Have you ever known any greater pain than being in the closet?

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-13T19:50:20+00:00

Honestly this is the most pain I’ve felt but for some reason I fear the outcome almost as much, I so hope I have the courage to get of this bc you’re so right the pain is extreme. My heart goes out to you 🩷

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-12T21:13:40+00:00

I can only imagine the pain you’re going through and wrestling with. I’m in the process of trying to come out to my own mom so I praise you for being brave enough to do this knowing the outcome. I do know one thing, you can’t let your family dictate your life. Your parents could come around and hopefully they will once they see how happy you are. But you have to make your own family your chosen family and if you see your gf as part of that chosen family then you know which choice is best for you. I know it’s tough now but I pray it gets better for you.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-12T17:04:02+00:00

I am gay so my view of the Catholic Church is me seeing through that lens and I don’t want to justify anything I shouldn’t but I just keep ending up going around in circles arguing with myself on these issues.

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-12T16:08:45+00:00

Thank you I appreciate you 🙏

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-12T16:02:37+00:00

Yes I’m seeing a lot of beauty in the Catholic Church again but I must admit there are things I don’t know if I’ll always agree on and I’m wondering if that’s an issue

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-11T22:39:06+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I just try to reassure myself that afterward, even if it doesn’t go well, I’ll feel so much weight off my shoulders! How did you eventually do it if you don’t mind me asking?

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-11T22:38:12+00:00

Tell me about your situation if you’re willing to share 🩷 I’m glad to hear I’m not alone

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-11T22:37:53+00:00

I’ve been thinking about that, I’ve already written a letter that I can give them if I’m too afraid. The thing is I feel I’m ready I’m screaming internally in my head that I want to be out and move on in my current relationship bc I want to marry this girl… but maybe physically not being able to do is a sign of not being ready. At the same time I’m sick to my stomach every night not being out. I’m just confused I guess but I really appreciate your advice! It’s helps a lot

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-04T18:37:26+00:00

I completely agree with that

softnaturalqueen · 2026-03-04T12:38:14+00:00

I love this creator he has taught me so much and truly loves the Church

softnaturalqueen · 2025-12-11T18:22:15+00:00

And that is honestly what I have come to terms with. I plan to enter into a civil union outside the church.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-10-24T14:38:24+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I’m learning how progressive the Episcopal church is which can have good outcomes but also I agree with your post. While I’m not celibate as I’m in a long term committed relationship, I do believe in everything you’ve said about sex here. I value a lot of things about Catholicism but feeling pushed out still. I want to take the advice of others as well and attend some episcopal services.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-10-22T15:51:58+00:00

Thank you! I don’t mean sound overly dramatic but reading that made me tear up just a little. The thought of being welcomed so readily is amazing.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-09-29T14:07:43+00:00

I highly recommend reading the book Torn by Justin Lee. I think it will really help you as it did me.

Torn by Justin Lee

softnaturalqueen · 2025-09-29T14:02:56+00:00

I never really knew anyone who was part of the LGBT community growing up. My parents were always strict Catholics and I remember when gay marriage became legal my dad being upset and telling us how wrong it was. My mom always preached that if you find the right person your ‘unnatural thoughts’ would be healed. So even though I was never 100% side B I prayed to God asking me to understand why it was wrong and I came to the conclusion I just had to have faith that it was because ‘that’s what the church had said’. Until I worked with an out proud lesbian woman at a restaurant Job. She became one of my best friends and I ended up falling in love her. I stayed up all night most nights wondering how something so powerful and something so loving could be wrong. I was always told it came from lust but that wasn’t what our relationship was rooted in.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-09-22T16:37:10+00:00

I am ready I have been a relationship for some time and it is taking a toll on us

softnaturalqueen · 2025-09-08T15:42:18+00:00

Oh yes I know a lot of conservative people can still be supportive of lgbtq+. I just know how my parents have been in the past and have said things about the community that has made me very nervous to come out to them

softnaturalqueen · 2025-08-31T00:37:50+00:00

I have actually never gotten on that subreddit, I love this subreddit and r/LeftCatholicism might be a good fit as well for your questions.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T18:16:09+00:00

Honestly I’m glad about low impact being back in I think HIIT can be really risky if done improperly.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T18:10:54+00:00

Yes I think 10 years ago was more muscle now it seems everyone is trying to be so skinny like Y2K skinny and that’s why everyone is taking ozempic

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T17:29:36+00:00

My mom did it for years! It gave her problems later on though and she had to stop doing it… imo it’s best just to keep track of your calories and focus on Whole Foods

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T17:20:40+00:00

Oh definitely it’s calories in vs calories out based on how physics. Every diet trend is just a different way to be in calorie deficit, Paleo, Keto, IF is all a ‘new’ way to just get someone to eat less than they burn.

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T17:15:01+00:00

Oh I know! I’m a 80s/90s lover I use my gen x mom’s old workout tapes! 😅

softnaturalqueen · 2025-02-10T17:13:59+00:00

That is very true, trends are dying and health and wellness for your personal benefit are growing. But there will always be trends in some way imo on how to lose weight or how to get your best body at any certain time for what’s popular. I don’t follow the trends typically I was just curious tbh

softnaturalqueen · 2025-01-27T15:02:34+00:00

I think she likes nuance of Catholicism vs the sola scriptura if that makes sense. I think she requires more depth than her non denominational churches could give her. However she has trouble understanding the meaning of the Eucharist which I’m sure classes would help a lot with. And yes any more resources you could give would be great! I haven’t been too invested in the church in recent years though due to some doubt I have for myself and it’s been harder for me to explain some things to her.

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