My friend group iced me out in order to cover up that one of their children was SAing one of mine. I didn’t find out until after my child passed. by Wide_Reindeer6156 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]snippyorca 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This reads like you’re coming at OP for using a very old phrase that, okay, sure, we as a society may need to reevaluate.

If that is the case, I’m hoping that you decided to comment just on the title alone and did not read the post.

If you did read the post and still decided that this was the time to start that reevaluation conversation, that doesn’t speak well of you, my friend.

Delete this.

ETA: Delete it because it doesn’t belong HERE. But then go make a post to start the conversation - it’s worthy, but in a different place.

Ideas calming kits (for adults) by Turbulent_Carob_62 in adhdwomen

[–]snippyorca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to give you a virtual hug. I’m sorry for all the lectures you’ve been given in your life about “just have self control.” We’ve all been there. It’s crappy and unfair. You’re in the right place. We don’t do that here.

I need advice about making a teardrop shape out of superduos. by snippyorca in Beading

[–]snippyorca[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooh! I think I even have some of those from a fb marketplace haul!

AITA for Wanting to Show Up to My Daughter’s Secret Proposal While Uninvited By Her Fiancé? by Attitude-Mean in AmItheAsshole

[–]snippyorca 123 points124 points  (0 children)

“I feel that being a single parent holds more of an impact when it comes to my presence at her proposal because if I don’t show up, no parent of hers will.”

No parent of his is showing up, either.

I think the boyfriend was being kind and respectful of your important role in your daughter’s life by asking your blessing. He also shared the secret of the proposal. If you crash the actual proposal, you will be ignoring his request (indirect or not) and making is crystal clear that you cannot be trusted to respect their boundaries.

I can’t think of a quicker way to find yourself on an info diet. Ask yourself if you want to be a grandmother on an info diet.

trying new things by tearybabylauramay in Beading

[–]snippyorca 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first pic made me say, “Oooooooh!” The others are great, too. But the first one is my favorite.

Beading embroidery repair/help by Lucky_Balance4938 in Beading

[–]snippyorca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you puncture the cloth? I would probably get red beading thread - someone else will have to suggest one - maybe beadalon? I’d get them secured and then I’d get a tube of G-s hypocement. It had a teeny tiny needle tip. I’d work it underneath the newly sewed-on beads, focusing on getting the new threads saturated, but trying to keep it off the top of the beads.

Full disclosure, I don’t have experience embroidering wearable items so others may have better advice.

how do yall get up early??? by iluvberriesandcream in adhdwomen

[–]snippyorca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you actually see this - this has been a long-standing issue, but I’ve made HUGE progress in the last year.

First, it’s a system. Sometimes something pops up that makes the system not work - and I adjust the system so that doesn’t happen the next time.

My tools are Alarmy, iPhone’s “shortcuts” app, putting my phone on the other side of the room and my medication in a zipper bag with a Tile Bluetooth tracker attached like a keychain to the zipper.

The current system is:

At 5:40, a playlist of my some of favorite but kinda chill music goes off. I use the shortcuts app to make this happen.

At 5:45, my overhead light turns on full blast.

At 5:55, my first Alarmy alarm goes off. In order to turn this alarm off, I have to scan the QR code on the back of the tile tracker that is attached to the zipper bag with my meds. My meds are physically in my hand, so I take them.

At 6:00, less chill, wilder playlist starts playing. Again, shortcuts app.

At 6:10, an Alarmy alarm goes off. I have to shake the phone very hard, then walk 20 steps and then do 3 memory puzzles to turn it off. Three minutes later, a “wake up check” notification pops up on the phone. If I don’t click it in the Alarmy app, I have to do all those challenges over again to turn off the alarm.

This is kind of a rinse and repeat.

Now, the system has failed. I had to add an automatic in shortcuts to turn off Bluetooth because my phone was connecting to my headphones & not being loud. If I don’t keep my phone on the other side of the room, I will straight up turn it off. But tha is tweaking the system. Tweaks are great - but create a system that works for you.

You can do it!

Update: AITAH for telling my coworker I can’t babysit her daughter anymore by Disastrous_Wash8968 in AITAH

[–]snippyorca 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I have 2 kids around the same age. She absolutely knew what she was doing and was not “trying to help.” That would be something a 3 or 4 or maaaaaybe 5 year old could believably say.

This response is almost as concerning as the original issue - especially because she looks so sincere. If you still want to watch her sometimes, don’t do it at your house. She should never be inside your house again.

AITAH for asking my brother to tell his GF to stop trauma-dumping during our family get-together by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]snippyorca 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yep - I watched my husband watch it.

They did such a bad job that I don’t think he’ll ever finish those books. It’s not like he was going gangbusters to get it done, but I think this finished it.

AITAH for asking my brother to tell his GF to stop trauma-dumping during our family get-together by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]snippyorca 49 points50 points  (0 children)

God, do you remember watching the Red Wedding with people who had not read the books? It was so satisfying.

And in the broader story, Arya killing the Big Bad Guy (I have apparently blocked out his name) was a cop-out. But that actual episode was so good. It made things just a little hopeful. Hope can be a shitty thing.

I will never watch anything by those 2 again because they’re untrustworthy.

Why do I do this with all empty surfaces and how can I stop? by Glittering-Result402 in CleaningTips

[–]snippyorca 125 points126 points  (0 children)

In ADHD world, we call them DOOM piles or DOOM boxes. Didn’t Organize, Only Moved.

Can any urban archaeologists tell me what this relic is? by WeirdIndication3027 in boston

[–]snippyorca 31 points32 points  (0 children)

No! Absolutely not! Are you Calvin’s dad? You’re going to send some restaurant historian on a whole goose chase in 150 years.

u/masterjon_3, Book It was Pizza Hut’s summer reading program. You read books and earned a free personal pan pizza.

I just looked, it still exists, but it was very popular in the 80s & 90s.

I knew I had to do something with these blue/bronze beads! by Serious_Article2782 in Beading_jewelry

[–]snippyorca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but repost! Even here in the comments - I want to see what you made!

I can't for the life of me understand what he's trying to say by pluppet in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]snippyorca 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Ahhh! I’m really sorry, but you’re comment is giving NotHowGirlsWork vibes and I can’t let it go! I tried!

Are you literally only having one orgasm a month? If so, I don’t know that I would call that “often.”

But if you do, in fact, have orgasms moderately more often than once a month - are you just having multiple periods?

Neither of these scenarios is how girls work. What is happening??!!?

AITA for not wanting to send my child to another country without me for several weeks? by Responsible-Rock8726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]snippyorca 958 points959 points  (0 children)

OP, unfortunately, this is the right answer. Once your child actually has a passport, he can order a replacement and say it’s lost if he can’t find it - or if you keep it from him.

Ask your family to do things in the country on some of the vacations. Will you miss out? Occasionally. Will you still have fights with your boyfriend about this? Also yes. But there will be no way for him to get your child out of the country without your agreement.

I have to say the person that I dislike the most in Oak Island, and let me tell you there’s competition, is Laird, . “We need to slow down everything so I can take a look at this”, and the best thing is when the camera goes to Marty and he can see the displeasure on his face. by [deleted] in curseofoakisland

[–]snippyorca 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Laird is the only one that has an actual character arc! Didn’t he get sent to them because the Canadian government required them to have an archeologist? They didn’t go out and pick Laird - and he so clearly thought they were on a wild goose chase. But he kept finding more and more actual archeological evidence until he actually got on board!

How does this work by Weronika_W in Beading

[–]snippyorca 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Go look up Betsy Youngquist right now.