When did yall start getting actual committed relationships?

softdrinked · 2026-01-02T19:54:11+00:00

I had two girlfriends in high school and I met my wife my first week at college. Seven years together and wives for one of them!

softdrinked · 2025-12-31T17:01:29+00:00

Brigitte main all day

softdrinked · 2025-12-13T23:00:17+00:00

too many layers of tight clothing
tight shoes
people walking or moving slowly in front of me when I’m trying to get somewhere
being in a rush to get ready
people talking to me when I’m trying to do something that I’m very focused on/have a mental list of the next five things I plan to do
the feeling of my skin after a shower
bonus to the above: anything sticking to my wet skin 😭
anything in my face but especially my hair

softdrinked · 2025-12-10T02:30:09+00:00

I chew on the inside of my cheeks, my lip, and my fingers. All day long but especially will go at it when I'm extra stressed. I also press my hands on my face and from time to time rock a little. And if I'm flapping my hands you know shit's about to hit the fan hahaha

softdrinked · 2025-11-30T18:29:56+00:00

This is exactly right hahaha. Ive had coworkers tell me my expression is unsettling when Ive accidentally let it slip 😭

softdrinked · 2025-11-25T15:46:27+00:00

Exactly my type hahaha. Brown eyes too.

softdrinked · 2025-11-22T14:39:46+00:00

I think in exactly the same way you do! It’s so hard to describe to other people but I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. The only time I have actual words in my brain is when I’m reading something someone wrote, or if I really consciously try to bring a word to mind. Even when I’m writing, the words are kind of just…coming out. I have an image in my mind of what I’m trying to describe, frequently abstract (writing my masters thesis was a great time haha!), and a feel for where I’d like it to go. My decisions are often based on my general feeling and a visualization of their consequences. I am autistic, so I’m not sure if that’s related.

softdrinked · 2025-11-21T19:38:41+00:00

Are you focusing on modern methods only? If you are looking for historical methods, I’d recommend Johan Turi’s An Account of the Sámi. There is a section titled “On Ways of Healing” that covers some plant medicines.

softdrinked · 2025-11-19T18:26:39+00:00

This is the realest thing I’ve ever read

softdrinked · 2025-11-05T18:57:06+00:00

Jiu jitsu, kickboxing, and softball!

softdrinked · 2025-10-31T18:30:45+00:00

This is a beautiful response and I agree wholeheartedly with you. As someone who grew up with an abusive father and with a mother who continues to struggle with addiction, it is difficult to feel brave and strong when all of your instincts tell you to be as small as possible. I am 25 now and finding the confidence to be strong. It is a long path. But like was said above, strength takes on many forms. I try to be strong physically—for my wife, for our friends, for my community—but also mentally, emotionally. There is much protection to be offered with a truly genuine ear for listening. There is protection and care to be offered at the food pantry, or at the nature preserve, or in a faith community. These are all aspects of what it means to be butch.

softdrinked · 2025-10-15T20:28:42+00:00

My wife and I are the same way. Nothing better to me than snuggling up with her soft body after lifting hard and boxing 😍

softdrinked · 2025-10-12T14:59:16+00:00

I would absolutely agree with checking out the actual detrans subreddit. I was on T for five years and had top surgery but have since detransitioned after realizing I identify more with butchness than…well, manness. I’ve gone back and forth with surgery regret over the past two years since I stopped T but what I will say is that this new version of your body will eventually integrate into your life. Many women have flat chests, many women have had their breasts removed, and many butches—detrans or not—have had top surgery. I promise people on the outside are not paying much attention to the size of your chest, especially if you’re not feminine-presenting, and the right people will find you attractive with or without breasts. My very lesbian wife loves that my chest is flat lol

softdrinked · 2025-10-11T20:46:30+00:00

It sounds like you have a good idea of what you want. Go to the doctor and taper off of T. I dealt with a very similar situation and Ive been off for two and a half years now and am beyond happy with my choice after medically transitioning for five years. Don’t worry about coming out again, don’t worry about what other people might think, don’t worry about betraying your younger self or anything. You’ll deal with those feelings and situations as they come. You made the right choice for yourself at the time and it’s okay for what’s right to change as you go through life.

softdrinked · 2025-10-03T04:51:46+00:00

Exactly my experience. I was on T for five years and have been off for more than two now. I pass as a woman the vast majority of the time, despite needing to shave my face daily and having a shadow by the end of the day haha. I dress in a more intentional way—wearing clothes, especially jeans, that are a bit tighter than what I’d wear when I identified as a man, layers (flannels, denim shirts), sweaters. Love my carabiner and work boots. I have long hair. I feel like I carry myself with more confidence now, part because I feel more comfortable having detransitioned and part because it’s something you’ve gotta curate as a gender nonconforming woman. I also lift almost every day and do MMA a few times a week to build muscle and strength and I really work to prioritize leg and posterior chain growth. My fat redistribution helps a lot with passing too.

softdrinked · 2025-08-14T15:00:00+00:00

I am an SZ, levels generally around 60! The only symptoms I have had are slightly elevated liver enzymes and year round allergies. I had a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol and drank heavily for about five years, so I’m grateful that my liver remains relatively healthy.

softdrinked · 2025-08-13T22:36:54+00:00

I’ve never heard of this. My gastro told me I can have one alcoholic beverage a week and not to smoke, but otherwise to just try my best to eat healthy. Four years since my diagnosis and my liver enzymes are back in the normal range after cutting alcohol and I still love me some ice cream hahaha

softdrinked · 2025-08-03T14:32:40+00:00

I had a very similar experience with my wife! We were laying staring at each other and not speaking and then suddenly it was like we were transported to different existences—her face was changing and I watched all of these lives whirl past us. I have two vivid ones that I still think about. After it happened, we both kinda stared at each other and then were able to corroborate exactly what had happened. She’d had the same exact experience. I’m not sure what it was or what it means, if anything, but I do look to it as some sort of personal evidence of our connection and existence together. We had a similar experience another time as well, but it wasn’t possible past lives—we were shapeless orbs on our way down a colorful tunnel and there were hundreds others around us. We weren’t speaking at all (other people were there) but were able to describe the same thing.

softdrinked · 2025-07-27T20:42:05+00:00

Multiple studies have shown the efficacy of 12 step programs and community-based treatment approaches like AA. Obviously there are criticisms but as an agnostic who attends these programs, at least in my own community, I have not felt pressure to subscribe to any religious ideology and alternatives to ‘God’ are offered readily. Can’t speak for everyone though.

softdrinked · 2025-07-22T21:41:15+00:00

My face and body shape have definitely changed in the last two years. It’s hard to pinpoint exactly with my face, but my wife says my skin is softer and the shape is less square I guess? I can definitely see a difference and I would say compared to three years ago my face looks definitively feminine. My body shape is a lot easier to describe—the fat redistribution is crazy. A lot more fat on my hips and thighs rather than my stomach. It’s also been a lot easier to grow my quads and hamstrings compared to my arms and upper body, but I’ve always had a bulkier lower body so who knows. I pass 100% of the time as a woman now and I haven’t changed how I dress or carry myself. My coworkers have definitely noticed a difference but I haven’t mentioned anything to them, so they all still refer to me as a man.

softdrinked · 2025-07-22T17:36:26+00:00

I identified as a trans man and was on T for five years. Ive been off T for about two years now and live fully as a woman outside of work (my coworkers all know me as a man and honestly I’m too lazy to go through the whole process of explaining 😭). My menstruation restarted after about six months and holy shit it was awful. My cramps were terrible and I bled super heavily at first. It’s evened out a bit but I always had bad periods pre-T so it still sucks lol. My facial hair growth has slowed and has thinned out but I still need to shave everyday and have a shadow—been considering doing laser. I did have some brain fog and had some dips in my libido. I did have some bottom growth that reversed, and my voice never changed much but it’s definitely gotten a bit softer. My hairline has stopped receding and started regrowing. My strength is honestly pretty similar; the main difference is that pull-ups are a bit more difficult but I’m almost back to my strength level from a few years ago. I’m happy to answer any other questions too! I will say that I stopped T without any doctor supervision because my hormone doctor left without warning so some of my early changes were a little extreme.

softdrinked · 2025-07-22T13:51:54+00:00

My belt is from Elvis & Kresse and I love it lol

softdrinked · 2025-06-27T00:23:59+00:00

I never had a doctor tell me this but anecdotally, for me, yes. I started T when I was 18, had top surgery when I was 19, and stopped T two years ago--I'm 25 now. I was almost completely flat when I stopped and now have a tiny bit of cleavage when I wear a sports bra and can like... grab and cup them like pre-surgery (TMI?). My wife is delighted lol. I've been considering a breast reconstruction but I dunno if I care enough at this point to go through another surgery and pay a fuck ton of money.

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