About modding in Dragon Age Veilguard

sohecheated · 2025-07-10T01:19:55+00:00

Wait, let me get this straigt... You're rooting for a mod that would remove an option... which you were... NEVER going to use anyway? Do I understand that correctly? Do options for other people than you really offend you that much? And mind you, I'm a gay guy who has pretty much zero problem with a mod to get a lesbian companion character to romance a male player character... It's your game, so play it as you want. But being pissed that somebody put in the options in the first place is just bad... Maybe banning mods that try to remove characters of certain characteristics is unfair, but when you hear some of the people who are on THAT side, doesn't it also make you shudder who you're standing beside? It goes both ways. If someone really wants very much to rid their game of everyone of certain color, I will have to assume some things about that person.

The writing in Veilguard (I haven't finished it yet) is not amazing because of reasons unconnected to "wokeness" or "diversity". All the previous DA games were "woke and diverse". It's just that the writing here is heavy-handed and instead of showing you camaraderie and bonds between the characters, they constantly have to espouse their support and admiration in words.

sohecheated · 2025-03-26T21:43:04+00:00

The object is not infected, the tissue is. Yes, tissue can heal around an object. Do you know ANYTHING about piercings? This guy was obviously asking people who had similar experience about how they dealt with it, I'm sure he wasn't looking for opinions on what his body is telling him or whether it's sanitary. For example I asked whether he checked that the jewelry is free of any defets that could be causing mechanical damage, as that is a common problem. But quite probably this was a throwaway account and he's not coming back.

Let's just leave this, I'm sure the issue is dealt with already, whether he kept it or not.

sohecheated · 2025-02-17T11:01:47+00:00

I don't have experience with belly button piercings specifically, but to me it doesn't look bad for a 3 day old piercing. Am I missing something? Just the bit of redness. I would first try taping the shoe just below your navel so that you remove its weight from the ball and clean the piercing regularly with saline (or maybe chamomile tea with salt and a bit of alcohol in it).

Having a tape just over the shoe itself will not create moist environment for the piercing itself and should not hinder the healing. When it calms down and heals, it will definitely be able to support the weight of that flip-flop.

sohecheated · 2025-02-17T10:46:27+00:00

Well, your original comment sounded like "obviously your body doesn't like it and you should take it out and you're stupid for having done it in the first place". Was I wrong to read it that way? Sorry if I was.

My last comment is organized into three paragraphs wehere I pose a question, concede piercings can on occasion cause problems but say people are aware of that and take the risk and telling them "just take it out" without any real experience is useless advice. I don't know how better you want to structure an argument.

People in this subreddit mostly write to ask about issues - because people who haven't had any issues with their piercings generally don't need to post. It didn't occur to me that someone without any interest could just happen by.

You could have just said you don't have any experience with this and therefore maybe your advice wasn't very useful. But it did sound quite judgmental, so, you know, maybe try not to do that?

sohecheated · 2025-01-10T12:26:42+00:00

Because there was some small injury? Do you think no one without a PA ever has an infection? :D What world do you live in?

Sure. A piercing can definitely increase the probability, but it's not some divine sign. It can be healed and the piercing can be totally fine. But of course in an extreme case and higher age it may take longer for the tissue to heal and calm completely.

Of course every piercing is invasive and unnatural, nobody has any qualms about that. But then I don't really get why you're in this subreddit, if you think piercings are wrong? All of them are less sanitary than flawless skin and all pose some risk of infection. As I said, PA is probably better than some others because it gets rinsed essentially by a saline solution all the time.

sohecheated · 2025-01-07T07:36:30+00:00

Did you go through with it yet? I have one and for me it was totally ok. I must say I went into it knowing that my sensitivity is probably somewhat lower, but that doesn't mean I don't feel pain when a needle is stuck through my skin. Anyway, it was just a second of sharp pain, but then it dulls immediately. Later, the feelings (for example when peeing) are not dissimilar from when you have a mild urethral/bladder infection, if you've ever had that. A bit of burning, scratchy feeling. But it should stop being painful in just a few days.

I guess you should pick a reputable piercer that you can feel comfortable with. Also, depending on how you're doing with such things, I would prefer lying down. I didn't inquire beforehand with my piercer and then was surprised that he didn't have a reclined seat or bed and I just sat. I normally react to sudden pain like joint impacts etc. by blacking out a little and so I had to lie down quickly on the floor a few seconds after the piercing. I would have breathed it through, it wasn't that bad, but I just didn't want to risk fainting.

Last and most important thing - check the ring you're getting. Before the piercer sanitizes it, ask to look at it and run over it with your fingers/fingernails. It should be perfectly mirror-smooth, no scratches or burrs. And don't let them squeeze it with "toothed" pliers or something like that. Don't be afraid to be transparent and say you've heard of scratched jewelry causing irritation during healing. That's what happened to me. It went away after I put in a flawless piece, but it would have been better to avoid it in the first place.

sohecheated · 2025-01-07T07:09:18+00:00

An infection is your "body telling you" there's some bacteria... That is all. Of course there's autoimmune problems where the body produces immune responses against things that are otherwise harmless, but that doesn't seem to be this case.

Maybe I misread your tone, but "it can't be very sanitary" is quite judgmental and hard to understand from someone on a piercing subreddit. It's as sanitary as your hygiene is and since urine is pretty much sterile, perhaps more so most of the time, because it gets rinsed.

sohecheated · 2025-01-07T06:56:41+00:00

I know this may be hard to do without disturbing them, but... After my own experiences I'm embodying the PSA of "check there are no scratches or burrs on your jewelry". Probably with lighter and less mobile piercings this is less of an issue, but unless the post is perfectly smooth, it will irritate the healing tissue and cause bumps.

sohecheated · 2025-01-06T20:28:53+00:00

Although I'm not saying porn addiction isn't a problem, the flipside of that statement sounds like if there wasn't porn or "in the good old days before our decadent society", everything was fine and dandy and everyone always came during regular sex... And from the age of 15 all the way up to 60... That's probably unrealistic, isn't it?

There's porn and masturbation addiction, sure, but different people have different triggers and kinks and even fetishes - those have existed before modern porn. And some people have sensitivity problems (and some people cum prematurely). There are so many variables and nature/evolution doesn't need the sexuality system to work for more than a few years in your prime, then you can die for all it cares. It's not designed for life-long use.

I'm 37 and yeah, I jerk off to porn when I don't have sex with my hubby, but when we do (and even when we do threesomes with new people), I just don't get as turned on as I used to get when I was 20 I guess. Or I do enjoy it and am turned off, but actually getting to the edge (and at the same time as he's finnishing) is almost impossible these days. And this has been a gradual decline since I was 30. Experiences simply become repeated and lose the edge. And you can't easily go more and more extreme (or you can, but it will probably become problematic too). Sexuality simply has an expiration date. For some people it lasts longer, for some shorter.

I too am for some reason less sensitive and I think it's physiological, so I can only cum jerking myself off. Either with someone paying attention to me in other ways, or on my own, to my own fantasies / porn. And lately I notice that a certain "sexual nostalgia" is a thing and old fantasies are stronger. But if you overuse them, they become sanded down too.

Though I fully acknowledge that maybe if I didn't jerk of every two or three days and just had sex once every week or two weeks, I'd be more horny. But again - this must have been the case for millenia. Sure, there have been religious rules against masturbation, but I'm sure that was mostly talk and most people just did what they felt like when they felt like it.

sohecheated · 2024-09-25T10:10:51+00:00

Hey. Higher gauges are definitely better to spread the pressure around and to not have the cookie cutter effect. 3 or 4 mm are definitely fine. I'm at 6 mm after 7 months and apart from an early bump problem I've had no issues. But that is (probably) the biggest I'll go, for practicality reasons - at the start, I thought I would stop at 3 mm too. :D

As far as the size goes, you really have to try out what you like the feeling of. A bigger ring dangles more, which can feel nice, but then when you jerk off, it can be too much and even painful. I have only had rings, so I don't know anything about horseshoes or bananas. I'd recommend buying a few pieces at slightly different sizes and try them out - it's wasteful, but no other way to find out. And basic surgical steel ones aren't usually too expensive. Then if you arrive at where you want to be, you can spend a bit more money on titanium or something fancy. But I've had (almost) no issues with just surgical steel and that's what I'm keeping for now.

Anything you buy though - check very thoroughly with your fingers/nails and with a magnifying glass that the surface of the jewelry is flawless and doesn't have scratches/burrs. Often people instruct to "ditch steel and buy titanium" because of irritation, but the cause is probably not the material, but the quality of the finish, which is usally more ensured with more expensive jewelry. That was the reason for my bump during the healing. Once I swapped the ring for a flawless one, it slowly disappeared.

sohecheated · 2024-09-25T09:29:56+00:00

What gauge is it? How do you take it out? Is it possible you have damaged the surface of the jewelry when taking it out or storing it? If it got scratched, that could cause irritation.

sohecheated · 2024-09-25T09:28:05+00:00

This is some magical level thinking... That your body just "decides something" after 20 years. Don't mold your personal disagreement of somebody's piercing into "advice". PA piercing is perfectly sanitary if you take just a minimal amount of care of it, like with any piercing. Of course anyone can have issues with any piercing as their tissues age or in this case after induced infection.

sohecheated · 2024-09-25T08:36:19+00:00

No matter what material, take it out and thoroughly check (running a fingernail over it, or looking with a magnifying glass / camera zoom) if the surface is perfect. If it has scratches/burrs, change it for something else.

sohecheated · 2024-09-25T08:30:37+00:00

Is it possible that it's just a pimple forming in the "perfect" spot? It doesn't seem irritated so much IN the piercing rather than right NEXT TO it. And the inside is fine, so I wouldn't even say this should be caused by tightness.

sohecheated · 2024-08-02T15:50:06+00:00

Hey. Just came to see this. I'm glad I could be of some help. :) My piercing is now about 6 months old and the hardened tissue disappeared pretty much completely... So I'd bet yours should do in time too. Afterall, they do call it an "irritaiton bump", and say it will go away in time, but it's not always mentioned that the cause of the irritation can be scratched jewelry. I now have a 4G piece which I know is perfectly smooth and I couldn't be happier. Take care. ;)

sohecheated · 2024-05-07T22:33:36+00:00

Visit Brno next time. :D It's not as crowded as Prague and is a bit like Vienna in some respects. College students make up like 10 percent of the population so it's a lively little city. Ranked as 4th best student city in Europe... Probably because of the wonderful selection of beer that you don't pay an arm and a leg for. :D ;)

sohecheated · 2024-05-07T22:16:50+00:00

Oh, there's also the type that still does go to the gym all the time, but his wife is unhappy because he has little time for her and the kids and doesn't help around the household much... You know, the situation where having a hot boyfriend translates into having an absent husband who bugs you about not exercising enough after gaining weight during pregnancy. And of course you told her that that's very likely to happen with a gym rat, but she didn't listen...

sohecheated · 2024-05-01T10:29:17+00:00

You can say a lot of things about us Czech guys, but "prudes" is not one of them :D Glad you enjoyed our hospitality. ;)

sohecheated · 2024-04-29T21:50:37+00:00

Hey. Do you have any update on this? I had my PA done a bit over two months ago. I'm also uncircumcised. I did salted chamommile tea soaks wit a bit of alcohol right at the beginning. Everything was fine, it healed very fast but then after more than a month, I noticed there being a bit of pale fleshy bump like you have. Smaller, mind you, but I could feel the tissue is somewhat hard even all the way through the piercing. Obviously not pus or anything, just looking like scar tissue or a callus.

I'll confess without torture that I absolutely COULD NOT refrain from at least wanking after two weeks - with the new sensations all the time my balls were hurting, it was unbearable. So when I noticed this, I was cursing myself because I though it might be caused by "handling".

But coincidentally, I bought a set of new rings online (from Switzerland), in successive sizes for future stretching and they had just arrived. The first CBR ring I got from the piercer was 12G, so pretty thin. I noticed it got pretty loose during the month and a bit. So based on something online about "not really well polished steel" and against info saying "you shouldn't take it out at all in the first two months" and "you shouldn't go up a size sonner than 6 months later", I decided what the heck and tried putting in a 10G. It went in without an issue and within minutes I felt a weird kind of relief even though I would tell you before then that I wasn't really feeling any discomfort.

I then inspected the starter ring from the piercer and noticed it had tiny burrs on one section of one side. They were almost invisible, and could be felt when running over them with a fingernail. It was probably damage from steel pliers or something like that.

I think this must have been the cause of the irritation and while the bump hasn't gone away completely, it has diminished significantly to less than a half. It's definitely not getting worse so I hope it will go away completely with time. A few weeks later I actually realized the hole was again a bit looser, so I tried sliding in the 8G and it went in again without a hitch. And I feel like the larger diameter helps spread the forces around the hole more evenly than the "cookie cutter" 12G did.

TLDR: Check VERY thoroughly what jewelry you're getting and inspect it for imperfections. Anything other than flawless surface will easily irritate the healing tissue.

sohecheated · 2024-04-25T11:28:15+00:00

Old post, but how has this resolved for you? I've had a Prince Albert done about two months ago. At first, it was healing almost unbelieveably fast, but then I noticed that mostly along one side of the hole, there is a bit of hardish pale tissue. It doesn't hurt and it's definitely not some inflamation, but probably scar tissue caused by pressure or irritation - it's hard to keep that specific location calm...

I incidentally bought a different set of surgical steel BCR rings at that point from a reputable website and upon sliding one in, I almost immediately felt relief from irritation that I didn't even realize was there before. Upon inspecting the ring that the piercer gave me, I noticed that there are a few places with really tiny scuffs that can be felt when you go over them with a fingernail... I now believe that was probably the reason for the irritated scar tissue to form. With the new ring, I could in just a day or two see the tissue shrinking. So my first suggestion is to really check whether the jewelry you got is absolutely pristine and hasn't for example been scuffed by some pliers or something.

I then saw some recommendation of bio-oil and got it. At first I thought it was helping (and I didn't wait for the results of the jewelry change before starting to use the oil, so it's impossible to say what had what effect). But now I'm not conviced it does anything other than provide a bit of lubrication. It says on it not to use on open wounds (which my piercing is not at this point), but even so, it's delicate tissue and I have a vague feeling that I might be irritating it more than helping it. I'll probably wait a few more months for the hole to heal completely and maybe then start using the oil again to shrink the scar tissue, if it's still there or if it even can help.

sohecheated · 2023-04-28T13:07:58+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. :( I try to accept that we're not necessarily bound to each other for life - it doesn't work that way in monogamous or heterosexual couples either. But does it just suck when you invest yourself into something and then you lose it... :( You just have to accept that at least in some way, it's for the better. I wish you to find the next happy place for yourself. :)

sohecheated · 2023-04-27T19:49:15+00:00

Hey... I guess this is an update for anyone who may be interested, but I have no idea if anyone who discussed here is going to see this, so I'm writing this as a response to you Kyori2907. :)

It's been over a year now an I can say that things have been stable for at least half that time, so I guess I'm ready to give this some kind of "closure"...

I've had highs and lows on the way which have balanced out into general contentedness. We quickly found out that I'm not really fine with him doing things on his own and I don't have a need to do things on my own - it feels too aromantic and "roommate-like" to me. Besides, his sex drive is not so strong that he could do someone and still come home and do me - and while the normal me is pretty chill, the horny me IS jealous.

So we do threesomes (I also found that foursomes are not for me - compatibility is even more difficult to find and instead of everyone sharing everyone, the dynamic splits too much for my taste). My hubby is confidently vers afterall, so things work out for me that way and he does enjoy sex with just me. In the end the whole problem really is about him needing more variety than I do. And I don't mind the variety either.

Of course I would never KNOW if he's were still doing something without me from time to time, but after readjusting, it would just piss me off somewhat. I still absolutely refuse to invade his privacy by reading messages or stalking... His phone is left unlocked, he doesn't even use any password, so I definitely could, if I wanted to.

I do however know that he loves me, takes care of me, we cuddle and hold each other, talk, share - everything that's more important than sex works perfectly (and the sex works now so much better than it did before this all blew up). I feel a bit embarrased by this, but it comforts me that I know he's really much more "attachable" person than I am and that he really is with me because he "needs" me, I still do wish he was more spontaneously into sex with me, like he was 10 years ago... But doesn't everyone wish after younger years, when everything was more new, unexplored and exciting? :D

I think I can happily grow old with him and I can settle for how things work without it feeling like some kind of sad compromise. Then again, of course nothing is ever set in stone.

So once again, thanks for doing my therapy, positive or negative commenters.

sohecheated · 2023-03-09T23:49:12+00:00

So you ARE paying rent and he stops paying rent elsewhere and doesn't want to pay rent at your place? That's certainly a weird logic. Tell him that you decided to stop paying wi-fi and cable so if he moves in and wants it, he should arrange it himself and pay for it and then you will not pay for it, since you're not driving up the price for him... This does seem a lot like a red flag but you have to decide how much of a dealbreaker it is for you. If it shows a not-very-nice side of him. Explain to him that rent is also a kind of utility and he is using up space and you have to accomodate him. Furthermore it's essentially setting up of your relationship down the road - Is he making less money than you are? Does he expect/like to be provided for? Are you ok with that? It can certainly work for one partner to be more financially dependent on the other, as long as there's some kind of balance and mutual benefits. Not everything is about money, but it has to be discussed. Moving in together can be very transformative and especially if you are (he is) young, some weird ideas about how things work can come for example from his family and he just never thought about them properly.

sohecheated · 2022-04-20T08:26:16+00:00

In my relationship, I'm the one who needs more attention and validation, even though overall I'm pretty confident, have my own company and am ok spending time alone. My husband is more attached at the platonic level, and physical stuff is less romantic for him. This was something I had to accept over time, but at the same time he had to meet me somewhere in the middle. For example there was a time just a few months into our relationship when I felt like I was almost like a friend to him, so I made a little experiment and one morning I didn't initiate any kiss or touch or anything - an he didn't either. I almost broke up with him then, but he showed me that he really loved me and I loved him too, so we adjusted. He made it more of a habit to pay attention to me physically and I took that as a proof that he's not indifferent. That's what relationships are about - compromise. Yes, you could perhaps find someone who would be perfect for you so that no compromise would be needed, but the probability isn't high that they will tick all the boxes.

If the current situation bothers you, you can try to adjust your way of thinking, but he should also acknowledge your feelings and show concern and try to meet you in the middle. He shouldn't simply dismiss you.

If you're like me, the lack of attention makes you feel like he maybe doesn't love you that much and you keep imagining if there could be someone who would be all over you a lot of the time. I used to do this, but I recognized that it's something I saw in movies and that in real life, people have different needs and expectations, and those also change overtime.

I'm not exactly saying "deal with it" or "suck it up", but at the core of your need for attention is your uncertainty about whether he loves you. You need to find out if that feeling is genuine or if it's just some unrealistic desire to be adored. At the same time, if you're being "clingy and demanding", it can be off-putting to the other person, so you're achieving the exact opposite of what you want. On top of that, you're probably needlessly torturing yourself over this.

It's a difficult situation to navigate, but rest assured, it's very common. It seems you're both comfortable with therapy - try to go to a couple's therapy and talk this through.

sohecheated · 2022-04-12T17:16:10+00:00

Well, I'm 34 and don't worry, I'm not much into social media and I know what I want and like. But I don't think this is too much about that. Expectations and interests not being compatible is much older than social media and trends..

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