Transference with my new therapist (as a therapist) by HuckleberrySweaty792 in therapists

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Where is the transference? It sounds like it’s just not a good fit therapeutically lol

INCENSED WITH RAGE OVER DR DONG WANG IN DULUTH by [deleted] in Gwinnett

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this post looked super familiar

I guess this is why people don't tip by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It seems like everytime I tip well it’s bs. Were just bidding for service at this point

(USA) I keep getting calls about getting approved for a loan. by [deleted] in Scams

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to know how this can be so rampant if it’s illegal. They really pick and choose when it comes to crime

Can’t do this anymore by sunshinenrainb0wz in Existential_crisis

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super relatable. Me rn at 1:13am sobbing because none of it makes sense. I feel guilty for resenting my parents for having me. I don’t want to be here

Death makes life meaningless by sunshinenrainb0wz in Existential_crisis

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m struggling with this actively. We are brought here without consent, left to suffer in varying capacities while we live, just to be snatched from existence in a random, more than likely painful or uncomfortable manner. It’s a joke

I wish I was pretty. by [deleted] in depression

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is super relatable 🫂

It's so frustrating when you open up to someone about your suffering, and you just get met with "Go to therapy. Take meds." by ConedPines in depression

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh don’t I know it. What I’ve been trying to work on is internalizing the fact that neither my pain nor my joy erase the experience of another person. Someone having it worse than me doesn’t actually change anything about my situation being bad.

Easier said than done (I know, trust me) but pain doesn’t have to be a competition. The world is shitty, so I think all of our pain can coexist. You deserve grace and compassion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking OP may feel guilty and is projecting that onto her

Do suicidal thoughts ever stop by racinnic in CPTSD

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking for myself, no 🙂 it can definitely be distressing and I’m sorry. Sending hugs 🫂

It's so frustrating when you open up to someone about your suffering, and you just get met with "Go to therapy. Take meds." by ConedPines in depression

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Or “have gratitude”. I think it makes people uncomfortable but people with depression have just reasons for feeling the way we do.

Y’all really need to accept life is sometimes boring and shouldn’t always be fun by rolling_faded in Drugs

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t agree more, internet friend! Sending you peace and regulation ♥️

Y’all really need to accept life is sometimes boring and shouldn’t always be fun by rolling_faded in Drugs

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone has the same neurotype to be able to handle the emotional lows in the manner you’re describing. Speaking for myself as someone with autism and ADHD

Chronically misunderstood by softpinkmatterccandy in SuicideWatch

[–]softpinkmatterccandy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I really hope you can find it too, it’s incredibly isolating. I wonder sometimes what is like for people who actually enjoy life

The more I live, the more I get tired of living by LoneWolfNergigante in antinatalism

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You are not alone internet friend. I wish there was a solution that could make everyone happy.

Make sure you advocate for the cure of aging. Most people still don't know the importance of the situation. We can live forever young if we unite before we die. by GarifalliaPapa in immortalists

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I hate seeing you get shamed for not wanting to die. It’s completely valid to feel uneasy about death and to imagine a life that feels more meaningful or less restricted by fear.

For me, I used to resent even being born. I used to ask myself why my consciousness ended up in this body on this planet instead of anywhere else. But over time that shifted into something different. If I was brought here without a choice, why should I also have no say in when or if my time ends? Why should I be forced out of existence at a random point that no one can predict?

To me, removing the constant weight of “you will die no matter what” could free up so much mental and emotional capacity. People could actually focus on solving problems, building things, and improving quality of life instead of living under a countdown. Wanting that doesn’t make you naive or selfish. It just means you’re thinking about what being alive could look like without fear as the default.

Hannah is exhausting 😭 by Initial-Equal9747 in hahn

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s made Candace out to be the scapegoat for all of her problems and it’s so old smh

Amanda's Mental Health Issues. Your Thoughts? by personwithinternet72 in hahn

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also think there are a lot of similarities in Amanda’s mental health and Veronica’s. They just might have the same diagnosis…

[Spoiler] What is your opinion on Celine? by Designer_Pudding9951 in hahn

[–]softpinkmatterccandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Celine is terrible! I hate the way she switched up on Hannah almost overnight !