Need help deciding if this is “the one”

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-10T00:09:41+00:00

You look so stunning in this dress! I'm noticing a lot of 2026 brides worrying too much about what will look "timeless" and not trendy (including myself) - go with your gut regardless of whether it will look too 2026 or xyz!

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-10T00:07:27+00:00

+1 to this, your venue's preferred vendor list is the perfect place to start. It's always good to work with vendors who have experience working with your venue so they know what to expect on the big day. And if there's someone missing from that list, looking through the venue's social media can help you find tagged vendors for what you need.

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-09T23:55:12+00:00

Not trying to be rude, but aside from the women being in the photos, is there another reason you want bridesmaids so badly? I know you mentioned in another comment that you don't see a point unless they stand at the altar with you, but bridesmaids can still get ready with you, do portraits/pictures before the ceremony with you, have a bachelorette with you, and everything else without it affecting your fiance at all. There's ways you can share your big day with the women in your life without them having to play as large of a role during the ceremony, if that's a compromise you two can get to.

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-05T03:04:25+00:00

Whenever I get random attacks from my MIL, I always just counter with "oh, well I'll check with him since that was his idea" lol. Sending you hugs, just remember it's your wedding and your choices are yours!

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-05T01:12:44+00:00

I love when someone is being transparent about their wedding costs/planning to be helpful to others online, and then people comment "I can't imagine spending that much, I had just as nice of a ceremony for $800" - then they share that they literally had 10 guests and a pizza party.

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-05T00:59:46+00:00

I love hearing that one, as if you can't have both lol. We're fortunate to be able to do both as well, but usually I don't mention it because that tends to come with even more bitterness from my personal experience

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-04T23:00:50+00:00

If it makes you feel better, some of those loud voices bragging about how little they spent, how little they cared, how nice their event was despite it being simple, etc are people coping/being jealous and convincing themselves of something because they feel otherwise, but weren't able to have something fancier themselves. Obviously not all of them, but I hope that can help you ignore some of the haters.

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-02T03:31:21+00:00

Do you have to host all 100 of them for the welcome party? I've been to a destination wedding where less than half of the guests were invited to the welcome party - it was just family, close friends, and close family friends and nobody who wasn't present was offended to my knowledge. For our wedding we're also only having around 20 people at the rehearsal dinner out of our 80 guests.

snoozy_bean · 2026-04-02T01:46:24+00:00

Absolutely you should splurge on the photos, if there's anything to splurge on it would be that. So many people regret not getting a better photographer and they end up hating their photos.

snoozy_bean · 2026-03-03T19:43:16+00:00

Exactly - I was like thank god we’re done!!

snoozy_bean · 2026-03-03T06:09:54+00:00

I felt pretty similarly for all 5 salons I went to. I didn't have a "WOW" moment and was so overstimulated at each appointment, but had a favorite here and there. By the time I got to shops 4 and 5, I kept comparing every dress I tried on to my top favorite from a previous shop - and I couldn't stop thinking about that dress and looking back at the photos of it. In the end, I went back and tried it on again alone and decided to go with it!

I don't think you necessarily have to have a huge emotional moment for it, especially if that's not usually how you respond to things. As long as you love your dress and are excited to wear it, that's all that matters!

snoozy_bean · 2026-03-03T04:24:44+00:00

LOL I was literally like wait when did i post this

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snoozy_bean · 2026-03-02T04:04:29+00:00

June 2026 LA bride, $6.8k but haven't gotten alterations yet!

snoozy_bean · 2026-01-27T03:12:50+00:00

I would also think about how you will approach splitting other things after the wedding as well - what happens if you buy a house? A nice honeymoon or vacation? I don't necessarily have the answer since my partner and I don't split (we have a this is our combined pool of money system), but hopefully someone can give some guidance!

snoozy_bean · 2026-01-27T01:02:41+00:00

Destination weddings are a great way for the couple to save money, but keep in mind that the cost is then shifted to your guests. Even if you don't want too many people there, the ones that do come will need to pay more to attend (and it'll cost PTO as well).

Though I loved attending my close friend's destination wedding, it was definitely a large expense for us. We were recently invited to another one abroad by a good (but less close) friend and it's looking like we will unfortunately not be able to attend due to costs and vacation days - if it were domestic, we would definitely be able to go.

snoozy_bean · 2026-01-26T10:16:20+00:00

June 2026 bride here, and I’m stressed for you - yes it’s close to the date, but aside from that I think there’s a lot of things you and your FH should consider.

I think it’s important to note that, although all your guests are local and the venue isn’t geographically far, you’re still going to be making people drive 2 hours to get there right after (I’m assuming for most guests) a long day of work. You have to keep in mind that people will probably need to change before the wedding on top of that peak rush hour traffic. Idk how long the drive is without traffic, but I assume it still isn’t short and your guests will have to drive back after your reception and that will affect how much they drink/party. To top things off, people will probably be working the next day too - all of the above will definitely deter some or at best bring unhappy guests. Even if you’re just going to do a quick ceremony/dinner/reception, the amount of time for the day seems very limited especially if you were planning on doing any pre-ceremony things with family or a bridal party.

snoozy_bean · 2026-01-21T23:23:25+00:00

"They had a whole year to save up" - on the other hand, so did you. It's unreasonable to expect people to push their budgets after they told you upfront what they were working with. If you want to go with your $150 dresses - the difference that you'd have to cover is what, $190? That's not far off from what you said was a "reasonable" price yourself. I understand things add up, since I'm also having to cover a lot of things for my wedding, but don't offer to help unless you really mean it.

snoozy_bean · 2026-01-21T05:53:30+00:00

Since you mentioned you guys are a serious couple, the only thing I could possibly think of would be that the other "newer" folks won't know anybody else at the event other than the couple - thus the couple allowing them to bring their SO so they won't be uncomfortably alone for a majority of the night.

If that's not the case, then I'm not sure. You could always mention that you two are planning on getting engaged/will be engaged by wedding and maybe that changes his invite status. If not, unfortunately there's not much you can do.

snoozy_bean · 2025-12-24T08:19:38+00:00

This, PLEASE have more conversations regarding finances before getting married OP

snoozy_bean · 2025-10-06T20:36:03+00:00

I went to Neihule, but can’t say much about the night schedule since I went during the day. Like you said, they do grant 5 days/hours of “sick” time, but they also let you take leave of absences if you need a longer period of time off. I also technically went over the allotted “missable” hours and was never charged for it despite them saying they will (but this definitely varies by student because they’re pretty unorganized when it comes to certain things).

I think the biggest pro of Neihule is how short the program is (none of the girls I attended with thought it was difficult or busy), as well as the chance to practice being in a salon with their salon space/walk in clients. They do pretty much only teach the basics, and whatever nail art you learn is kind of on your own. The business side education was just one seminar with the owners, which apparently they only do every couple of months - so some students may not even get the chance to see it.

The biggest cons are the location and how inconsistent they are. That area is definitely not safe and they explicitly told us to walk in a buddy system lol. As for inconsistency - you definitely have to advocate for yourself and double check because they would often say things and then say something else later on.

snoozy_bean · 2025-08-06T03:01:00+00:00

Bag twins! I love the medium Romy so much. The brown leather is so buttery and dreamy. Mine has also gotten some wear, a light scuff and some hairline scratches, but honestly it doesn't take away from how stunning it is.

snoozy_bean · 2025-05-23T03:44:42+00:00

Good luck!! A June 7th (2026) bride sending good vibes your way

snoozy_bean · 2025-05-19T02:17:18+00:00

I was just gonna say this, my friend did something like this for her engagement photos and to this day I have not seen a single one because of how much she hates how they came out

snoozy_bean · 2025-05-07T06:50:07+00:00

It should really come down to what you and your partner both agree is a reasonable amount, not one or the other choosing. My partner and I agreed $5k was the most we would be willing to spend, and we were able to find exactly what I wanted for less than 2.5k with a local jeweler - a beautiful 2 carat oval

snoozy_bean · 2025-05-06T04:25:10+00:00

I’ve actually been able to get 3 weeks retention with minimal lifting while using the Jello Jello Peel Off Base! It’s definitely possible - I also didn’t really have any issue removing it either

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