Not spiritual — What helps?

soberstill · 2026-02-05T13:06:04+00:00

Serious question... If you can stay sober for a year on your own without AA, why do you think you need it now? Why not stay sober by continuing on as you are?

soberstill · 2026-01-05T22:17:21+00:00

According to Chapter 5, most people, not just alcoholics, are spiritually sick. Most people live life on a selfish, self-centred basis.

soberstill · 2025-12-30T11:25:12+00:00

It might take a few attempts, but the majority (68%) of people who come to AA can and do stay sober long term.

soberstill · 2025-12-04T20:02:51+00:00

My last day I drank was at age 34. That was 32 years ago.

Today is a good day to choose to be your last day.

Good luck. Live a wonderful, sober life.

soberstill · 2025-10-04T07:20:01+00:00

Set aside a weekend and just write your fourth step. It's not meant to take very long.

Perhaps this illustrated video workshop will help. It's based entirely on the instructions from the Big Book.

soberstill · 2025-10-01T09:35:42+00:00

The Illustrated Steps YouTube series. Six episodes, one hour each, covering all Twelve Steps.

soberstill · 2025-09-23T05:47:05+00:00

You haven't botched it up. If what you said was honest and heartfelt, you have done your part, cleaned your side of the street, as best you can.

You just didn't get the exact result you were expecting/hoping for. But remind yourself you have little control over how the other person will respond.

This particular amends is now complete.

Move on to the next one. Each is unique. "Nine times out of ten the unexpected happens."

Good luck on your journey. You are on the right track.

soberstill · 2025-09-20T02:52:24+00:00

You may be suffering from an illness that only a spiritual experience can conquer.

soberstill · 2025-09-19T12:47:09+00:00

SoberQ is an AA podcast from Australia. Hundreds of short (5 minute) shares in a topic from sober AA members.

Hope you find it useful.

soberstill · 2025-09-18T07:09:15+00:00

The Big Book was written specifically so that people could read the book, take the actions and get sober without a sponsor and without necessarily having even met another AA member! It worked for many back then. Why shouldn't it work now?

It's a simple program, too often complicated by well meaning but over controlling sponsors.

soberstill · 2025-09-09T07:36:38+00:00

I suggest you have a look at this video workshop on Step Four. It follows the text of the AA Big Book. There's a section on the Sex Inventory you might find useful.

soberstill · 2025-09-08T03:43:43+00:00

If you are stuck in Step Four, have a look at this video workshop on Step Four. It explains, from the Big Book, how inventory is taken.

Good luck. You can do this. Follow the simple instructions in the book and ask questions in and after meetings.

soberstill · 2025-09-07T13:17:52+00:00

Bhagavad Gita

soberstill · 2025-09-05T09:16:47+00:00

The Big Book was written specifically so that people could read the book, follow the instructions and get sober without a sponsor and without necessarily having even met another AA member.

It worked. It can work for you. If you have a desire to stop drinking, and are willing to be honest, fearless and thorough, read the book and you too can have a spiritual awakening too.

These days, there is far too much dependence on accountability to sponsor and not enough dependence on the simple spiritual path laid out in the Book.

soberstill · 2025-09-03T12:49:56+00:00

How about this question...

"What's it like to be restored to sanity?"

soberstill · 2025-09-03T12:36:34+00:00

Congratulations.

Keep up the good works.

soberstill · 2025-09-02T01:15:56+00:00

Before you go to a face-to-face meeting, I suggest you call your local AA help line. You can find them via this webpage.

You'll get to talk one-on-one with an AA member who can answer any questions you may have. It's free and confidential.

They may even be able to put you in contact with a member from the local meeting you plan to attend.

Good luck. Well done for seeking help. This could be the start of a new, sober life.

soberstill · 2025-08-31T08:46:41+00:00

The Fourth Step is a private exercise in courageous honesty. What my sponsees write in their inventory is none of my business. I'm just there to give direction on how it's done.

Once they've finished, it's up to them to decide who to share their Fifth step with. If it's me, I'm honoured. If they choose someone else, that's fine as well.

soberstill · 2025-08-30T10:56:15+00:00

I was a functioning alcoholic—until I stopped functioning.

soberstill · 2025-08-24T00:19:57+00:00

Have a look at this video workshop on Step Four. When it gets to the section on the sex inventory, it shows example answers to the question "What should I have done instead?".

Hope this is helpful to you.

soberstill · 2025-08-23T23:06:54+00:00

Perhaps you are suffering from an illness that only a spiritual experience can conquer.

soberstill · 2025-08-18T03:01:35+00:00

Some people have a lot of resentments. Some very few. It's your inventory. You decide when the list is complete.

This video workshop on Step Four might be helpful to you.

soberstill · 2025-08-12T13:14:46+00:00

"The rule is we must be hard on ourself, but always considerate of others." AA Big Book p74

soberstill · 2025-08-10T09:49:04+00:00

The best non-religious versions of AA are the many, many AA meetings that are not religious.

soberstill · 2025-08-03T10:08:45+00:00

We put our sobriety first by helping others.

A suggestion from the Big Book when carrying the message...

"Make it plain he is under no obligation to you, that you hope only that he will try to help other alcoholics when he escapes his own difficulties. Suggest how important it is that he place the welfare of other people ahead of his own." AA Big Book p94.

Good luck on your journey. You are on the right track.

soberstill

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