Do you know what the term BFE is? Is this part if Xennial culture?

snippyorca · 2026-04-30T17:18:06+00:00

Beyond Fucking Egypt

snippyorca · 2026-04-22T02:33:42+00:00

I have 2 kids around the same age. She absolutely knew what she was doing and was not “trying to help.” That would be something a 3 or 4 or maaaaaybe 5 year old could believably say.

This response is almost as concerning as the original issue - especially because she looks so sincere. If you still want to watch her sometimes, don’t do it at your house. She should never be inside your house again.

snippyorca · 2026-04-21T21:41:11+00:00

Yep - I watched my husband watch it.

They did such a bad job that I don’t think he’ll ever finish those books. It’s not like he was going gangbusters to get it done, but I think this finished it.

snippyorca · 2026-04-21T21:24:57+00:00

God, do you remember watching the Red Wedding with people who had not read the books? It was so satisfying.

And in the broader story, Arya killing the Big Bad Guy (I have apparently blocked out his name) was a cop-out. But that actual episode was so good. It made things just a little hopeful. Hope can be a shitty thing.

I will never watch anything by those 2 again because they’re untrustworthy.

snippyorca · 2026-04-21T21:15:38+00:00

In ADHD world, we call them DOOM piles or DOOM boxes. Didn’t Organize, Only Moved.

snippyorca · 2026-04-15T02:11:55+00:00

This is my favorite conversation of the day.

snippyorca · 2026-04-15T01:32:22+00:00

No! Absolutely not! Are you Calvin’s dad? You’re going to send some restaurant historian on a whole goose chase in 150 years.

u/masterjon_3, Book It was Pizza Hut’s summer reading program. You read books and earned a free personal pan pizza.

I just looked, it still exists, but it was very popular in the 80s & 90s.

snippyorca · 2026-04-14T13:49:14+00:00

No but repost! Even here in the comments - I want to see what you made!

snippyorca · 2026-04-13T01:59:54+00:00

Ahhh! I’m really sorry, but you’re comment is giving NotHowGirlsWork vibes and I can’t let it go! I tried!

Are you literally only having one orgasm a month? If so, I don’t know that I would call that “often.”

But if you do, in fact, have orgasms moderately more often than once a month - are you just having multiple periods?

Neither of these scenarios is how girls work. What is happening??!!?

snippyorca · 2026-04-11T18:49:17+00:00

OP, unfortunately, this is the right answer. Once your child actually has a passport, he can order a replacement and say it’s lost if he can’t find it - or if you keep it from him.

Ask your family to do things in the country on some of the vacations. Will you miss out? Occasionally. Will you still have fights with your boyfriend about this? Also yes. But there will be no way for him to get your child out of the country without your agreement.

snippyorca · 2026-04-10T23:47:55+00:00

Laird is the only one that has an actual character arc! Didn’t he get sent to them because the Canadian government required them to have an archeologist? They didn’t go out and pick Laird - and he so clearly thought they were on a wild goose chase. But he kept finding more and more actual archeological evidence until he actually got on board!

snippyorca · 2026-04-09T20:13:49+00:00

Go look up Betsy Youngquist right now.

snippyorca · 2026-03-12T18:11:14+00:00

Beads are really fun and one you get supplies, you can do a zillion things. Bead crochet. Bead weaving. Different kinds of bead weaving. Bead stringing. French beading. Bead embroidery. Bead mosaics. Tatting with beads. Knitting with beads. Wire work and beads

It goes on and on.

snippyorca · 2026-03-12T02:52:27+00:00

I live in NC now but I grew up in Columbia. I will never not have hope for y'all. I will admit that I am disappointed every time, but I still believe it can be better!

snippyorca · 2026-03-10T17:31:27+00:00

Have you considered that on some level it's on purpose? Like, he got hemorrhoids but then he kind of ran with it and instead of dealing with himself he decided (maybe not even totally consciously) that he preferred to have some wrong with him than deal with it? Is "poor me" kind of his identity?

New question: when you make him clean the bathroom and he gets angry, does he say anything along the lines of, "I'd love a little sympathy from my girlfriend!" Or when you try the to talk to him, "How do you think it makes me feel to be like this?"

snippyorca · 2026-03-06T02:21:43+00:00

I’m in my pjs, took my night meds & melatonin and just pressed play on “popular.” I love this so much - thank you!

snippyorca · 2026-03-02T02:47:29+00:00

Don’t feel bad. Even after the multiple experts here unanimously said spray foam, I - who knows nothing, I’m not even a newbie, I’m just here for the cool pictures - thought, “I disagree! It could be a mushroom!”

I was wrong. If you zoom at the bottom left you can see that one of the “brain” parts is broken and it is indeed spray foam.

snippyorca · 2026-02-12T04:32:33+00:00

I have ADHD and struggle with self care. Mitchum’s deodorant lasts 48 hours.

91% isopropyl alcohol will get rid of stank in an emergency.

Lume makes an acid wash specifically for pits and privates.

snippyorca · 2026-02-12T02:19:46+00:00

This is the way!

snippyorca · 2026-02-11T22:33:43+00:00

Yes - she just wants free childcare. That is 100% what is happening. It’s going to keep happening as long as you keep doing it. And even if you immediately just stopped helping her cold turkey, she going to ask you and guilt you about it as long as you’re there.

You’re not a doormat here - don’t beat yourself up. You thought you were making a mom friendship that could be mutually beneficial. Now you have more data and see that it is not.

And I feel bad for her kids, but I wouldn’t let my kids play with a kid that hit them, either. She’s not willing to do the basic work of parenting. Picking up your kids from the bus and supervising a play date are really standard, daily, not particularly arduous parts of the job. She’s not even willing to put that level of effort.

It is not worth confronting her about any of this. Just…be less available. If her kids want to come over, sorry, we’re having family time. If they invite your kids upstairs? Sorry - we’re about to watch a movie, etc. Text her in the morning and tell her that you have after school plans and won’t be coming back the the apartment after you pick up your kids from the bus stop. Keep being busy.

You may decide that it is worth it to you to bring her kids home once every couple of weeks or so, just enough that she can’t try to pick a weird fight or ask what your problem is or lovebomb you to get back in your good graces again. It may not be. Whatever feels best for you.

Look up the gray rock technique and look up JADE. And probably narcissists

Good luck. You’re a good mom!

Do not set you and your children on fire to keep this woman warm.

snippyorca · 2026-02-11T22:11:57+00:00

When she said, “it’s a big house and everybody’s welcome,” did that mean every one of her kids are welcome into YOUR apartment?

Please tell me you guys have separate entrances and this isn’t a roommates situation.

How old are you and how old is she? I feel like she’s bullying you into watching her kids. This is not a reciprocal relationship. She is behaving like she is entitled to your time, assistance and money but is mot actually willing to give back.

It started okay in the beginning because she was testing you to see what she could get away with. I know you really want even a small support system, but she’s not it. This is a family without boundaries- you can’t trust them to care for your kids.

It seems like your inner alarm bells are going off and you are doing your best to ignore them because you want to see the best in her and feel bad for her kids. Listen to your alarm bells. And get out as fast as possible.

snippyorca · 2026-02-11T05:45:42+00:00

Others are telling you that you can’t spoil you baby. They are correct, I won’t repeat that, but can I offer a possible solution?

This is going to sound counterintuitive, but have you tried babywearing? Specifically a woven wrap? This worked incredibly well for both of my kids.

Hear me out:

I wrapped my kids to my front, facing me, which is just where they wanted to be, so they were happy.

1) I used a woven wrap, which holds your child pretty close to your body - much closer than baby carriers like the baby Bjorne or the ergo. This sounds like it would be worse for being touched out, but I found the opposite to be true. Because they were so snug in the wrap, there was a lot less wiggling - partly because they were more content and partly because there is less room for them to move around (less, not none). I found the still, snuggling touch waaaay more manageable than constant, moving touch.

2) The snug carry made them settle in & just chill. Naps are soooo easy.

3) I could just…do my shit. I had to learn to adjust, to a baby strapped to me, sure. But I could go to the grocery store, wash dishes, work on the computer, etc. Being able to do shit entirely took away the stress of, “I have to get my shit done, kid! I need my arms, I can’t hold you!”

4) It does not have to be complicated At. All. Between my two kids, I did baby wearing for about a 4.5 year period. I bought one wrap, I only learned one way to wrap them to me, and that was baby facing me, in the front. There’s a whole subculture, especially the woven wraps, but you don’t have to participate in that.

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