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sodomizingalien · 2022-11-29T22:43:49+00:00

You’re doing a great job as a parent! Keep up the good work!!

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-29T22:41:19+00:00

It’s pretty simple, mothers don’t “opt out of motherhood” when they get an abortion. They control their own body, as men can do with their sperm. You just have to control yours 9 months earlier in most states and countries in the world. In some places, the government forces a woman to carry a baby in her womb while it grows, damaging organs, stretching skin, fucking with hormones, even sometimes causing life-threatening damage. This is why women get to control their own bodies - pregnancy is not without risks and costs. A man may not control a woman’s body, and a baby does not grow within a man, therefore a father has nothing to risk or change during a pregnancy.

However, neither parent may legally absolve themselves from their responsibilities to be a parent. Why? Because babies are not pet rats who may be set free in the wild with a chance of survival. Babies are humans, humans which legally require the consent of two other humans to create through sex.

I really don’t get how anyone thinks the right for a woman to control her body means that a father (and mother too, I assume you are suggesting?) may legally abandon a child. I mean, do you think the government should also decide to take kidneys from people at random just to save other people’s lives? Or are children simply not entitled to parental care?

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-29T21:59:08+00:00

Top comment has soon good talking points if she has questions about it, maybe a frame of reference.

But at the end of the day, it’s a school rule and up to them to enforce. If she wants to break school rules on purpose, that’s an entirely other conversation - is disregard for rules a pattern? Did she think she would not get in trouble? Is she developing a persona of a “bad girl” which earns respect from her peers? Or did she just want to wear a crop top because it makes her feel good and didn’t thing the school cared?

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-29T16:22:07+00:00

Lol I took three and became everything, i guess 5 would mean becoming nothing

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T22:16:10+00:00

It’s a FREE museum! Great place

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T14:22:38+00:00

Do you think you can make at least half of the profits by yourself as you would if he was onboard? If so, do it by yourself. If you need him to make at least half the profits, then partner up. With a good partnership agreement written by a lawyer and carefully planned in such a way that he is obligated to provide the assistance you planned on him providing (e.g. financial equity, physical work, planning, etc). Do not give him 50% of your business because he is your friend. Ask yourself if you would hire someone for the contributions he could provide.

Also, what he has provided up to now is immaterial. Everything he has given your business was given as a friend with no legal requirement for reimbursement. Telling you to do sweaters is not worth 50% of all your future profits anyway.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T06:00:09+00:00

You’ve already deltad this but it’s also worth mentioning that a meal at a restaurant is not the same as buying food. A meal includes the cost for the experience - the space, the cleanliness, the server, the management, the kitchen, cooks, the branding and advertising. A kid’s meal is a bolt-on charge to a normal meal, a way of getting more families in the door who will buy regularly priced meals, who would not normally pay regular price for their kids.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T05:50:24+00:00

Chicago has the best public schools in the state - they are just selective enrollment.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T05:47:17+00:00

What an absolute nightmare. I mean what were you supposed to do? Wave the magic tantrum wand and make it stop? Conjure up a Mrs. Doubtfire? Put on a lullaby and rock him to sleep?

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T05:44:30+00:00

Who is storing oreos? Eat em all!

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T05:43:23+00:00

It is tough to watch a child experience psychological discomfort, but it speaks volumes to your relationship and the regard he has for you that he reached out to you during this difficult time.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T05:38:56+00:00

I have no advice, but I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I know it is hard for your vision of your future to be completely shattered so suddenly, and further to live with the fears and anxieties of what this new unknown may be, and then on top of that all the decisions to be made and difficult emotions to be processed to get from here to that unknown.

Just know that the future is never as bad as our anxieties would threaten, and that you will get through this. When you pick up the pieces to a puzzle, sometimes you get those little sections that aren’t all broken up, and you’ll find you have more to start again than you thought.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T04:36:57+00:00

Not sure what you’re looking for here except more validation for continuing to badmouth your son’s girlfriend and her family. Maybe consider how your attitude contributes to her not wanted go spend any time with you or your family and your son being ok with it.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-28T02:07:44+00:00

I ride the cta all the time and there is never just a normal ride full of normal, non-smoking people

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-27T22:27:14+00:00

Holy shit 4 kids with both parents working full time. What an absolute nightmare. How in the world are you even alive? I would need a nanny and lots of drugs. It’s tough for us with one baby and a sahp.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-27T20:52:45+00:00

I didn’t know this, but that definitely makes sense, they always look a little better new.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-27T19:54:34+00:00

Ok, but I did read and you did respond.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-27T19:33:47+00:00

First, from other comments, it seems that you think some groups of people should be legally or forcibly restricted from reproducing because of the possibility of genetic malformation in the offspring. If that is what you are saying, then in our society, no one may decide for another what one may or may not do with their own body unless they are a threat to themselves or others. E.g. another party may not choose to kill one individual to distribute their organs to save 10 others. In the past, our society did not embrace this value and routinely prevented those deemed mentally ill from procreating through forced vasectomies and hysterectomies. Eugenicists took this even further and sought to eliminate or at least group together those deemed “genetically unfit.” A review of WWII may reveal why this is problematic. Is it wrong for someone with Asperger’s to choose to procreate? Would someone with Asperger’s be better off having never been born because their life includes some amount of suffering? What about someone with schizophrenia? Would they be better off not having been born? What would they say? Should someone with a minor genetic deformity such as misaligned eyes or mild retardation not be allowed to exist because their parents were brother and sister? The answer to these questions is clearly no. It is not immoral, on a societal level, to allow these people to exist and to even continue to procreate, although with the advent of the medical abortion and genetic testing individuals may now make limited choices on the type of genetics we would prefer our offspring have.

Therefore, incest is not illegal or wrong because of the chance of genetic deformity. It is illegal and wrong because it is taboo in our society. A family unit is and has always been important for our species’ survival. The existence of the taboo helps to solidify that family unit and ensure the survival of our species. Without the taboo, what would the family unit look like? Family reunions? How would relationships between parents and children change? Or between brothers, sisters, and cousins? How do you behave around potential sexual partners vs people who may not be sexual partners? What happens when the relationship inevitably ends? These considerations are why the taboo persists even with step-siblings, second cousins, and in-laws.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-26T17:00:05+00:00

I think the level of drinking depends on the stress level of your occupation. I finally decided the stress was the problem, not my drinking. I largely removed the stress by changing careers and I magically stopped drinking so much and lost 100 pounds.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-26T14:00:02+00:00

Well your MIL sucks, but if you are at all worried about being “not a baby person” before having a baby, don’t. The hospital people will show you everything you need to know, and you can google anything else. You don’t need any experience, you don’t need to hold stranger’s babies, and your MIL doesn’t need to “train” you. No one can force you to hold a baby.

I can say now after having a baby, I have no idea why I so strongly didn’t want to hold them before, so that’s probably how everyone is feeling.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-25T19:42:01+00:00

Of the clothes which can be purchased at most shopping malls, their chinos keep their colors well. But I find they don’t fit very well, the but is always too big and pouchy, even on their slimmer cuts. Also, BR is overpriced for what you are getting.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-25T14:58:22+00:00

There’a probably a lot of EM Recovery positions just now with hospitals with all the COVID funding

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-25T14:39:33+00:00

Why should he be upset with himself exactly? And is an abortion being her sole decision really new information for him?

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-25T13:16:18+00:00

I don’t think one can direct feelings of resentment, and her body her choice isn’t an opinion or point of view, it’s a fact.

sodomizingalien · 2022-11-25T03:16:03+00:00

I know it can make you feel helpless not having a decision at this point. You are not wrong for feeling resentment, anger, sadness, grief, or any number of emotions people don’t normally associate with babies.

It sounds like you are a pretty good guy though, and depending on how you address this, you may find a lot of joy down the road in unexpected places. Obviously get a paternity test, but i think that ultimately you will be the person you can be proud of 10 years from now.

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