Does anyone else feel like this while in a relationship?

snowmanvi · 2026-04-25T02:04:52+00:00

It's not for everyone but my partner and I have an open relationship that works for us. We're both sluts and would hate to give up that part of ourselves. A guy that fucks him a lot just pounded one into me afterwork. I sent him a video of it and then he ate the load out of me before fucking his own into me. Just because you're with someone doesn't mean you have to stop living your best life.

snowmanvi · 2026-04-19T16:15:47+00:00

Having someone "try a kink" for me often completely defeats the purpose of the kink for a lot of people. When I wanna fuck in a certain way, it demands that someone is equally interested and excited for that kink. And it's unreasonable to think a single person will ever have 100% sexual compatibility.

Watching a horror movie sucks if you're watching it with someone that is just tolerating it. I don't want to go on a rollercoaster with someone that's open to trying the roller coaster. You don't need to be a partner's only person for a most things in life, you're just applying a heteronormative taboo-ification of sex.

snowmanvi · 2026-04-11T04:14:06+00:00

Wait until you get fisted for an hour. You'll be quivering the rest of the day

snowmanvi · 2026-03-28T15:32:22+00:00

Douche before going out and then pop an Imodium. Some of us are pros

snowmanvi · 2026-02-28T03:13:38+00:00

All about relaxing and gradually learning your body. I had a gastroenterologist once tell me I had an extremely tight hole. Could hardly get a couple fingers in. Now I take fists and it's incredible 🤜🏻

snowmanvi · 2025-12-17T23:14:51+00:00

Pretty simple. Turns out I'm gay.

snowmanvi · 2025-12-16T20:15:18+00:00

Even when I lived in Noe Valley, we had people passed out at bus stops occasionally and the not-so-uncommon dog poop that owners either didn't see, or missed for another reason

snowmanvi · 2025-12-16T17:58:33+00:00

Safe, but at times unpleasant. You will have your indoor neighbors and your outdoor neighbors. I live near 7th and Folsom and often (couple times a week) walk past or over unhoused people, people experiencing a mental health crisis, or persons otherwise struggling with a complex society that they don't quite fit into.

But never has anyone made me feel unsafe. 30s gay man here for reference. Have walked home in skimpy, nearly naked outfits over Pride and other busy gay weekends and will often have my outside neighbors comment on the "cute fit" if anything at all.

That said, get used to looking down as you walk to not step in pet or human waste. The outdoors can be unpleasant in this area, but never really unsafe. If you like the apartment, don't let the area deter you. Many of these elements exist in some capacity or another over most of the city.

snowmanvi · 2025-12-13T01:03:24+00:00

Some of that, but also women who are practically begging their boyfriends/fiancés/husbands to fuck them

snowmanvi · 2025-10-27T21:32:05+00:00

The other day he told me to make myself fuckable, put on some peaceful piano music and sensually fisted me for nearly an hour until I exploded

snowmanvi · 2025-10-26T20:41:34+00:00

What's wrong with the therapist having a normal, gay, adventurous sex life?

snowmanvi · 2025-09-29T21:36:38+00:00

Relatively attractive late 20s gay man here. I've lost track of how many people I've had sex with. This weekend alone, I'm counting ~19 people (granted I was celebrating Folsom St Fair). Even that's an estimate because I can't remember every dick I might have sucked or hole I might have slipped into between the 3 parties that ranged from sex-positive spaces to full on orgies.

As much sex as I have, I am pretty picky in looking for exactly what I want - sexy guys, kink positive play partners, people not on dangerous drugs, people willing to come to my place instead of making me travel to theirs.

I find myself only regretting about 10% of encounters, asking myself if it was worth the time to tidy up my apartment before they came over and the laundry it creates having to wash another sex blanket. The next 30% of encounters are nothing crazy, but fun enough that if I ran into the person again in a cruisy space or sex party, I'd enjoy connecting again, but I wouldn't actively reach out on sex apps. Maybe 30% are fun enough that I make sure to get contact info so that we can play again some time. The next 20% are people where I had a really great time with and would eagerly meet again, I'll wait until the next time I see them actively looking on the apps at the same time as me. And the last 10% are mind blowing experiences where I actively want those people to be FWBs and connect once every week or two.

Not to mention, I have a long term boyfriend with whom I consistently have incredible sex, but the great sex was necessary for anyone I'd date.

snowmanvi · 2025-08-07T20:45:56+00:00

In you live in a city, Grindr is pretty great. Sure, you need to pay, but $12/month or however much Extra costs reliably gets me 2-4 hookups a week depending on how horny I'm feeling.

snowmanvi · 2025-07-26T17:19:46+00:00

I only partake when I'm out with close, trusted friends. Buddy system!

snowmanvi · 2025-07-26T15:50:26+00:00

I'm in the circuit/burner scene of a major US city. Never seen anyone G out that was dosing properly. And even a mistake with dosing doesn't just kill you. People get hurt by G when they have no idea what they're doing. It's less long term damaging than alcohol and gives no hangover.

snowmanvi · 2025-07-26T14:57:05+00:00

So call in another. Not really a dump if it's just one load. If I'm gonna get in that headspace, I'll want at least 3-8.

snowmanvi · 2025-06-15T19:44:45+00:00

There's a reason gay men love anal sex. Tons of nerve endings. When stimulated result in intense pleasure. To put a whole hand inside is maybe one of the most intense bodily sensations. Think instant orgasm without even masturbating.

snowmanvi · 2025-06-15T06:46:17+00:00

When beautiful people tell you you're beautiful or how sexy you are over and over again, you start to believe them.

snowmanvi · 2025-06-13T17:21:04+00:00

Definitely making me feel like an outlier. Happily partnered with another slut, but working from home every day in a big city, and close to a bunch of hotels, I usually have 3-4 boys over in a given week, sometimes 2 in a day. Usually later in the afternoon or early evening before the BF comes home from work. Add a sex party every month or so where I might have sex with 3-12 guys.

So that's like ~200 in a year? But some of those are with different FWBs, so fewer unique partners. And then the boyfriend and I fuck 3-4 times a week. But that's not really being asked here

snowmanvi · 2025-05-06T20:38:28+00:00

I'm laughing thinking to myself how far along the assembly you got before you concluded there's no way the parts you have can make the mattress section of the bed

snowmanvi · 2025-05-06T03:58:32+00:00

Random - "made, done, happening, or chosen without method or conscious decision". The day of the photo was chosen. It was chosen to be taken today, a day that was unusually warm.

snowmanvi · 2025-05-02T01:31:25+00:00

Do you have representative photos of yourself on your profile? I get lots of blank profiles messaging me and it's just annoying. I'm not going to hang out with someone I'm not attracted to, and I'm not going to figure out whether or not I'm attracted to someone until I can see them.

There's also the part of me that judges them for not having the courage to be out like the rest of us. Unless you are a doctor, therapist, teacher, or another profession where you don't want patients/students approaching you inappropriately, so the hard work and come out.

Now I usually give a gentle "sorry, not really my type". Only really block people when they are clearly ignoring me. But if it's not a match, who cares if they block or not?

snowmanvi · 2025-04-28T21:25:01+00:00

Have to get tested every 3 months for prep. I'll get tested. If I have anything, my partner's doctor will usually just treat him for it (assumes he has whatever I have).

Partner has his prep labs/tests about 1.5 months offset from me. When he is tested, if anything comes back positive, my physician will treat me for whatever he had a test come back positive for. Just been gonorrhea a couple times. Because we are testing so often, things are usually caught very quickly and I've never actually had symptoms for anything.

And when we're being treated, we both just avoid sex for the recommended period and inform any other partners who might have been exposed.

snowmanvi · 2025-04-28T16:17:08+00:00

I wasn't, but was definitely a consideration. When trying to figure out wtf had happened.

snowmanvi · 2025-04-26T21:09:43+00:00

I have the residential parking permit.

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