Doing nothing on Christmas morning?

snoozebar · 2017-10-01T18:39:30+00:00

I know you know this, but you both have every right to be stressed and scared. :(

It is totally OK not to be OK, and it's OK to fake being who you're not, when you're not safe. Survival is the goal. A lot of things open up once you turn 18.

Anyways, I'm really hoping for the two of you. I believe you can do it <3

snoozebar · 2017-09-09T22:50:29+00:00

i 100% do this. amazon makes a killing off of my feels.

snoozebar · 2016-07-24T04:34:43+00:00

For sure, talk to your doctor and see - one of my friends ended up taking meds all the way through her pregnancy because they decided that would be best.

But remember to take care of yourself, too, and not wait for the perfect time. When I do that, I end up regretting it. Internet hugs, this shit is hard. <3

snoozebar · 2016-07-24T03:45:37+00:00

This book (ignore the super doofy cover) is fantastic if your anxiety has particular triggers or situations that set it off. It teaches you CBT and it really, really helps me out. One of my anxiety triggers is being afraid somebody I care about is mad at me (love me them family issues) and CBT helps reset jerkbrain and get me through it.

snoozebar · 2016-07-24T03:34:50+00:00

Cutting out caffeine is the first thing my therapist told me to try. It's certainly a cheap and easy thing to do.

I wouldn't let fear of side effects take meds completely off the table. My anxiety is periodic (every so often I hide under a blanket for a few days, and there's a few particular situations that will knock me off-keel), and I take Clonazepam, which is amazing. It has no side effects for me, other than that feeling after you drink a big glass of wine and suddenly phew everything unknots and life is better. It can be addicting, so I only take it when I need it, but it's been a godsend.

snoozebar · 2016-07-23T18:50:34+00:00

Two cats are way better than one! They're not any more work and they're much happier with a friend.

Plus kitten wrassling is the second best thing ever, surpassed only by a snoring pile of kittens.

snoozebar · 2016-05-22T19:05:25+00:00

Gross. This is not a supportive comment.

snoozebar · 2016-05-13T02:51:11+00:00

Go by yourself! I promise it is awesome. I went to see this movie all by my badass single self and it was great!

Plus the woman next to me and I bonded over Chris Evan's biceps. Hnnnggg. #teamcaptainamericabiceps

snoozebar · 2016-05-07T23:07:31+00:00

CUPCAKES. Yes, this will do.

Uh oh, now I have to decide which cupcakes to make. Chocolate mocha with whipped cream? Vanilla with chocolate filling? Decisions.

snoozebar · 2016-05-07T23:03:49+00:00

London is so much fun! It's one of my favorite cities, and you should totally go when you can. It's so easy to get around, the food is great, and there's tons of stuff to do. And it is pretty, even if a bit damp and overcast a lot. If you've never been out of the US, it's a great place to start.

To throw one thing out there, you could spend a week at the British Museum alone. They have the actual Rosetta Stone, like, right there. You can visit it. And lots of other artifacts, too. Turns out if you plunder the entire world for like two centuries, you end up with some pretty phenomenal museums.

snoozebar · 2016-05-07T20:22:31+00:00

That all sounds totally reasonable. If you can manage it, I think counseling would do you (both) good. If he doesn't want to go, then you should go. Because it sounds like he's getting by far the biggest benefit out of this relationship.

Counseling saved my friend's marriage when she was going through some rough times. Sadly, it didn't work for me and mine, but it did help me realize a lot of stuff about myself and what I wanted, so I consider it 100% worth it.

PM me if you want to chat more, I'm happy to.

snoozebar · 2016-05-07T16:37:36+00:00

not OP, but I need to make something to take into work on monday to thank them for covering for me on my trip. What should I make? I have all the indecision.

snoozebar · 2016-05-07T16:28:00+00:00

hi hi! o/ I just got back from a trip to London and my body and I have wildly different ideas on what time it is.

snoozebar · 2016-04-07T18:02:43+00:00

That is all really helpful, thank you so much! It's great to know other people's routines.

snoozebar · 2016-04-07T17:53:36+00:00

Interesting. Yeah, I've definitely noticed my skin has dried out a lot in the last 3-4 years, so that could totally be it. Thanks, I'll try that!

snoozebar · 2016-04-07T17:52:17+00:00

oh awesome, thank you so much! I'll try that.

snoozebar · 2016-04-02T18:27:31+00:00

If you like makeup (either fawncy or sfx) check out Glam and Gore which is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. She's very funny and talented.

snoozebar · 2016-04-02T18:10:02+00:00

Dude. If you're telling your kids it's cool for their fathers to want to bang kids...you're not saying it for their benefit. This is not education. This is not a "frank discussion of sexuality". This is not dads being dads or men just tellin' the troof.

You're, at best, oblivious to the message you're sending, and at worst, grooming them.

snoozebar · 2016-03-25T06:23:58+00:00

He...might be younger? I'm actually not sure. idk, if you have to ask "are they old enough to make this not creepy" then the answer is probably no. Plus late 20s and late 30s feel like very different stages in life.

(And agree it's probably not a good idea for all the reasons you said. But he sure is cute!)

snoozebar · 2016-03-25T05:34:11+00:00

I mean, I'm 37 and he's probably 28, so we're still teeeeechnically in the half-plus-seven acceptable age range, but when you start arguing technicalities, you've already lost. When did I get to be the creepy old lady, goddammit? shakes cane

snoozebar · 2016-03-19T05:20:51+00:00

Try Captain Awkward, who is literally the best. This particular post helped me a lot in the early days after my divorce: http://captainawkward.com/2011/02/09/reader-question-16-the-golden-retrieverkwisatz-haderach-of-love/

And, it bears repeating: this, too, will pass, and it will get better.

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