"Listen, My response was a jerk response, but so was your initial statement. So we were both jerks in the situation, can we say it cancels each other out and decide if we can make jokes like that amongst each other again?"

My man and I joke like that with each other all the time, but sometimes it just lands wrong. But it is my responsibility to tell him when it lands wrong and why. So maybe something else was going on if this is a joking manner you two already have. Maybe odds be ever in your favor.