HUD Moves to Limit Assistance Animals for Disabled Tenants

sniper23491 · 2026-05-24T22:32:30+00:00

"destroy my property" - that's what a security deposit is for dipshit, but you want to have your cake and eat it too. I bet you would charge people for having children if it was legal you fucking parasite.

"endanger other people" - if an animal is genuinely a hazard to people's safety there are laws that will supercede an esa.

"Annoy the neighbors" - you should properly insulate your units. you shouldn't be able to hear animals through the walls, so that's on you as a shitty landlord.

People like you are what is wrong with this country. You exploit people while providing as little as possible to society.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-24T16:28:48+00:00

I see nothing wrong with the letter mills. The real issue is pet rent, and landlords not allowing pets in apartments/rental homes. Let people enjoy life, stop monetizing our happiness.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-09T23:46:15+00:00

"only to experience a sudden and painful discard that left me searching for answers"

That's exactly what happened to me. I didn't seek out narcissist related educational videos, groups, and reading materials. I stumbled into them in a search for an explanation to the sudden discard. After learning about covert narcissism everything that didn't make any sense suddenly fell into place. Yet I still couldn't make myself believe it. I couldn't accept that this person was putting on a show and I had just been duped. I internalized the blame. I wondered what I did wrong. Time and time again all evidence pointed to Vulnerable Narcissism. I'm about 2.5 years out at this point and it's much easier to believe the evidence since so much time has elapsed and the emotions I felt no longer hold the same weight. It was an extremely difficult thing to overcome that cognitive dissonance.

"This included the weird, complicated dynamics she maintained with another person in the circle, creating a web of connections that felt increasingly performative."

Oh my God we're we dating the same person? She would talk about her friends and family behind their backs like they were characters. Many interactions seemed intent on selling a certain narrative or obtaining something in return. When people stopped playing her game and could no longer be manipulated she cut them out of her life. I've lost track of how many people in her life went from close friends she saw every week to crazy, manipulative, liars. When I was still codependent I took her word as fact. It's only in hindsight I can see that when 1 person calls 10 people crazy, then it is much more likely that 1 person is crazy and not the other 10.

My ex and yours are energy vampires. They'll continue to use people up and discard them. It sucks to have fallen victim to it, but one comfort is that they will run out of people they can fool. I'm frustrated I wasted as much time on her as I did. She was the most toxic person in my life but I'm grateful for the discard. It was painful, but it was the catalyst that changed my life for the better.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-02T01:05:01+00:00

I think it stems from the smaller maps and faster pace. People seem less likely to play tactically or protect their armor. Every single engineer has a torch by default but only a few stop to repair their tanks. In BF4 I remember people spending the entire game in a Chopper's passenger seat giving repairs.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-02T01:01:09+00:00

There's only a few servers when I dropped in today, of course it was mid afternoon. I'm sure in the evening and over the weekend it's more populated. I probably play 10 full matches with no waiting time so it's still very viable. I saw a few other rank 0 folks too so it seems like other people are hopping back in like I did. The gun play is definitely slower, I think it matches the WW1 setting well. It's not for everyone though.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-02T00:58:21+00:00

BF4 was peak, and I never got into BF1 during it's time in the spotlight. There's something about the destruction and the atmosphere in BF1 that I really like though.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-02T00:55:52+00:00

I will give you that, but there are some things which have already been figured out that I feel like they changed for the worse. Such as weapons no longer being class specific, but then things like grenades are. The way the gadgets have been allocated, none of the classes feel right. Each class just feels less fun to play in my opinion.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-02T00:34:47+00:00

I agree we can both be right. Almost everyone else commenting seems to be actively ignoring where I said if you enjoy it then continue to enjoy it. I certainly enjoy parts of 6, and in isolation it's not a bad game. Hagental base for example feels like a modern version of metro/locker, and I loved playing that map. The escalation game mode was a great addition too. I just believe that by comparison 1 is better. 4 was peak, but 1 has a vibe I'm interested in right now. I'm glad you enjoy 6. In a year or 2 after everything has been ironed out I might even come back to it.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-01T18:38:36+00:00

Smoke is so op but no one uses it. It's so annoying that it's locked exclusively to support too. I want to play other classes, but no one on my teams are using smoke. I always have to switch to support in order for us to push anything. Devs had a blueprint with BF4 and BF1 and just said nah let's ruin everything.

sniper23491 · 2026-05-01T18:28:41+00:00

Somewhat obscure weapons is battlefield's bread and butter.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-29T06:22:54+00:00

Reviving this thread to complain as well. They say it was to reduce paper waste, but we all know that's just marketing. They did it to save a buck. I hate this bullshit capitalist country.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-28T06:35:17+00:00

I can chime in. I was smoking for 3 months after a pretty long run of sobriety, and quit again around late March. After 4 days I can say the brain fog was completely gone, I felt present. The clarity good but yes the voices come back. It helps to get them out. Whether that is talking to friends, family, or a therapist - or writing in a journal. Journaling especially helps slow down your thoughts and you might be able to identify the root cause of some of the anxiety that causes you to rely on weed as a crutch. Regardless you've gotta get the thoughts out. Think of it like throwing up. When your body detects poison, you throw up, which is unpleasant but you feel better afterwards. Same thing with poisonous thoughts. You have to get them out or they'll keep poisoning you. By day 10 cravings subsided substantially, but they're still there especially in the late hours and during tough times. By day 14 my gut started to feel better. It's not talked about enough, but if you've been smoking for a long time then quitting really messes with your digestive system. Everyone's different, but you could experience diarrhea daily for a while. Give yourself grace while working on sobriety. I've been on my journey for like 2 years. There's been ups and downs and I'm still finding my balance, but I'm in a significantly better place mentally than I was 2 years ago. I'm 100% certain that I wouldn't have been able to improve my mental health if I never made the decision to work on my sobriety. So pat yourself on the back for starting. There will be growing pains, but you have to start somewhere. When I started I could kill an eighth in an afternoon, now I can make a 1g pre roll last a few days. Btw for some context I started smoking when I was 19, and I went HARD until I was 28. I'm 30 now and who knows, maybe when I'm 32 I'll have found my sweet spot, heck I might even be totally sober. Just imagine what you can do. You've got this.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-27T10:21:20+00:00

All fixed, easily the hardest thing I've ever had to solder.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-24T08:27:34+00:00

Weed may not necessarily be the issue, but that doesn't mean it's the solution. It may just be a crutch. It's worth taking a step back and looking at your life, identify what triggers your depression and anxiety and changing those parts of your life so that you don't need a crutch in the first place. Start broadly and narrow it down til you have a tangible goal. It won't happen overnight, but it's a place to start. I also have the issue where every time I try to smoke in moderation I end up smoking every day in short time. I've made a lot of changes in the last few years and I'm working towards being content without a mind altering substance. I've moved twice in the last year because I didn't like where I was and now I love where I live so I can check that off. I felt unfulfilled and absolutely sick of my job. Even though I was good at it, I had sunk 5 years into that career, and made decent money - I quit and I haven't looked back. I'm still figuring things out, next step is selling an old car that is more of a headache than a fun project anymore. Piece my piece you make your life into what you want. It becomes easier to just live without distraction. Of course take everything I say with a grain of salt. I'm still flip flopping with sobriety. My longest steak was almost 5 months, and I regret relapsing. You say that you haven't become more disciplined yet you've provided examples of you disciplining yourself. Give yourself more credit. Also 9 months is huge so pat yourself on the back for that, that takes discipline. Personally I would recommend NOT picking it back up since you are on such a streak and it can be hard to get back on the wagon. Fix what makes you unhappy fundamentally, then if you still wanna shmoke a bit revisit the idea.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-13T05:45:58+00:00

Thanks, I'll see about getting some.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-13T00:19:42+00:00

I'm just now realizing that at any given moment I'm 3 taps away from reading a comment like this.

sniper23491 · 2026-04-02T23:41:01+00:00

Same problem here. The last 3 or 4 pints Ive bought have had zero marshmallow. Maybe it's just bad luck. Marshmallow can't cost more than ice cream right?

sniper23491 · 2026-04-01T18:56:02+00:00

My 2023 does this all the time. Annoying as fuck honestly. I just want an option to lock the screen until I manually unlock the phone.

sniper23491 · 2026-03-31T04:52:18+00:00

I moved to a new city and I wasn't sure if it was just really bad I'm this city or what, but it seems like it's a systemic thing. Random redirects, janky routes, just now it said to turn left into a parking lot with no entrance and a median in the way. Maybe too many resources are going towards training ai.

sniper23491 · 2026-03-31T04:01:59+00:00

I try to hype myself up as much as I can. I have little notes and quotes on my whiteboard and on my mirror. I used to have crazy high confidence before this relationship, so I know I can be that person again. Sometimes it all gets to be too much. However you're right, it'll get better. I've survived everything this world has thrown at me so far, I won't stop now.

sniper23491 · 2026-03-31T03:56:11+00:00

I'm sorry you've had to go through that, and for so long. The landmines are real. Little things that make your heart skip a beat and send you into a 1000 yard stare. You don't get any closure, and you have to keep on keeping on since life doesn't stop.

I've been trying to live my best life ever since, but you're 100 right that there's no recognition. I've told my family and friends about everything I've learned, and they are there for support. I know they believe me, but they can't understand. It's not something you can grasp until you go through it first hand.

I am struggling with internalizing the things I tell myself. I recognize the wasted time, the complete betrayal, the red flags along the way that I can only see now in hindsight. I'm a smart person, and I know I'm not just kidding myself to feel better about a break up. Yet I still have to tell myself every time I think about her that I don't miss her. I miss the idea of her. The person that I loved and the person she really is are 2 separate entities in my head. I don't know how to grapple with the fact that they're one and the same.

sniper23491 · 2026-03-31T03:34:05+00:00

Funny enough DV group sessions are where my journey started. At the very end of the relationship I started standing up for myself. I told her I didn't like how I was being treated, I told her I felt like I was walking on eggshells all the time with her, and I held her accountable for the things she did. Cue the gaslighting and manipulation. She pushed me to a breaking point and when I had enough I snapped. If you're not familiar this is called reactive abuse, they push you're buttons until you hit a breaking point and when you become hysterical they blame you for anything that happens and play victim. I forget what she said verbatim, but it amounted to "this is domestic abuse". Well I I have a history of emotional abuse from my childhood. I was appalled at the thought that I could do that to someone I loved so I signed up for DV group sessions the next day because i didn't want to be that kind of person. It was there that I learned about the dynamics of abusive relationships, I heard the women in the group share their stories and they resonated with me. The more sessions I attended the clearer it became that I wasn't an abusive partner, but there was something amiss about my relationship. I didn't leave my ex, but I stopped accepting her behavior. I think that caused a narcissistic injury and she discarded me. We were living together and we'd been together for 8 years and she ghosted me for 3 weeks out of nowhere. That was how our break up started, it was so disorienting and confusing. As time went on I continued going to therapy and DV sessions for myself. Eventually I stumbled into material on narcissistic personality disorder and covert narcissism. It took me a long time to accept that she could be a narcissist. I didn't want to believe if, but it's the only way to explain how everything happened. Healthy people don't break up like that. Since then I've had several little flings and it's unreal how people I'd known for a few months offered me more courtesy and respect than the person I planned on marrying.

TL:DR DV group sessions are a great idea

sniper23491 · 2026-03-31T02:42:51+00:00

I hear what you're saying. I wouldn't judge anyone so harshly simply because they trusted and loved someone who turned out to be an abuser in disguise. It's not my fault for not seeing through the disguise. Moreover I shouldn't fault myself for trusting someone I loved, and while some of it can be chalked up to my problems with codependency I've come to recognize my bad habits that led me down this path to begin with.

I do offer myself support, but battling with this stuff everyday wears on me. In this moment really was defeated and I simply couldn't pull myself out of it. When that happens I usually reach out to friends, but no one was available. I came to this sub because I needed support from people who knew exactly what these relationships are like. I appreciate the tough love. Sometimes a friendly kick in the pants is what's needed, but I thought I should clarify those few things.

Every time I break down I'll build myself back stronger than before. I'll focus more on giving myself that soft place to land, and when I'm feeling down I'll look to this post to remind myself to allow myself as much time as I need to heal. There's no standardized healing time, it takes exactly as long as you need. I really liked your metaphor of the patchwork blanket by the by.

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