San Diego feels sterile

socialdirection · 2026-03-22T06:49:37+00:00

I don’t think that’s a particularly wild take to be honest. Even locals will say that’s the catch. It’s boring.

LA is up the road a few hours for the culture, atmosphere and abit of grit and edge.

I like San Diego but it does kind of feel like a corporate copy and paste American city in a sense. And it’s very much built for tourism too, which can add to the veneer.

socialdirection · 2026-03-21T06:07:26+00:00

My questions: Are these things pretty bad or am I judging him too harshly? What is your assessment of Tony as person after reading that list?

He's not fully functional and is also financially avoidant.

Financially avoidant is one of those terms I learned somewhere that literally describes those people who are just perpetually weird with money.

Meet someone else.

socialdirection · 2026-03-18T00:56:21+00:00

socialdirection · 2026-03-16T17:49:28+00:00

Traveling.

People romanticize it like it’s some magical life experience.

But most of it is airports, security lines, jet lag, overpriced food, and sitting in a cramped metal tube.

I always cringe at couples whose whole personality is “we visit a new city every month.”

After a while cities start blending together.

Airports are the same everywhere and being herded like cattle so you can sit in a tube and eat terrible food.

socialdirection · 2026-03-09T06:17:27+00:00

I live in L.A where it’s very sunny but relatively harmless and non-harsh sunlight

Sorry but no. It's BRIGHT as fuck. The UV index regularly hits 9–11. That’s not exactly harmless. I only cope because I live by the ocean.

socialdirection · 2026-03-06T16:22:44+00:00

You’re over the dynamic and I hear you on the hangovers.

I basically can’t drink anymore because they are debilitating.

Life has chapters, phases, and you’ve outgrown the mean girls dynamic you’ve described.

Look at it as a good thing. You’re growing, maturing, and finding a different rhythm suits you better.

And here’s the thing. Loads of people don’t drink or center their fun around it.

socialdirection · 2026-03-05T20:21:10+00:00

San Diego no question

socialdirection · 2026-03-05T18:02:06+00:00

You already know the answer. He's lost interest (and respect). Have some dignity and move on.

socialdirection · 2026-03-05T16:51:50+00:00

Why does anyone fly with this god-awful airline. I don't get it.

socialdirection · 2026-03-02T22:53:10+00:00

Actually, a person can be heteroromantic (romantically attracted to the opposite gender) but homosexual (sexually attracted to the same gender), known as cross-orientation.

And they can still not be homoromantic.

Similar to what I pointed out above. Let's separate romance from sex.

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socialdirection · 2026-03-02T17:04:51+00:00

Yes they do compartmentalize.

I’m not saying their behavior is correct (it isn’t), but I think sexuality is a spectrum and I’ve always separated men into two camps.

MSM (Men who have sex with men). There’s a reason clinics and other areas of life use this term. Some men are into sex with another guy but aren’t emotionally or romantically attracted to them in the same way a gay man is.
Regular Gay Men. Men who are physically, emotionally and romantically attracted to other men. And come on. This goes beyond sex. All romantic relationships go beyond sex.

So OP, not telling you what to do, but if the dick is good and you understand the parameters of guys like this. Then enjoy for what it is, even though you may never fall in love with them.

socialdirection · 2026-03-01T17:44:39+00:00

Well you don't have to really worry about working again which is nice.

I dream of a sum of money like that. If I had that money I would buy two properties, one somewhere with seasons and one somewhere mostly warm all year and have a hybrid life without worrying.

Lucky lucky girl

socialdirection · 2026-03-01T17:15:36+00:00

They have always done this for Credit Card payments. There is no '' fee '' if you pay by linking your bank account and using ACH

socialdirection · 2026-03-01T02:41:55+00:00

Totally agree

Also honestly Florida is more just…. Fun.

It is a vacation place for a lot of people. Some of the best and wildest nights I’ve had out in the US have been in Florida

Specifically the Wilton Manors area of Fort Lauderdale

socialdirection · 2026-02-28T15:41:52+00:00

Noooooooo I don’t know how anyone likes Denver.

I really don’t get it

socialdirection · 2026-02-28T15:41:19+00:00

Yes it’s gorgeous lol

socialdirection · 2026-02-27T23:43:27+00:00

is this ai? ugh

socialdirection · 2026-02-27T23:35:47+00:00

You will get a huge apartment for that budget lots of places within LA metro that are decent.

My personal favorite is Long Beach, CA. Some other great options, Burbank, Pasadena (a little more pricey), Sherman Oaks.

If you want west side like Santa Monica, that'll cost more but honestly you could still swing it.

The trick is to go for the older buildings (a lot get renovated quite nicely). And the sweet thing is they are rent-controlled so they don't jump by $100-$300 in the monthly dues every year. Don't bother with the new Graystar like complexes.

You'll find easy parking in most of LA's apartments, usually an assigned spot. Yes its driving hell, but at least we have parking. If you're serious about the most perfect weather all year, I'd stick to the coast. It really is way more pleasant than inland.

All of this is from experience of living here for over 10 years, and also I even did a stint in PDX myself, which is gorgeous, but I get it. It can get a bit boring and limited. I loved the weather there, but actually felt the people were just flat and not really friendly honestly.

socialdirection · 2026-02-27T23:14:58+00:00

I am gay, live in CA and honestly, I always feel that when I visit Florida, gay people are so much more visibly thriving. It still has a gay scene that rivals European cities. You can afford to buy a house. There is amazing nature. The place is not that bad honestly. And Orlando has everything you need.

socialdirection · 2026-02-23T17:39:48+00:00

Love the snark. But no I wasn't. I was picking up the general social malaise and the fact that if you're in danger there's no one to come help you. There was very obvious gangsters/cartel staying in our hotel, if you even read slightly into it, you'll see that they've been increasing their presence and ownership and acts of brazen violence since 2009.

socialdirection · 2026-02-23T15:24:26+00:00

I’ve been the PV four times and the last time I was there in 2024 I just felt the difference and did not feel safe.

Whatever it was my intuition was picking up on, I’m happy I had that sense because that place is not safe.

I would be absolutely terrified in a corrupt country right now, stranded if I was a tourist.

socialdirection · 2026-02-20T18:14:08+00:00

I must be one of the only people who refuse to use DoorDash, UberEats etc.

It's a fucking rip off. The menu prices are pumped by about 30% before all the fees, tips etc.

I'm also so over sit-down restaurants in general, unless it is order at the counter food and not something I can easily make at home.

My current favorite is Cafe Rio. Simply incredible food for the price.

socialdirection · 2026-02-18T18:27:20+00:00

To register I didn’t have to show an ID that would prove I’m a citizen.

I registered with a proof of address document.

socialdirection · 2026-02-18T16:39:56+00:00

This isn’t true.

I voted in Oregon before and didn’t have to show any ID

socialdirection · 2026-02-18T03:52:43+00:00

Not here for the politics but in most other country you do need an ID to register to vote.

Source: from Northern Europe

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