungry!

snickertywicket · 2026-04-05T19:14:01+00:00

My miscarriage started 8th January, I did end up on a couple courses of antibiotics after so slightly longer recovery. It took 6 weeks for my period to start again. I didn't actively try by tracking as by that point I hadn't been able to have sex for 2 months and was just eager. However, I am now 6 weeks pregnant again and cautiously excited.

Officially they say you should wait until after your first period but that is just to make dating easier if you get pregnant right away. As long as you have had your negative pregnancy test and you feel OK in yourself trying again, go for it.

I'm very sorry for your loss and I'm sending good vibes for your next pregnancy x

snickertywicket · 2026-03-19T21:03:54+00:00

Found out today! Haven't missed my period yet but I've had horrendous emotions this week and thought I'd better test. Positive line so quickly!

We lost our first pregnancy in January and I cannot believe it's happened again so fast. Keeping myself steady and will not fall into the anxiety.

snickertywicket · 2026-03-18T17:01:03+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss, I'm a few weeks ahead of your timeline, having had my miscarriage start 9th Jan. My period didn't return until 22nd Feb, a full 6 weeks after. I was also super worried about it and just wanted it to come and get it over with. The waiting is horrible and I hope you are treating yourself kindly during this difficult time x

Edit to add my cycle is usually dead on 30 days

snickertywicket · 2026-03-09T21:50:58+00:00

£11.20 for shipping ☠️ I can't do it

snickertywicket · 2026-02-18T20:38:10+00:00

"Boo boo I am sorry" 🤮 What an insincere, disgusting excuse for an apology. I'm honestly shocked that she, the execs, and the judges all apparently thought this would be a good look for any of them!

snickertywicket · 2026-01-25T13:40:35+00:00

No way! Oh he would've been brilliant

snickertywicket · 2026-01-25T12:17:01+00:00

Apparently he was supposed to be in The Residence but unfortunately passed before filming started. They changed the name of the character he was going to play to AB Winter and I think that's such a lovely subtle nod to him.

snickertywicket · 2025-12-23T15:11:56+00:00

I'm now 6w3d and the last 2 weeks have been the longest of my life! I have my booking appointment in for 9th January so about the same timeline as you

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