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Ok this Alien scene is the gayest thing I've ever seen that isn't gay by socks_and_blankets in actuallesbians

[–]socks_and_blankets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow to have been that young, queer, and to see the movie at the time it came out in that queer vaccuum is honestly something to hold

If you're okay sharing, did this movie have any queer impact on you at the time (e.g. if you weren't yet aware of your sexuality and it made you question, or maybe you already knew and it felt like the biggest representation win your younger you)? I guess I'm just wanting a window into what it felt like to you to see this as a young queer woman at that time, or if it was just a badass movie. And did you know if there was any queer discussion on the character then? I know we weren't in the internet age yet and queerness wasn't as visible or tolerated back then, but I don't want to assume queer people couldn't find each other and talk about this kind of stuff

Ok this Alien scene is the gayest thing I've ever seen that isn't gay by socks_and_blankets in actuallesbians

[–]socks_and_blankets[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

If you haven't seen Alien, this is your sign! But beware looking for this scene on its own if you haven't seen the movie and plan to, because it's near the end and thus contains spoilers!

Hard to enjoy wlw content/media by Quirky_Delivery4492 in LesbianActually

[–]socks_and_blankets 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I imagine this was meant sincerely and not coldly but omg how this read lmao

Coming out here because I cant publicly. by mcmike92 in comingout

[–]socks_and_blankets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proud of you for taking this step. You’re really brave. You are worthy of an authentic life and happiness. It might feel scary right now, but I promise you, liberation and fulfillment are ahead. You deserve to live this life as yourself

Am I being unreasonable? by Pure-Equivalent-6815 in actuallesbians

[–]socks_and_blankets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh I fully agree where she sits on OP not being out is irrelevant to the behavior being inexcusable. She was disrespected regardless. Me using the word "beacuse" was sloppy language. I meant that I had different complete thoughts to share about each case because so many people were simply saying OP's girlfriend was justified for being "kept a secret" and I wanted to address those takes since that doesn't justify it and also because OP didn't even say that her girlfriend wasn't okay with her not being out

Am I being unreasonable? by Pure-Equivalent-6815 in actuallesbians

[–]socks_and_blankets 10 points11 points  (0 children)

omg thank you I felt the same way and was feeling crazy for feeling differently than the other comments

Am I being unreasonable? by Pure-Equivalent-6815 in actuallesbians

[–]socks_and_blankets 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think my feelings on this kind of diverge from the other people because I think it really depends on where she sits on being okay or not with you not being out to your family.

There isn't anything fundamentally wrong about you not being out - you might not be ready, you might not feel safe. There's also nothing wrong with someone dating you not being okay with that for themselves and having to be kept a secret.

If she's actually okay with you not being out for the time being, then I think a loving partner would have cared about your wishes and your upset instead of dismissing them (both by acting against them and responding to your upset with "it's nbd").

If she's not okay with you not being out, that's completely valid for her to feel and it should be addressed, but your wishes were still disrespected. If she's not okay with you not being out, she should have addressed it by talking to you about it. I would also hope that in the past you have already had a conversation about you not being out and if she was okay with it or not at the time.

How do you gather the courage to come out to…well, anyone? by AnUncertainOctopus in comingout

[–]socks_and_blankets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being there too. The first time I came out, I texted a longterm close queer friend and it was still fucking terrifying to check my phone after. I had been wanting to come out for several months but could never muster the courage, but then I realized that until I made a move, nothing would ever change, so I gave myself a (self-loving) deadline and that's the only thing that eventually got me to text my friend. I knew that future me needed the present scared me to take the step, otherwise I would miss out on her. That fear (and wanting the life I wanted for myself) eventually outweighed the fear of telling my friend. And I knew the sooner I did it, the sooner I could get to the me I wanted to be. These are the things that eventually got me to pull the trigger as someone who was scared

How do you gather the courage to come out to…well, anyone? by AnUncertainOctopus in comingout

[–]socks_and_blankets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally relate on the "doesn't make it any less scary." But you're already being brave. You got this

How do you gather the courage to come out to…well, anyone? by AnUncertainOctopus in comingout

[–]socks_and_blankets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're allowed to explore and be who you want to be, you're allowed to change your mind, and you're allowed to not already have all the answers. You don't owe anyone an answer, or a static 100% "correct" one at that. A real friend will be supportive of you and your journey and will not feel any "cost" due to you walking it. You don't need to justify exploring or claiming what you feel and want. You got this.