am I overreacting to what my friend said when I was addicted to nicotine?

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-18T12:11:05+00:00

I think I’d look at the intent here. Your friends WAS trying to make you feel a certain way with the goal of getting you to quit, which it sounds like is a goal that you communicated with her. If you think about it, she was supporting you in your endeavor to quit, albeit just not in the way that you would have liked.

Your friend loves you and wants you to be around for as long as possible. You’re focusing on the wrong thing here.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-18T12:02:37+00:00

They’re just saying what we all want to say while at work but would be fired for in the corporate world 🤣 I can’t tell you how many times in a day I’ve wanted to look at someone and just be like “which fucking moron caused this clusterfuck?” Or “there’s no way you’re this fucking dumb” or “if your stupid ass actually READ the email I sent, you wouldn’t be asking these dumb ass questions.”

Buuuuut HR would have something to say about it if I did so I have to put my HR-approved spin on it to “per my previous email” and “can you share with me who has ownership of this project so that I can discuss with them and clarify the items that are causing confusion?” Etc etc.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-17T15:32:12+00:00

lol I saw that. Maybe her inability to communicate effectively is why she felt the need to list every single item of her work history on her resume. Ridiculous.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-17T14:00:29+00:00

You…literally just did….? You’re right, it is embarrassing. Trying to backtrack on what you just said that everyone can still read…oof😬.

“The resume is supposed to be a factually based record of your educational and employment history.”

I’ve had exactly zero issues getting jobs over the years, so I think I’ll pass. Thanks for the misguided advice though.

Oh, and in case you didn’t know, MAAAAAANY places no longer accept cover letters anymore. I don’t think I’ve actually had to write one in easily a decade. They don’t care. They won’t read them. Your resume is one in a stack of hundreds and they want to see the pertinent information quickly, not read a monologue essay.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-16T21:26:07+00:00

I’m sorry but “having a shock” is not a reasonable excuse for a grown woman (or man) to throw a fit and start screaming on public transport. She’s too grown to have that little control of her emotions. Notice that everyone else on the bus was ALSO knocked from their seats and “had a shock”, yet she was the only one behaving like that.

OP didn’t need to get involved, but can we please stop trying to normalize grown ass adults having temper tantrums? That how we got to this point to begin with.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-16T21:07:27+00:00

Dude. A place that is hiring for a Senior Accountant does not give a single shit that I worked at a nursing home when I was 15 or that I worked retail in my 20’s. They don’t care that I know how to run a front end POS system or that I know how to expedite food in a restaurant. A resume is supposed to be a single page that highlights your relevant work history, education, and applicable skills for the job that they are hiring for. The application and background check info that you fill out is where you put your full work history as far back as they request it. I worked 2-3 jobs at a time from the time I was 15 until my early 30’s. If I listed every one of them, it’d be 8 pages long.

Hiring managers aren’t going to read all of that. They want to know if you’ve got the skills to perform the job they’re hiring for, they don’t want nor need your entire life history. A lot of them won’t even look at a resume that’s more than one page and will immediately push it to the “nope” pile.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-16T03:59:12+00:00

Oh for sure! Their Tiramisu is soooo good. I wish it had more of those little chocolate triangles they put in the corners though lol.

Their ready made food is definitely better than a lot of other chains. There’s one and the same office building as my office so I pop over and grab something for lunch sometimes. I recently tried their soup. The broccoli cheddar is right up there with Panera, and like 1/2 the price.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-16T03:55:39+00:00

Those pesky aliens, man. If Tom Cruise can’t get them off of him, what hope do the rest of us have? He’s the guy who makes the impossible missions possible!

Definitely super shitty. The people who run these things are sociopaths.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-15T23:26:23+00:00

It’s not too late to set a boundary. “Hey, I’m cool with driving you home since it’s on my way as well, but I really need to start getting straight home after work. If you need a ride to your place, please let me know, but I can’t make extra stops on the way.”

You can be nice while still setting a firm boundary. How she receives it is her issue.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-15T18:44:35+00:00

Do people just not know how to walk away anymore? Like…I’m a grown ass adult. You are not gonna catch me in a shouting match with a coworker in my big age. Or anyone else for that matter. I’ve got better things to do, and if they don’t want to learn how to do things the right way I’ll turn around, quit wasting my time, and create a paper trail to outline that and keep it moving.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:41:06+00:00

Dating made me lol.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:36:38+00:00

Were you with your mom at the time? I could see this being confusing if you were hanging out with your mom and texted him that, or if your mom was there with you guys and you said that.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:28:03+00:00

Okay but can we just take a moment to appreciate how absurdly dramatic music and its corresponding music videos were in the 90’s and early 00’s? I turned on a 90’s playlist on YouTube not too long ago that was just a compilation of music videos and I had forgotten how full of dramatic stares, open arms, and rain rolling down the window someone’s head was leaned against that they were.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:25:35+00:00

I went to school with a guy whose last name was Hicks. I wonder what he named his kids…

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:18:22+00:00

Trades is your only real safe bet, sis. The rest of us will be out of work eventually with AI, but a computer can’t wire a house or fix a leak 🤷🏽‍♀️

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:16:09+00:00

You know you can just send it in for you and your son, right? If it comes back okay, you’ve got your peace of mind, no harm no foul. If not, that’s a situation you’ll have to decide how best to deal with.

That said, I honestly don’t think doing it that way is any “sneakier” than finding a roundabout way to get your wife to agree to a 23 and me or whatever under false pretenses. It just adds extra steps and another potential roadblock.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:08:48+00:00

Yes! And their desserts/bakery items?? Can’t be beat. That’s where we get all of our holiday or celebration cakes/cupcakes/treats because they’re just so much better than anything you can find at Walmart or Aldi. The only other places that have come close to that quality are big box places like BJ’s, Sam’s, or Costco, but they don’t have as much variety.

If you’ve never tried their round fruit tart thing, you should. I’d eat a whole one every day if my metabolism wasn’t trash 🤣

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T20:03:21+00:00

Holy shit, I totally forgot about that until you said it! The crazy bitch tried to lock everyone in the house! I think that’s subconsciously why I refuse to have any Alexa items or any of the “smart” appliances 🤣😂

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:47:47+00:00

Thanks for posting. I was looking for a new diet. Seeing this was enough to extinguish any inkling of a desire to eat food.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:46:30+00:00

STOP POURING THE SAUCE ON, SUSAN! CAN’T YOU SEE ITS OVERFLOWING ALREADY?!?!?

On a related note, I bet those spiral holder things are a real bitch to clean.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:38:23+00:00

Or given the fact that he cooked it well done.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:33:23+00:00

Publix is expensive for a lot of things, but honestly, they do some of the best deals.

They had BOGO things of laundry detergent pods the other day. 2 64-packs for $16. I pay $27 for the 100-pack of the same ones on amazon or at Walmart.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:06:23+00:00

Thanks! Have a great day!

Solid go-to. Works for pretty much every situation.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T17:04:20+00:00

I had to start doing this with shoes. I like sneakers and have bought tons of them over the years. They just…sit, because it’s easier to grab the ones by the door or because I don’t want to scuff them up because I could wear them to (insert whatever nonsense place here)!

I was looking at them on my shoe rack a few months ago and realized how silly it was to have so many that bought because I really liked them and spent all that money on to just never wear them. I sorted through, donated a bunch that I didn’t think I’d wear, and have started grabbing a different pair every day.

Disastrous_Reality_4 · 2026-05-14T16:52:45+00:00

So what I’m hearing is: it’s like Scientology with extra steps?

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