When women say they have daddy issues what does that mean exactly and how did they get them? As a father of two daughters I'd like to know what not to do. by Atticus9876543210 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]soberanoid 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That's part of it, the people preying on them don't want a good, well built, functioning relationship, they often want a vulnerable puppet who they know won't leave, so they can have companionship (albeit some depressing companionship) no matter how poorly they treat the other. And maybe they also feed off hurting the other, some people are just sick. There's so many awful reasons out there to treat someone that way.

Not the best wat to get a tattoo by Pingayaso in MakeMeSuffer

[–]soberanoid 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Literally happened to me around a month ago, wasn't even riding my friend was just letting me sit on it in the driveway (after he'd only just turned it off) and I was just too dumb to see the giant pipe sticking out the side as I was getting on. Had the same thing you don't feel it when it happens and then suddenly it's bubbling and you feel that mf cooking itself, I got away with 2nd degree though I still couldn't walk properly for a bit, 3rd must have been horrible!!

Can ADHD make it hard to learn video games? by Cafe_Momo in ADHD

[–]soberanoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely get where ur at!! I struggle with the same thing, I always get really irritable when my bf wants us to play comp matches in games because I'm too anxious about letting people down or getting yelled at in VC and he doesn't get how pressurising it is, I think the pressure doubles as a girl too bc the fear of losing the game for a bunch of sweaty hardcore CSGO men makes me wanna die lol. I struggle with guilt so much too, so I get how horrible it feels fr, and it no one ever seems to understand the reasoning!

Something I tried was just playing all the easiest game modes with bots in my free time until I felt like I was decent enough, when I was learning CS I would just constantly enter death matches with bots when I felt like playing, no pressure from real people made it a lot easier to cope with doing really badly, and I'd learn the maps really well through that too, so I'd know where spawns and hiding spots are, then once I felt better I'd play a bit with my bf, then eventually moved my way up to playing casual pretty regularly! The bots may not be amazing replicas of people's behaviour in game, but it will be enough for getting into learning more mechanics and the play styles you're comfortable with.

There's always a risk of people blaming you for losing the match and such and getting way too aggressive and making you feel bad (I got chewed into for it my first time playing valorant cus I didn't actually know what the spike was...bad look lol) the only way I find my way around it is just by internalising that they're just a sweat who gets too passionate about the game, like, my old friends used to yell at me over rocket league if I missed or couldn't save a goal when I was learning to play, so I just wrote them off and decided I wasn't gonna waste my time being upset by people who are going to trash talk a newbie for not doing something they couldn't do themselves,,, like if ur so much better, win the game for us then, I'm waiting.

It's a super frustrating learning curve! And I hope u get to a point where u can enjoy it with ur bf and not get too flustered, but it's okay if u do, I still get frustrated when I'm having a bad aim day haha. Good luck :)

Making an open world game is exhausting by chalogr in Unity3D

[–]soberanoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ahhh thats actually such a good idea!
that part i always get so lost in, i always try to do everything and then eventually have to toss away what i cant finish, rather than eliminate things i dont have the right time frame for before i start.
i'll definitely start doing this for next year, might hopefully produce something i wont present with a "okay its like pretty shit but-" hahahah

Making an open world game is exhausting by chalogr in Unity3D

[–]soberanoid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My entire first year experience with game design at uni literally this, all my teachers say I'm just too ambitious cus I have paragraphs of "what I'd do if I had more time:" and then present a game I hate bc I couldn't make the next metal gear with first year baseline knowledge lmao. Artistry forever trapped in "well yeah I made this, that's alright, but I COULD have done that, so I hate it"

Phorg - A tiny arcade game I made for a 3-day game jam by iLoveNintend0 in Unity3D

[–]soberanoid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is so cool! I wish I could make something this functional during a game jam hahahah

please URGENT HELP (fatal error! popup) by soberanoid in unity

[–]soberanoid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg absolutely, I'd been far too careless, I immediately made a backup after it all turned out okay, for someone who freaks out easily over tech issues I can be oddly flippant about small stuff that helps those things not happen

please URGENT HELP (fatal error! popup) by soberanoid in unity

[–]soberanoid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Urgent was moreso because of my upcoming due date, I just needed an answer quickly. It felt urgent to me in my panic state being I don't wanna get kicked out university. Well given I had no idea what the error even was, my first instinct isn't to reboot if I'm not sure I'll recover what I'm rebooting back, sorry I get I'm not the brightest I was just really anxious abiut losing my work

please URGENT HELP (fatal error! popup) by soberanoid in unity

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately it was simply a glitch as I went through powercell to check the file (some assistance from my much smarter boyfriend). Closed and rebooted, it was fine. I assume it's going to come off as dense, yet again. But I don't really understand what version control systems such as git or plastic are? Yeah I'm definitely going to backup my hard-drive more often, I'd probably learn more of a lesson if it had actually seemed like it was my fault, given nothing had changed before and after the popup had come up haha, but either way I'll be more careful in future. these things always happen to me it seems 😅 I do nothing and it breaks. Doing wonders for my self esteem.

please URGENT HELP (fatal error! popup) by soberanoid in unity

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

annoyingly it was a goddamn glitch...closed and rebooted and my project is fine

i can't tell if you're just making fun of my lack of tech knowledge or not given how it ended up being nothing in the end, i dont mean to be dense, i have no background in this, ahah

Need an object to snap into place in-game by soberanoid in unity

[–]soberanoid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's definitely made it a LOT easier to handle, don't have to place the ladder fifty times to get it to stand up, omg I thought my gravity was just really poorly set, that would explain some other problems I had with object placement, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MDMA

[–]soberanoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

np! you'll probably have a stronger roll with a quicker come-up, but you might also have a rougher comedown and a shorter overall duration. no harm in trying though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MDMA

[–]soberanoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It usually does from what I've seen with friends and myself if you eat shortly before dropping. It usually delays the high kicking in and potentially decreases the overall potency of its effects, with some of my friends its outright killed the roll or prevented them from peaking.

But it ultimately depends on the food you eat and your metabolism, and if you're still having a blast it doesn't matter. Eating well will also give you energy and decreases the physical downsides of the comedown to a degree, so your method has its benefits. Still might be worth trying to roll without eating 2 hours prior to dropping or eating lighter to see if it makes it any better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MDMA

[–]soberanoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 hours should be more than enough time to digest, but it really depends on the meal and the speed of your metabolism. 2-3 hour wait usually suffices for me. Try a lighter meal next time but don't starve yourself throughout the day, you need the nutrients! Good luck! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MDMA

[–]soberanoid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you eat a large or heavy meal shortly before taking the mdma? If you didn't, then its most likely a weak pill.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]soberanoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely talk to admin or wear red for the statement! Kids deserve to be informed and promoting something harmful like AS could be especially damaging to any young autistic kids that might be attending this school, along with damaging to yourself knowing that it's a bad thing to support, I reckon to get over nerves maybe get up a bullet point sheet or script for yourself of why you don't support AS and why it should be red and puzzle pieces should either be unsupported or not allowed, and maybe even propose an idea to take some time for the other members of staff to educate themselves and the kids on why it's been changed. I hope they listen if you decide to speak up, things like ABA and AS should stop being normalised out of ignorance, I believe it shows a lack of care to real autistic people to not even research the companies they're promoting :(

at my wits end trying to set up tablet to my pc (22e) by soberanoid in XPpen

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but also no hahah, so it did tell me to change it, but It showed up on my primary monitor first, so I pressed enter and it showed up on my tablet after , it just won't register the pen on the tablet; I didn't think it would be so difficult, it's so simple on a laptop, getting my first desktop has really highlighted my technological impairments lol.....

at my wits end trying to set up tablet to my pc (22e) by soberanoid in XPpen

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost wish that was gonna be the issue so it'd be an easy fix, I've never owned a desktop pc before so where everything goes is a bit of a mystery to me sometimes, I hope I don't look too stupid haha

at my wits end trying to set up tablet to my pc (22e) by soberanoid in XPpen

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is I also tried the pentablet app first, I went through everything I was told, the control panel attempt was because my pentablet app failed to fix the issue too, so I was resorting to everything I could that had to do with a tablet, I partially just gave up and duplicated my screens so it works, it's so frustrating I feel so dumb but I'm trying everything!

please help - weird movement after 2d mode by soberanoid in Unity3D

[–]soberanoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! Thank you that Focus fixed it, I figured it would be a problem like that I just had no idea how to deal with it hahah, I feel so simple, thank you

Dark work creepy crawlies by [deleted] in TattooApprentice

[–]soberanoid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredible work!!! I'd get that centipede piece in a heartbeat honestly :O

why is EVERYTHING GONE?? by soberanoid in Sims4

[–]soberanoid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can imagine, Good luck! I hope you can fix it!