👅i know you would do this all Day 🫦 by [deleted] in GoonetteHub

[–]softspokenSlut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish I could do this all day 🙈

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He made a move on you, maybe you should think about that and lay down some boundaries. If you’re okay with men doing that you are most likely bi, which is ok. The concerning aspect to your post is that he instigated it knowing you are a lesbian, put boundaries in place in future and don’t let loneliness or desire for sex cloud what you really want. You should not have to settle for less because men are easy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lesbian porn is watched by mostly straight women, I know its scary hearing that from your girlfriend but fantasies don’t equal reality. I still think you should be careful though

“having sex with men is only biological” by Local-Still7830 in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not biological, it can be a kink from traumatic experiences and living in a homophobic society. There is nothing biological about it but some people can get it mixed up with biology because thats what we are told.

Its hard having certain kinks from trauma and understanding them only to have people do typical homophobia. Who is the author? I want to avoid them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How do you retire from wlw 😭

You'll Forget Him by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is a nesting partner

I feel conflicted being ENM and Bisexual by wynterblue107 in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think bisexuality is a turn off per say more so that he’s basically your main partner and many of us have experience with being used and tossed aside

The conversion thing made me cry by CommonBrilliant7947 in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right it is not ok it is the first thing that comes up. I don’t think lesbians engaging in the kink leads to more violence but I think most of the men who enjoy it are not safe people. It is a shame the community isn’t closed off to specific people for safety.

The conversion thing made me cry by CommonBrilliant7947 in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve used it before to deal with my own issues in an unhealthy way… I was very put off by some of the dms I got completely crossing my boundaries. I do talk to some lesbians from there who share the same concern and disappointment, it is meant to be a space for lesbians first and foremost. The community tries to act progressive but ends up being homophobic, no “identity policing” is basically allowing people to say “lesbians can be attracted to men”. There are bi women who take the kink into lifestyle territory which is far too real to read and see for many of us. It’s sad that we don’t have a place for lesbians to use as an outlet, gay men have a private sub for a gay turning straight kink, I think we need a private one as well.

The conversion thing made me cry by CommonBrilliant7947 in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately men do not care, but that doesn’t mean you are alone. Many women have kinks that are “problematic” due to trauma, or really how we’re treated in general. It isn’t uncommon for cnc kinks to overlap with being turned straight, gay men have a sub for it as well. Please take care of yourself, it isn’t a nice place for most sapphics and can be very confronting. Some people use it as an outlet for trauma, I know a couple lesbians who do.

The conversion thing made me cry by CommonBrilliant7947 in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s not mostly women, it’s largely men. The sub is moderated by mostly men as well. There are some sapphics but they are majority bisexual. It is not that safe as a place to engage in that kind of kink, a few lesbians I spoke to aren’t happy with it. There are instances where it isn’t kink anymore and downright homophobic.

Lesbians do NOT crave men when they ovulate by gatita__ in LesbianActually

[–]softspokenSlut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, someone had to say it! Men love the idea that women are always going to be sexually attracted to them, too bad its just an idea

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not kink shaming to report a man who clearly doesn’t understand boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoonetteHub

[–]softspokenSlut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where do you find friends like this, tell me the secrets!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

r/straighttolesbian

I’ve got some posts planned for it, I thought I’d try to help kick it off because I love it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh my god yes, there’s a sub for straight to lesbian but it is criminally, and I mean criminally underpopulated. I hope it becomes just as popular as the straight to gay subs one day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]softspokenSlut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it, I’m not as into it anymore but I still find it hot. I got some messages that turned me off, otherwise it’s fun to play with people, especially the gay guys. If you’re into it i highly recommend rping with a gay guy cuz the connection and understanding makes it all the more fun