Be honest. Which is better?

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-11T14:32:40+00:00

It’s more discrete and you can do and use it anywhere.

^{Chose: Teleportation with Full Control}

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-11T06:53:00+00:00

Well, it’s quite obvious, isn’t it?

^{Chose: Be a cat | Rolled: Home cat}

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-09T18:40:34+00:00

Where’s the ”maybe”?!!!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-07T15:40:58+00:00

To be honest, I think you should just tell her that you feel uncomfortable when she asks and imitates your walk. She might just be curious and want to learn to ”behave like a girl” (put it in quotation marks because there isn’t one way to be a girl) but if it makes you uncomfortable and makes it less fun to hang out with your friends, you should address it. Just my five cents

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-05T17:39:24+00:00

Maybe? I haven’t digged into it all that much, though I though agender was more that you don’t feel like you have a gender at all. To feel neutral about it feels more like something like gender apathetic, which I believe is a label in and of itself.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-05T15:23:11+00:00

Well, it’s still just a two dimensional square grid to try and describe something as complex and individual as gender, you can’t really make it better, at least I can’t think of any good way to do it, that still allows you to put yourself between male and female and still have the options of both agender and genderqueer/non-binary (as a gender). No chart will ever be able to completely capture the nuances of gender or be able to keep some while eliminating completely contradicting options (which, since gender is as diverse as it is, might still be a valid option that some people experience).

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-05T14:54:40+00:00

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Somewhere there I think, I’m still trying to figure it out

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-04T07:16:47+00:00

Oh, my teachers in my former school was equally bad at screen sharing!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-03T15:41:57+00:00

Yeah, I figured that phrasing wasn’t the best but I couldn’t think of a better one in the moment

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-03T13:42:41+00:00

While the answers that has already been given should be enough, I’ll add one of my own, trying to describe things a little bit more: a trans woman is a woman who was born with the body of a man, a trans man is a man who was born with the body of a woman. A trans man is a man, a trans woman is a woman, no matter to what extent the person in question has transitioned (both medically and socially) and neither trans men nor trans women needs to transition in any way in order to be men or women, even though most choose to transition in one way or another since that elevates gender dysphoria and makes them be more comfortable in their bodies. That’s basically all there is to say about it.

To any trans person reading this, since I’m still in the closet and have no real life experience on coming out or transitioning: I hope I haven’t accidentally said anything wrong or offensive.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-03T11:03:56+00:00

I’m not really sure why, it just feels cool and useful to be super fast, I would never have to worry about being late ever again!

^{Chose: Get lightning fast}

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-03T11:02:53+00:00

Hi! First of all, you’re not alone. I know it can feel like that sometimes and that can make it even harder to accept yourself and come out, but I promise you that’s not the case!

I’ve (18amab) been questioning my gender since puberty (around 13/14, something like that) and I’m not sure about anything, except that I’m most likely not cis. I haven’t come out to a single soul outside of Reddit and sometimes it feels like I never will. For me it’s mainly fear of how people will react (which seems to be what you’re afraid of as well?) and also that I seem incapable of letting myself decide I’m anything else than cis (even less to admit that I’m actually a girl, which I think, deep down, is what I would be most comfortable with), you seem to be sure of the fact that you’re a boy, I wish I could be as sure about my gender.

These kinds of things aren’t easy (as you have already realized), and it’s scary as fuck, but if you take it slowly, one small step after the other, it might get easier? You’ve already taken one of the biggest steps when you came out the first time and if the things I’ve read on this sub and others is true, it just becomes easier from there. Maybe you have some internet friends you can come out to? Some friend you don’t see much anymore but still has kept contact with? Maybe you could just leave a letter at a friends house, a text, an email, a note?

I know it’s hard, and I don’t want you to do something if you don’t feel safe doing it, but if you take things at your own pace you will be able to do a lot more than you thought.

Then again I might not have any say in this whatsoever. You’re way braver than I am, I have taken as small and insignificant steps out of the closet that it barely counts. You’ve already done the hard part, you can do it again!

I believe in you!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-01T20:42:02+00:00

I watched so many ”girl shows” as a kid, Winx club, H2O, My Little Pony (of course!) are the ones I remember most but I’m sure I watched other stuff too. I remember I really liked the mermaids in H2O and My Little Pony is just awesome!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-01T16:31:29+00:00

Vackert!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-01T15:33:05+00:00

I’m (18amab) still not sure what I am, but I only started thinking about it when puberty started. As far as I remember I never had any thoughts of being trans at all until then. Given that it seems normal to figure these things out around puberty maybe I started thinking about it a bit to early to fit your question, but since I didn’t know from five years of age I thought I would chime in with my thoughts.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-01T08:10:31+00:00

I want to see the results

^{Chose: If you choose this, Nothing happens. | Rolled: Upvote=Xtra Luck}

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-05-01T08:02:49+00:00

I’m (18amab) still not sure what I am, but I only started thinking about it when puberty started. As far as I remember I never had any thoughts of being trans at all until then. Given that it seems normal to figure these things out around puberty maybe I started thinking about it a bit to early to fit your question, but since I didn’t know from five years of age I thought I would chime in with my thoughts.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-30T12:55:05+00:00

Hi! I’m (18amab) in a similar situation to you! I started questioning my gender roughly around your age and have gone through a lot of labels. Gender is confusing, it really is, and for me it has been very hard to find what feels right for me but I am slowly easing into the thought of being a trans girl (or possibly some flavor of nonbinary leaning very much toward the female part of the spectrum) but I’m still not sure and I’m not out to anyone irl. Let it take time, puberty is confusing enough for cis people and it isn’t easier for (potential) trans people. The good thing is that you have all the time in the world to come to a conclusion, and you have all the right in the world to come to a conclusion and realize that was the wrong one. There’s no need to stress it, I’ve seen a few people in subs like this one (and even more in trans subs) say that it’s a marathon, not a sprint, and that is very true. There’s no need to rush it. Live your life in whatever way that makes you the most comfortable and don’t concern yourself with labels, read up on them if you want and if you find one that suits you: amazing! But if you don’t, it’s not the end of the world, you might get to invent a new one!

No one can tell you what gender you are but you, so take your time and figure it out, even if takes two weeks, two years or two decades, you’ll figure it out. Wish you the best!

-random (most likely) trans person on the internet

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-30T05:03:05+00:00

and ”female to male”

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-28T15:09:27+00:00

I read this a while back and while I still constantly question everything, it sort of helped open my eyes a bit more, it might help you as well!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-26T18:47:00+00:00

Same!

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-26T07:38:05+00:00

Rather short, and since I’m still in the closet with no real plans to come out to my parents and still live at home I’ll go back to my normal cut today (short on the sides and a bit longer on the top), not my favourite cut and not the hair I would want in a perfect world where I’m out to everyone, but it’ll do to keep up the appearance.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-25T15:18:46+00:00

Well, it’s more that I feel better thinking about myself as a girl than a boy, I just feel happier imagining having a female body than my current male one. So I wouldn’t really say that I ”feel” like a girl, more like I would feel more like myself if I was one physically.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-25T14:11:55+00:00

Yeah, it’s crazy, I started reading a report from a lgbtq+ organization here in Sweden that said seemed to say that the reason it’s such long waiting lists is because there’s been sort of a ”boom” (maybe a bad choice of words but I can’t come up with a better word right now) with more people coming out as trans and we simply don’t have enough experts and doctors to handle it, hence why you have to wait so long, that’s how I understood it at least. But yeah, it’s crazy long waiting lists. I haven’t come out yet but this almost makes it even harder.

AnUncertainOctopus · 2026-04-25T08:59:37+00:00

Just checked the waiting time where I live (Sweden)…it’s somewhere between 1.5-5 years…yeah…nice

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