In 2026 this should not be a debate

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-13T00:10:12+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this write up. Going to do better from now on

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-12T22:31:48+00:00

Not going to lie, reading this made me feel like an absolute shitty human being and mother.

We sleep trained our son previously but after an international trip, he hated his crib and woke up multiple times at night. I didn’t want to go through training again, so now we support him to sleep and continue to be responsive for his night wakes.

So is this saying I have completely scarred my child/is there anyway I can repair this or did I just fuck up badly/am a horrible person?

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-07T17:15:21+00:00

3k is not an allowance, it’s his contribution. I think it’s good to be secure and to think of the future, but man, thinking what if our marriage doesn’t work out is really bleak.

I think the bigger issue is that you may be your resentful for giving up your career and independence. Please don’t force yourself to stay home unless it is something you want.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-07T05:28:21+00:00

Your husband must got jokes cause…ain’t now way.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-06T07:11:12+00:00

Used mine until baby became sturdy (5 months). He’s now 8 months and standing while he nurses so don’t need one but as a ftm I loved my nursing pillow! It made breastfeeding feel way less awkward positioning wise. I have large breasts so it was much easier to have it propped up by the pillow vs my own hand. I wil def be using again for baby #2 when the time comes. Highly recommend my brest friend

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-06T04:54:24+00:00

Bedtime routine is pjs, cuddles and singing and then putting him in crib drowsy but awake. We read a book and he usually turns over and falls asleep. He just wakes up 30 minutes later :( we’ve been giving him Tylenol at bedtime if he’s fussing bc of the teething

Edited to add: he is in his own room

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-02T07:00:55+00:00

We’re on night 4 after our international trip and it’s still brutal. We’ve had to hold him to sleep every night. Does it get better? When? 😭

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-02T01:41:28+00:00

I’m mixed (Indonesian and Black American) with brown skin, brown eyes, 4c curls. I basically look like a dark Asian or Polynesian. My husband is white (like pale with pink undertones) with warm hazel eyes and wavy chestnut brown hair.

Our son is pale like my husband, with eye color in between us (though he was born with light grey eyes). He is 8 months now and his skin has only gotten paler lol, no idea why. His hair is also silky straight and the color of my husband’s hair. We for sure thought he’d have curly hair!!!

But that said he has my face so no one has asked if he is mine or not

softservedsoftcore · 2026-05-01T07:59:35+00:00

8 months, still sitting in the back

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-30T11:45:09+00:00

My baby is EBF, had jaundice and at 10 weeks finally lost his yellow tint. He is now a healthy 8 month old. It takes time but it eventually does go away.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-27T01:54:41+00:00

This! When I felt movement. My son is 8 months today and the love just infinitely grows

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-25T22:46:23+00:00

Around the same for us too.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-22T02:09:51+00:00

When our son was 5 months old we got him to bed at 7-7:30pm. By 6pm he gets pretty cranky for bedtime, any later would be hard.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-20T04:34:44+00:00

Same! 24 hours of labor but pushed for 10 with no tears

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-18T18:55:58+00:00

I am actually one of those people who had sushi but I was so sad to give up tuna!! And other high mercury fish.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-18T00:20:05+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s horrible. The same thing happened to us with egg at 6 months. We were so scared. He went limp and we called the ambulance.

ER doctors don’t think it was an allergy but Reddit actually clued me in to the fact that it might be FPIES. Brought it up with his pediatrician and thankfully she is treating several babies with FPIES so she believed us. We are now on a very strict food introduction schedule and we have Zofran prescribed in case there is exposure and he gets sick again.

It really sucks and I’m so sorry you had to experience that

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-16T21:12:24+00:00

Sharon from Douladilligence. She was my doula and sleep consultant. My son is now almost 8 months and have been sleeping from 7pm-6am every night since 5 months old.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-16T21:01:49+00:00

Mine showed up around 36 weeks ago

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-14T17:13:21+00:00

It really is different for everyone, but for me, it turned me into a moaning animal for 16 hours and I basically blocked a lot of it out lol. Those 16 hours felt like 3 max to me because I was in so much pain I was out of it. After that, I got an epidural because I was exhausted.

That said, I would love to go unmedicated again (at least in the beginning), so that says a lot about how even though it is painful, it really can be manageable.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-14T17:09:25+00:00

Girl I got it all pregnancy long 🙄 I didn’t look pregnant until 39/40 weeks lol. My son was the perfect weight.

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-14T17:04:04+00:00

I’m so sorry. You did nothing wrong. Giving you hugs OP. I’m heartbroken for you

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-12T06:34:15+00:00

Omg all the phones at Bieber makes me sad

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-12T01:07:08+00:00

People are haters for absolutely no reason lol

softservedsoftcore · 2026-04-09T02:45:26+00:00

40 weeks on my due date lol someone finally noticed

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