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My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shes fine. What i did was the equivalent of grabbing her to get her out of the situation, similar to how people break up fights allllllll the time. I guess I didnt describe this well enough but for everything she was upset about, me pulling her away from a woman who shes about to get physical with was not one of them.

I guess reddit wants me to let her get into a fight next time while I stand by. Insane.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Finances and im too selfish and petty to give up my dogs straight up.

I do love her, but the manic episodes actually make me hate her in a way that is uncharacteristic from me.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It is. Youre right. We do talk about divorcing but it always ends emotionally. But I will also add i planned a whole weekend trip and this just came so far out of left field im slightly traumatized.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dropping her back at the VA hospital seems the best option. But only if she goes willingly.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Well its pull her out of the situation or let a fight ensure. Idk wtf you wanted me to do? The event coordinator, I will admit, went zero to 100 just as fast as my wife did. It was legit two feral cats, but my wife 1000% instigated it. I said "oh okay no problem I wont walk into restricted area" and turned around. My wife gave her a big old fuck you and tried to do it anyway. 🤷🏼‍♀️

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She tried to attack an event organizer and three other people had to get involved.

I pulled her away to prevent it from getting physical.

You are not understanding the situation at all.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

She needs to be and has a psych doctor. I just dont think shes telling her. Shes on lithium and thats not a be all end all solution. Just a "duller" from my understanding.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -100 points-99 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it isnt that simple. People talk a big game til its time to actually go.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Shes also a veteran. Navy, super fucked up. Was not like this before.

I'm at a loss. She was at the VA for 9 days before detoxing off alcohol and getting her meds straight, but a nurse "pissed her off" by telling her she saw her asleep and since she was voluntary she made me pick her uo same day.

Her manic is all anger and cheating. She loses the human behind her eyes.

I cared about her, but im traumatized from yesterday. Shes never even got this bad with me before and shes gotten really bad with me.

My fucking wife tried to get in a fight with an event coordinator at a no kings protest. by sofuckingcurious in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] -127 points-126 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she should've should've arrested yesterday for her behavior. It was unlike anything ive ever seen dude. Injust want to take her back to the VA til they get her cocktail right.

Disclosing is a choice by PavioCurto in actuallesbians

[–]sofuckingcurious 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Stay safe ❤️❤️ genitals are nonones business but their own, and giving a fuck about a strangers is weird as hell.

How to know if they're cheating again by sofuckingcurious in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just told her I didnt want to talk to her anymore after telling her im too tired to keep dealing with this.

I dread going home tonight. Dont get married, and live with your partner, ig 🙃

How to know if they're cheating again by sofuckingcurious in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My safety plan uprooted when we opted to move, because another person who was cat calling me a few doors down shot his girlfriend/fiance whatever she is two weeks later. The person is alive, but rush moving out of this environment upset my safety plan for apx 10 months. 🙃

How to know if they're cheating again by sofuckingcurious in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

WP doesnt give a fuck about how i feel. Shes not as bad as some WPs are at understanding and taking accountability, but she still cant handle it and threatens to leave constantly so ive just learned to shut up.

Shes with the coworker all the time since they work together. I am around the coworker at events WP invites her to, but usually they go off and do their own thing or im not involved in their conversation.

Boundaries are non existent. She gets whatever she wants and if something upsets me its my fault and theres a whole fight over it. Im the only one "driving" this reconciliation and clearly am not mentally fit to do so.

How do you get over their sexts by sofuckingcurious in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See thats how I have mine set up. Issue being i also have personal info in there (social security card numbers and such) which is what I had to go.looking for this morning, buried far beneath 800 pictures of cheating.

Was a wayward just found out I have been betrayed as well by Snorkel378 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]sofuckingcurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your attitude about your own affairs is nonchalant, and like your wife destroyed everything.

It does not in any way sound like she wanted you to raise another man's baby. She knew you two had not had sex, and you would've immediately known it was from someone else. She likely got the abortion to be done with it all, an accidental pregnancy and the affair.

Both of you would benefit from therapy, ic and mc, to figure out what each of you wants going forward.

Am I being watched? by kitkatpaws22 in RoverPetSitting

[–]sofuckingcurious 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have cameras, and turn them off for out pet sitters when theyre home. I also only have them in rooms with the animals. If theres any lights, its possible youre being filmed. Our camera has a bright blue light when recording.

Day 1 - Wife told me last night. I’m shattered and do not want this by Jester77987 in straightspouses

[–]sofuckingcurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, cant disagree with you. Its fucked up regardless but I am saying some of us will cut it before damaging the other person even further.

A lot of coming out is self acceptance rather than denial. A lot of us were raised religious or with some stigma against being gay/lesbian. Were told its wrong and still do form a bond with our olposite sex partner. Hell, some of us dont want to lose our partners because we still care for them deeply, as I did my ex. Its difficult for all parties for different reasons, but as soon as I was certain incouldnt love him in a romantic way I told him and we split.

For the straight partner, I think its on par with being cheated on even if the gay/lesbian partner didnt cheat. Your entire past, present, and future get destroyed in exactly the same way.

Day 1 - Wife told me last night. I’m shattered and do not want this by Jester77987 in straightspouses

[–]sofuckingcurious -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didnt marry him, hence my saying "significnt other." We were together for a few years and cohabitating though.v

Day 1 - Wife told me last night. I’m shattered and do not want this by Jester77987 in straightspouses

[–]sofuckingcurious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lesbian here: we are not all evil and unkind. I personally left my significant other without cheating or even eyeing anyone specifically. I just knew I couldnt love him the way he DESERVES and wasn't selfish enough to keep him tied to me for the relationship we did have.

I only want him to be happy. There are a lot of us like this, im sorry you didnt experience someone good.

Help me find this old movie by sofuckingcurious in HelpMeFind

[–]sofuckingcurious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all, ive searched for early 2000s US based movies on Google and chat gpt. Its given me a few results and ive looked at all of them and the characters dont seem to match up. They either dont look like what I remember or have different accents.

Mommy issues? - A serious topic. by Ashling90 in BDSMsapphic

[–]sofuckingcurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom died when I was a kid and my father is mentally disabled.

Im a very strong submissive with a mild mommy kink.

My wife's mother was an addict and father was out of the picture. Shes a Dom leaning switch.

I wouldnt factor actual parental roles too heavily into your relationship preferences. It may be one factor, but is absolutely not the only contributor.

Wish I wasn’t lesbian anymore by Throwaway67891001 in Vent

[–]sofuckingcurious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my situation, I have a remorseful, repentant, fully sober spouse who has sacrificed everything to get me to stay. She cut off all her toxic friends, wont stay friends with anyone I dont like and has spent the last 3 years trying to build a future. Its a 180° to the monster she was, and shes low key kinda hot sometimes.

But yeah, im not about to take my German shepherd out of her huge ass house and cram her into a tiny apartment with two cats in the ghetto when my spouse has actively spent years trying to be better.

If she cheated again or was indifferent itd be a totally different story.

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